Frustrations are ever so present these days ( Archived) (47)

I like trying to help others here. This is one of the times I could use some help of my own.

Obviously I'm still single. I am so tired of being that way. I have become a more open person of late. I have asked a handfull of women I've been intrested in, to go out. I haven't gotten any takers. I hate to get shot down, but hey, I tried.

I ran into a gal I asked out a couple months ago, not too long ago. When I asked her, she basically gave me the run around, and toyed with my emotions. When I recently ran into her, she quickly got my attention, and introduced me to her new boyfriend. UGH!! I had talked to her, and befriended her a long while back. The whole time I felt I had a good chance, but was scared to ask. Call it waiting too long, or whatever. We work at the same place, different departments. Last week, she came by my area. The guy I work with hollered at me, and I turned to see her waiting to get my attention to say hi to me. What the hell? I'm still friends with her, but she acts so weird. It's like she's intrested, but when I try to ask her out, she toys with me. I don't get it.

A couple weeks ago, me and my 2 best friends went out. We went to the local kareokee spot. It is a very laid back, good atmosphere. I don't think it is one of those typical "bars". I know a lot of people there that are awesome. I wouldn't shy away from meeting a woman there. I had 2 girls show intrest that night. The one sent her friend to tell me she thought I was "hot". I was wondering what she was drinking, cause I wanted what she was having, lol. I thought cool, she was cute. I got out on the dance floor with my buddies, and was moving over to ask her to dance, when I had another girl start dancing on me. At this point the confusion grew. This doesn't happen to me. The other girl, "Brandi", said her friend told her to dance with me. Her friend said I was a good guy, but be carefull. She told me her friend knew me. I couldn't place her for the life of me, and still cannot. "Brandi" was intrested, no doubt, she told me so. When I later asked her for her number, and if she would like to hang out sometime, she gave me the run around. She said she had to ask her friend. You're an adult, make up your own mind!!!! She said she would be out the following week, but wasn't. I was supposedly gonna hang out with her, dance, maybe sing a song or something.UGH!!!!

I've kept my eyes open in numerous places, but the same results. If any of you are familiar about me, I think you have a general understanding of the type of man I am. Why is it I always go down the same road, no matter where I am?
What the hell is so wrong with me, I cannot find someone? A few months back I had a handful of dates, but no serious prospects.

I would love some insight to what I must be doing wrong. I welcome any pointers as well. Thanks, Shaun

dammit Shaun there is nothing wrong with you that Alexandra's Academy couldn't polish up a bit....



i think those american girls must be high on crack or something...


you are wonderful and sincere and refreshing sort of lol...



sometimes when you finally give up the scent

it comes running after you!

the only thing i would prolly assist you in altering ... is your taste in the wrong women

Alex,
Thank you. I am glad I didn't make you upset with me over a prior thread. All the help and advise you have, fire away. I don't know if it's my taste in women that's the problem, but maybe it is. I think it's the wrong women that have taste in me, cause that seems to be what I attract. Don't have a clue why. I dunno.

ohhh poor baby ohio,mate come here ill give u a hug,ok buddy im gonna help you out,mate the girls dont like you,we are gonna change all that,here we go .........girls really love cry baby nice guys,TRUST ME they do,so everyday cry your eyes out and tell everyone that will listen too you ,how sad you are and whats wrong with the girls not liking you,...........BANG in no time ull have all the girls runnin after you,no need to thank me,its been my pleasure helping out such a nice nice guy,dont mention it

waverider

I never asked for sarcasm, or a dumd a#$%%, now did I? If you are such a stud, then why are you here? A pic of your abs, if they are really yours, is ever so sad. If you expect women to fall for you because you have a six-pack, that's pathetic. obviously unlike you, I'm here to learn, and to help people, not be a smarta$&*#. I'm far from a "cry baby". You don't know me, so keep your stupidity to yourself. Intellegent comments only!

oh, and another thing....... Your overly conciediness will be your own demise. " look at my pic, it says it all" please, do you think women are really that gulible? Stay "down under" bro.

shauny baby i love ya,give us a kiss sweethart,hahaha,u kill me,hahaha.......shawny baby dont get so mad your suppose to be a nice sweet carebear remember......hahaha

the best i can offer is my own experience....

i was a kid that was destined to follow the tradition of my family..whether i liked it or not.... my mother handed me over at birth... so i began a program on my hardrive that said...


i am not good enough for my mother to want me enough to fight tradition...
of course it was untrue but that is what i unconsciously did with that info.

i started building an Alexandra that would be good enough no matter what...
that everyone would want...

by the time i was 14 i realized it made no difference....and the rebel was born

i didn't start examining my motives for whom i had developed into until then.. and i was angry
when i saw how set up i had been to
manufacture this persona....

the hard drive get programmed from birth/ conception even
till 2 yrs.
the software starts downloading early man and by the time we are around 7 we have a whole system full of other peoples programs running on our hard drive!


we develope our ego our defense mechanisms all based on our conditioning... it takes a fully developed ego to begin to disassemble the conditioning and reformat the hardrive

if you really are interested??!! pick up a book called "The Road Less Travelled" by Scott Peck

i think everyone here should read it seriously!

but i know you will gain much insight from it...
i pass it on to almost 80% of my patients

xxx alex