Assertive Confrontation without Aggression ( Archived) (48)

Is there such a thing as assertive confrontation without aggression? Is it wise to even consider the fact that there is such a thing? When someone really ticks us off, it is our instinct to strike out, verbally or physically.

My take is to avoid all confrontation that is not absolutely necessary, and when that is not possible, at least pick your fights. Even the smallest of disagreements with someone always has the potential for ending in disaster.

Ohhhhhh I don't tolerate drama at all. I avoid it at all costs. "It takes a bigger person to walk away, than to stand there and fight!" I will state my opinion though. If drama comes from that, I'm gone!

Sun Tzu on the Art of War :)

I guess there is going to be a little aggression while being assertive if someone feels strongly enough about getting their point across and is passionate about a subject.

Sometimes I think it is wiser just to listen and let them have their say without alot of rebuttal if the subject matter is petty. Othertimes you have to stick up for your convictions, especially when it concerns what you will and will not tolerate.

The best way is if people can listen to each other and respect each others opinions and views without getting all bent out of shape. If the confrontor needs to criticize something do it constructively.

Avoiding confrontation can lead to problems too. The other person can get even more angry because they are not given an opportunity to release their feelings and that can lead to an even bigger explosion later. The person avoiding may be missing out on an opp0ortunity to understand the other person.

I agree you have to pick your fights sometimes. If the other person is just argunig to argue, walk away.

I dunno? lol

Yes, listen to what they have to say and pay close attention. Then when they are done ranting then it is your turn. There is always two sides to every story just like Karla told me. Forget about right or wrong because that might just be somebody's opinion. Deal with the issue at hand. Live in the moment. If it works don't fix it but if it is broke fix it. A small problem can lead to bigger problems.

How about a passive aggressive stance...a person gets "paid back" but never sees it coming.

I try to avoid things as much as possible. But when someone needs to be put in place, game on. I don't get into physical fights if avoidable, but I will stand my ground and defend myself if need be. I would prefer to mentally defeat my foe. I'm sure there will be some sort of reference to Waverider and myself now. Hey what can I say, he just can't stand defeat, LOL.

I am a easy-going, laid-back person by nature.

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