Would You Rather Be Alone? (45)
cutemom475 Threads 56 PostsWould you rather be alone/single for the rest of your life, then be in a wrong relationship with the wrong man? As for me I choose to be alone for the rest of my life because all I have come across on the dating sites are men who are liars, that play mind games, or sounded like they would be abusive in a relationship.
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Cute, don't give up! Being alone is ok, but I don't want to stay that way the rest of my life. My last relationship was wonderful for the 1st 10 years of the 22 year marriage. I was more lonely those last 12 years than I have been since the divorce. Being lonely is a whole lot different than being alone. I like my quite time, but sometimes it gets too quite around here.
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I would much rather be alone than try to live with the wrong person.
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I have to agree with Lake on this one Cute. There is nothing worse than loveless relatioships. I call them sentences. Like Lake said she served 12 years. I have not been with a woman who has truely loved me in many years, but that just makes me want to try harder.
If all you can meet are jerks than it's best to stay alone, but don't streotype men as all being bad, because it is simply not the case. There are lots of good men out there all you have to do is find one. It's not easy for us guys either you know. Especially a man with a child to raise such as myself. He is my priority in life for now and nothing else really matters. If I meet someone great. If not it's no big deal.
Hang in there. People play games all of the time, the key is you have to win one once in a while.
Pete
If all you can meet are jerks than it's best to stay alone, but don't streotype men as all being bad, because it is simply not the case. There are lots of good men out there all you have to do is find one. It's not easy for us guys either you know. Especially a man with a child to raise such as myself. He is my priority in life for now and nothing else really matters. If I meet someone great. If not it's no big deal.
Hang in there. People play games all of the time, the key is you have to win one once in a while.
Pete
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Well I cant say that I exactly like being alone, But I would rather be alone than in a relationship in which either one was unhappy. No I dont like mind games or anything like that either, but if the situation calls for it you must do what is needed to get through. I have been single for about 3 years now. No piticular reason other than I dont want the possible heartache that is involved!
Sam
Sam
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Friendship or bust.
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i would rather be alone than with a jerk.(been there done that)but i know all guys arent jerks so i keep plugging.I'm with pete ,if someone comes along great if not thats okay too.
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SOMETIMES!!
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most definately alone!
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I'd rather be lonely alone than lonely while I'm with someone.
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Hmmmm, interesting
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If I really ever had a choice I'd agree with Lionhearted, but as I have no real choice it's somewhat academic; what I really dislike about it is what Lake said about the quiet; it becomes as silent as a grave with no one to ever talk with or ever do anything with someone, especially on those times when you're in a good jubilent mood and all you have is utter silence around you but I do know that in the long run it is better than having someonearound that you would rather not. I learned that a long time ago when I settled for anyone is better than no one way.
I have watched people and their silly and vain games, and also found out that I despise the games and therefore will not play them. Hell with them.In compromising with the position of silence and anyone is better than no one, this is as far as I can go; it is hard to change after a lifetime of it or losing games that I'm no good at.:)
I have watched people and their silly and vain games, and also found out that I despise the games and therefore will not play them. Hell with them.In compromising with the position of silence and anyone is better than no one, this is as far as I can go; it is hard to change after a lifetime of it or losing games that I'm no good at.:)
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Interesting
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Solitaire, I can remember just having someone there was nice whether they talked or not. I would read my book and she would read hers. We would both look up from time to time and smile each other then go back to what we was reading. Have you ever had times like that?
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Oh My God then Im in the wroug Place. I dont want to be alone I hate it Sad here, Yes I know some can be liars, woman are the same, Oh know, I didnt know playing mind games,or sounded like they would be abusive in a relationship, I thought is was mental in your head that makes people dont want to try and they give up on relationship and life. I could be wroug
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I know from living with a very intolerable person that it was a relief to get away. I am also not the type to jump right into another realtionship. I learned that lesson the hard way with my ex-husband where things happened too quickly. Some people can't stand being alone and they need someone right away. The only guy I've ever lived with was my ex-husband...lol. I wasn't going to live with a man who was not totally committed to me with having children in the house. That's just me though.
