i always believed what they say about cheaters... if they'll do it with, you they'll do it to you.
some people have no business being married. if it was as hard to get married as it is to get divorced, i think a lot of people would be more serious about the commitment before they do it.
royalnavyportsmouth, Hampshire, England UK153 posts
whats the point in getting married if you wanna be with someone else, i thought the point in the whole marrige thing is, that you wanna spend the rest of your life with that person....i know when i do, il be with that person for life, and never even think of about it!its just ashame we all dont think like this...male and female
Yeah same here.. i've been cheated on and its not a good feeling so i would neva do it to anyone else... thats why i try to date no strings attached you no im kinda scared to settle down the guy i was with we were together for 2 years i thought he was the one.. but i guess not... so i've limited my self to flings since then
yeah same here its probably bad that i've had more partners since the break up then before it but i guess i needed it to help my self-esteem or something or im just making excuses and i was lonelly
royalnavyportsmouth, Hampshire, England UK153 posts
i was with a girl for 20 months, and just after 9/11 my ship had to deploy at short notice to afghanistan, for obvious reasons! which i had no problem with... but the girl at the time did, and to cut a long story short, i got a dear john in the post, finnishing wasnt the crap part, but cause she had met someone else. so im always a bit...dodghy, im just enjoyng my self, ive had relationships since then!! but nothing to serious, i just need a girl who understands my job
I'd imagine that it would be hard as hell for the both of you. Her not hearing from you not knowing if your ok it can get incrediblly stressful but if she really loved you and wanted to be with you it wouldn't matter suck it up or get out i'd say... and then she'd probably say something stupid like "you dont really love me if your leaving" <type of bull> it must suck im getting stressed out just talking about it
royalnavyportsmouth, Hampshire, England UK153 posts
bless ya, it does suck but that wasnt the reasons, i was phoneing every night, e-mailing, it wasnt as if i was out partying now was it!!!ha ha, all i can say is her loss, im not being big headed, but im a nice genuine guy, and i couldnt have been any nicer to her, she got spoiled. but if she dont want that then, im happy with her choice now, because im happy!
ive never understood why people cheat, if they dont like the person they are with enough that they cheat then why get with them in the first place
ive had women cheat on me and its not nice, i would never cheat on the person i was with, ever! if im with somone then its because i like her alot, so i wouldnt want to be with anyone else.
erinshaunalondon, Greater London, England UK140 posts
I guess when people decide to get married it is not in their thoughts to cheat.Marriages go wrong for all kinds of reasons and if a person feels unloved in their marriage they look elsewhere to fullfill their needs.Many years ago it was not so easy to get out of a marriage and often the couple stayed together "for the sake of the children"but this often led to very unhappy children and even more misery.It is never so easy for either person to walk away from a life built up together but as the old saying goes,,,,,,,,,"If you want to know me,come live with me"we never know what goes on behind closed doors"Cheating on your partner will never solve the problemn but often the bigger picture can tell a very sad story. Just my view
I know what it's like to be cheated on and wouldn't do that to whoever I'm with, it totally sucks. A woman I was seeing several years ago claimed she was committed to our relationship but I found I wasn't the only one she was "committed" to.
When I commit myself to someone, it is to that person only. I have had opportunities during my first and only marriage but passed them by. My parents were married for 40 years, till death do us part, which is how it ended. This is the type of marriage I want.
My ex (a Catholic) divorced me because she couldn't deal with my having a heart problem. She gave me the boot several months after I had a triple by-pass 12 years ago
cept if a woman wants power..or a man wants power,,,check out hillarry and slick willie i guess thats not cheating,,thats a "open marraige" cause they both go their own separate ways....and still married,,,i have a wife before she died,,we supported ourselves but if i want another woman i can and if she wants another man so its NOT cheating,,,thats the way it should be,,,why sneak around and bring home a disease...
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