not ready for relationship (31)
lisajanesliema, Majjistral Malta44 Threads 1 Polls 717 PostsCan somebody tell me why people join dating sites like connecting singles saying they want to meet/date new people. than when you go on a couple of dates with them have a good time and a laugh and everything seems to progressing nicely, they than turn around and tell you that they are very sorry but that they are not ready to be in a relationship.
Amy be it was getting too intense too quickly and they weren't ready genuinely...
Possibly letting the other party down easily, breaking off contact as they don't think it'll work out
I wouldn't beleive that is the real reason...however you have to appreciate the person's diplomacy in finding a "good" excuse to let you down gently. Having said that, I'd rather know the truth, so just hit me with it guys!
Maybe, they really just wanted to be friends lady.
"so just hit me with it guys!"
*shrug* If you say so *brings round a large mallet*
*shrug* If you say so *brings round a large mallet*
all good reasons in themselves ... another reason is the chemistry isnt exactly on how they would like it
could be they r not dating exclusively with you...
could be lots of things ..still i believe if ur dealing with a persons feelings its best to be truthfull ..at least it gives a proper sense of closure for both parties and noone is left wondering wth went wrong?!
but ofc to do it gently and steadily ...
ofc sometimes the person who wants to call it quits rarely wants to hurt the opposite person and sometimes these break ups can be drawn out affiars...
Imo its best to be striaght and simple so as everyone knows exactly what has happened and why it wont work out ... after all the opposite person was putting just as much effort time and feeling into it as well and respect is duely deserved, at the end of the day its still gonna hurt no matter what but we can at least blunt the pain by bieng honest with our intended date and at least honest with ourselves also
could be they r not dating exclusively with you...
could be lots of things ..still i believe if ur dealing with a persons feelings its best to be truthfull ..at least it gives a proper sense of closure for both parties and noone is left wondering wth went wrong?!
but ofc to do it gently and steadily ... ofc sometimes the person who wants to call it quits rarely wants to hurt the opposite person and sometimes these break ups can be drawn out affiars...
Imo its best to be striaght and simple so as everyone knows exactly what has happened and why it wont work out ... after all the opposite person was putting just as much effort time and feeling into it as well and respect is duely deserved, at the end of the day its still gonna hurt no matter what but we can at least blunt the pain by bieng honest with our intended date and at least honest with ourselves also
Maybe it is precisely for that Lisajane....that they want to meet/date new people, but want to meet/date as many people as they can, and not get stuck with the first or second person they date.
Going into a relationship is a very serious matter, and people who have got badly burnt from such experiences are very reluctant to enter into new obligations.
I go through the profiles of many singles. As soon as I read "looking for lasting serious relationship, or marriage, I skip to the next...not interested!
There are very few people on CS that I would ever contemplate of having a serious long term relationship with, but there have the same problem, they are afraid to go into such relationships
Going into a relationship is a very serious matter, and people who have got badly burnt from such experiences are very reluctant to enter into new obligations.
I go through the profiles of many singles. As soon as I read "looking for lasting serious relationship, or marriage, I skip to the next...not interested!
There are very few people on CS that I would ever contemplate of having a serious long term relationship with, but there have the same problem, they are afraid to go into such relationships
Perdet'
Chyort poberi!
well thank you for all your advice.
it did recently happen to me this, but i understood the situation he was in.
but this thing does happen alot not just on cs. i think like brunette if the spark is not there than just be honest instead of making up excuses like not ready for a relationship.
it did recently happen to me this, but i understood the situation he was in.
but this thing does happen alot not just on cs. i think like brunette if the spark is not there than just be honest instead of making up excuses like not ready for a relationship.
That´s a diplomatic excuse, the true answer would be- you are the wrong (wo)man.That´s the easiest way to get rid of someone
Since youre the only one that understood what I meant without being literal, thank you for wording it for me 
Dont worry Lisa, plenty of fish in the sea....good luck girl
Dont worry Lisa, plenty of fish in the sea....good luck girl
Happy fishing,Lisa - just don't catch a giant squid
Yup 
It’s hard to say you love someone and it’s even harder to say you don’t.
Let’s face it, women are more likely to be breathtakingly honest and say “I like you as a friend”, “I cannot see this relationship heading anywhere”, “Sorry you’re not my type”. “Join a circus”
It’s men that have to, either be diplomatic about the whole issue, or else bravely run away.
Let’s face it, women are more likely to be breathtakingly honest and say “I like you as a friend”, “I cannot see this relationship heading anywhere”, “Sorry you’re not my type”. “Join a circus”
It’s men that have to, either be diplomatic about the whole issue, or else bravely run away.
hey - you attacked ME for not being totally logical, my very clever friend......do tell me please how one can bravely run away?
Admit it ladies - you mean it when you say 'I just want you as a friend' but when you scream 'I hate you!' you feel more PASSIONATELY about the man! 
Would you rather suggest the guy saying: "You're ok to chat to and I'd do you too, but I can't go out with you on a serious relationship, you're too ugly for me to be seen around with!" Coz not every girl is to every man's fancy (and the other way round, mind you!), if you know what I mean! Not saying this here was the case, mind you, but that sometimes IS the case!
I mean, not everyone has the guts to say "Sorry, you're not my type!" especially after having spent some time chatting over the internet and everything went well over a keyboard!
I mean, not everyone has the guts to say "Sorry, you're not my type!" especially after having spent some time chatting over the internet and everything went well over a keyboard!
Brave Sir Robin ran away.
Bravely ran away, away!
When danger reared its ugly head,
He bravely turned his tail and fled.
Yes, brave Sir Robin turned about
And gallantly he chickened out.
Bravely taking to his feet
He beat a very brave retreat,
Bravest of the brave, Sir Robin!
Bravely ran away, away!
When danger reared its ugly head,
He bravely turned his tail and fled.
Yes, brave Sir Robin turned about
And gallantly he chickened out.
Bravely taking to his feet
He beat a very brave retreat,
Bravest of the brave, Sir Robin!
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