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I used to be in a rush when I first got here but I have met so many friends to talk with I don't feel alone any more. I got my dog Mo and he is very affectionate. His french kisses are not really that good though, lol. He craves attention and is kind of clingy but I give him a little attention and then he leaves me alone. I was looking at Walmart for a big stuffed bugs bunny but could not find one, lol. I am going to get me some more of them big stuffed pillows. They don't always stay fluffy though and wear out. I would like to invent a pillow that would stay fluffy.
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Rainbow if you do go. Can you pick me one up to. My pillows sucks and they are getting down.
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Sure thing. I keep piling the pillows up but after a while you got all these pillows and as you know all the pillow cases have to be washed. I bet after a while you could have a whole load of just pillow cases, lol.
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Well Roy I have never minced words before and I am not going to start now.
Give yourself I big ole pat on your back ok. You are so great at making me look bad and carrying on to all your friends about me.
Do you tell both sides.. do you tell them everything we have shared .. I bet NO!
I left after everyone got on me about being personal here. Well you have been posting personal about me. What goes on with my marriage is none of your friends business.. they have no idea about what you know and my life. My marriage was over long before I met you and came here. Its my choice how I end it, etc..
You and I decided to be friends. I loved you very much and we have shared alot. You admitted that yourself.. I called you every day because I cared.. When I fixed you with Peggy I made it very clear I loved you and wanted to be there for you and friends. I wanted to have Peggy as a friend until she spouted off a bunch of crap.
Does it make you feel good to go to friends and have them convince you to block me over and over again. Like I this horrible person. I was doing nothing wrong... you know a normal person would have come to me and said plain out this is not working and maybe we should not talk anymore. I could respect that alot more. I cannot believe you went to such lengths to change your phone number lol. YOu think that bad of me that I would have called if asked not to and wasted more of my money and time caring about you. I may be a little dense when it comes to you but I am not like that. Just to make the record straight.
You are proud of me because I meantioned my husband in a poem..,you think everything is all better because I do not talk to you anymore. Geez.. whatever. He hurts my feelings and does not give me what I need.. I do not hate him and I am not trashing him.. we just do not have a loving marriage.
You have made your point to me..the sweet caring man I thought you were.. not.. ok.. happy. You let others rule your head. YOu know if you talk to me you will feel that connection again. ALl we were was friends.. we established that.
Merry Christmas.. ty for thinking so little of me after everything we have shared.. now everyone knows.. there we go.. sorry for caring and being there. Silly me!!
Give yourself I big ole pat on your back ok. You are so great at making me look bad and carrying on to all your friends about me.
Do you tell both sides.. do you tell them everything we have shared .. I bet NO!
I left after everyone got on me about being personal here. Well you have been posting personal about me. What goes on with my marriage is none of your friends business.. they have no idea about what you know and my life. My marriage was over long before I met you and came here. Its my choice how I end it, etc..
You and I decided to be friends. I loved you very much and we have shared alot. You admitted that yourself.. I called you every day because I cared.. When I fixed you with Peggy I made it very clear I loved you and wanted to be there for you and friends. I wanted to have Peggy as a friend until she spouted off a bunch of crap.
Does it make you feel good to go to friends and have them convince you to block me over and over again. Like I this horrible person. I was doing nothing wrong... you know a normal person would have come to me and said plain out this is not working and maybe we should not talk anymore. I could respect that alot more. I cannot believe you went to such lengths to change your phone number lol. YOu think that bad of me that I would have called if asked not to and wasted more of my money and time caring about you. I may be a little dense when it comes to you but I am not like that. Just to make the record straight.
You are proud of me because I meantioned my husband in a poem..,you think everything is all better because I do not talk to you anymore. Geez.. whatever. He hurts my feelings and does not give me what I need.. I do not hate him and I am not trashing him.. we just do not have a loving marriage.
You have made your point to me..the sweet caring man I thought you were.. not.. ok.. happy. You let others rule your head. YOu know if you talk to me you will feel that connection again. ALl we were was friends.. we established that.
Merry Christmas.. ty for thinking so little of me after everything we have shared.. now everyone knows.. there we go.. sorry for caring and being there. Silly me!!
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