The Web Experience.......... (4)
elegantladyLondon, Greater London, England UK9 Threads 104 PostsI wish I could say that my experience on the web has been great, on the contrary it has been disappointing and heartbreaking. Deception and dishonesty runs rampant here, people aren't who they say they are and the game playing is simply amazing! I guess it wouldn't bother me so much if people didn't present themselves as genuine and sincere. What attracts you to an ad? You see that there are common interests but more importantly the person placing the ad states that they are "honest, sincere, good sense of humour", etc. More often than not I have found that it is just a way to get you to send photos to them and perhaps their hoping for the opportunity to exchange some juicy email. As an older person what surprises me most is that most of the game playing is done by men in their 50's and 60's, you would think by the time they reach that age they would be mature. They lie about everything, I had the experience with someone who presented themselves as single and after months of letter exchanging, my letters were intervened by his wife. This was shocking and depressing as I was in the process of flying to Norway to meet him. I wish someone could explain to me why men feel it necessary to play with someone's emotions? I have always been honest, upfront, kind, loving, etc., but what do I get in return, the smiling faces that stab you in the back. Further, why can't men say what they really want? If all they want is a BJ, then Damn it, say it! If all they want is a F----, then be man enough to say it! If they're not interested in a long term relationship then why place the ad under that category? There is no such thing as "love at first sight" or falling in love on the web without actually spending time with someone in person. The web affords people the ability to connect with people they otherwise may never have the opportunity to do so. There have been fairytale moments reported by people who have been fortunate to have made a love connection and I applaud them. But I would really like to hear from people who have had similar experiences, maybe a support group is in order, I don't know. Maybe there is someone out there who can tell me not to give up, maybe someone has an answer for what goes on here. All I can say is this is indeed a web that can entangle you.....don't get caught up!
hunnybunny i can say that not all are the same, ive met a few people on this site and even dated one for 3 months and they are as genuine in person as they are on the forums and i would like to think that i am to,but its like any were sweetie,wether its on the net or in person,there will be people who are not what they seam,when i first come on to this site, i came on purly just to meet friends altho 3 moths down the line i found my self dating someone,and even tho were not together now, shes still a lovely person that as turned out to be a good friend,all i can say to you hunnybunny is dont give up,
Hiya Elegantlady, I'm afraid to have to say that I agree with a lot that you say. I know how upset and shocked you must have felt finding out from his wife he was married whilst you were on your way to see him. I had a similar experience 2 years ago, in that I started seeing a bloke from Bolton who I'd met online who was supposedly single, then 3 months later I found out he had a girlfriend all along. Funnily enough when that happened to me I too seriously thought of starting a support group as I hear same horror stories like yours and mine time and time again. Ironically enough I've just had similar farce this week with a guy from Liverpool, all was going well until two days ago when a woman contacts me and says he's on msn from 1am-5.30am with her, also was supposed to meet her at weekend, she also knew his number and also a few things about me and I could tell she wasn't lying, then when I confronted him about it he turned all defensive and tried to blame it all on me. But to be honest, I'm thankful I found out from the start what type of a bloke he is, before I met him. Also, this other woman who I just mentioned said she had the experience of seeing a bloke off here for a couple of months as he said he was single, then two months later his wife contacted her and thats how she found out. However, I don't want to come across as sounding all negative and bitter so I will tell you that two of my mates met their husbands online and are still with them. Ones been married 5 years and the other ones lived with hers for three years, so it just shows it CAN work and not ALL men are like that. I get the feeling the Norway thing was quite recent or you had some other online dating disaster quite recently as you seem very hurt and disillusioned about the whole thing. Time will heal though, don't let all of this get you down, laugh at it all, I mean it beats crying anyday. Also, don't tar all the men with same brush otherwise when the right one does come along for you you'll miss him but also don't be too gullible either, just be careful but not paranoid otherwise if you're left with hangups and issues it means the bad ones have left their mark on you, it means they've won. I know some lovely men in real life through work or everyday life, I also have some men online who are great mates and very supportive to me at times and they wouldn't dream of cheating on their wives or partners so honestly there are some about. Anyway, good luck and feel free to message me if you ever need someone to talk about it all 
Hi Elegantlady
I'm so sorry you have had such an unpleasant experience, with one of the twerps of the world.
Please don't give up, they aren't all like that, there are some very nice, genuine fellas out there.
I can't offer many words of wisdom or good advice, but I can offer you a big hug
I'm so sorry you have had such an unpleasant experience, with one of the twerps of the world.
Please don't give up, they aren't all like that, there are some very nice, genuine fellas out there.
I can't offer many words of wisdom or good advice, but I can offer you a big hug
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