Advice Please? (13)
have you tried drinking in a different place
Well thats the thing, like i said there isn't many bars/clubs in lincoln and the ones that are most popular are the ones we both go in, other ones are just not good enough...
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will have a think and see what we can come up with
If you're sure there's no way you'll get back together with her then you're just wasting time and missing out on meeting someone else whos nice.
You've really got to move on... so either go drinking in another town or move to another town where you don't keep bumping into her
You've really got to move on... so either go drinking in another town or move to another town where you don't keep bumping into her
Moving on is somthing i want to do alot!!!
Moving towns is abit drastic but i can see where your coming from. I think i need to just blank it out of my mind and try and meet somebody... i know theres no chance of us getting back together she's a totally different person now. so.... im sure it will work out eventually, hence why i've joined a singles website.
Thanks darling anyway for that....
Sam2385
Moving towns is abit drastic but i can see where your coming from. I think i need to just blank it out of my mind and try and meet somebody... i know theres no chance of us getting back together she's a totally different person now. so.... im sure it will work out eventually, hence why i've joined a singles website.
Thanks darling anyway for that....
Sam2385
That's okay and at least I made you laugh
and at least I made you laugh 
I don't think there are any quick fixes Sam, just give yourself time 
If you know you're are going to kick off, try not to put yourself in that situation. I know its a bit of a drag, but If you are both in the same pub/club, can you not move on to somewhere different? She can only be in one place at a time.
At least you won't have salt rubbed in your wound, by avoiding her.
Hope it gets easier for you soon
If you know you're are going to kick off, try not to put yourself in that situation. I know its a bit of a drag, but If you are both in the same pub/club, can you not move on to somewhere different? She can only be in one place at a time.
At least you won't have salt rubbed in your wound, by avoiding her.
Hope it gets easier for you soon
TIME,it takes time,love is not a light switch you just turn on and off,you have a grieving process to go through,each day that passes gets easier with time.
Keep your chin up.
Keep your chin up.
Hi Sam,
I have no idea how many replies to your post you have received so you may well be sorted by now and therefore you can delete this message! However, I really felt for you... still being in love with someone after its long over. Looking at your picture I think I am a lot older than you, but unrequited love still hurts..no matter how old you are! However, you know in your heart that you have to move on from this girl.... although that is always easier said than done. You are quite simply wasting your life by investing effort and heartache into a person who obviously isnt the 'one' for you, and, because of that is probably preventing you from finding the right girl for you. Don't you think that you might be in the 'habit' of being a bit obsessive towards her. Sometimes things get out of hand because our head lets them get that way. Its the easiest thing in the world to say 'let go' and yet so difficult to do..but you MUST do it. You are wasting your life on someone who is obviously not caring enough to want you and is oblivious to the wonderful guy you most probably are.
Wish you the best and hope you find the right girl for you and that you fall in love all over again with someone who will give you the love that you deserve...it will happen, promise you!
I have no idea how many replies to your post you have received so you may well be sorted by now and therefore you can delete this message! However, I really felt for you... still being in love with someone after its long over. Looking at your picture I think I am a lot older than you, but unrequited love still hurts..no matter how old you are! However, you know in your heart that you have to move on from this girl.... although that is always easier said than done. You are quite simply wasting your life by investing effort and heartache into a person who obviously isnt the 'one' for you, and, because of that is probably preventing you from finding the right girl for you. Don't you think that you might be in the 'habit' of being a bit obsessive towards her. Sometimes things get out of hand because our head lets them get that way. Its the easiest thing in the world to say 'let go' and yet so difficult to do..but you MUST do it. You are wasting your life on someone who is obviously not caring enough to want you and is oblivious to the wonderful guy you most probably are.
Wish you the best and hope you find the right girl for you and that you fall in love all over again with someone who will give you the love that you deserve...it will happen, promise you!
Hi Sam.
I am going to be really true full with you here mate. Love works in a two direction if if stops from one direction there is nothing you can do mate trust me mate i have been there. As long as you go on thinking like you are, you will end up
I don't think you are that type of guy. Look at it in another way. It is not you that have lost her. It is her lose, i think one day she will see that, when you have found someone else.
Listen to what the girls are saying on the site. Look around you open your eyes and you will see there are plenty of women interested in you. Just take off the blinkers.
Good luck mate. let us know how you get on.
I am going to be really true full with you here mate. Love works in a two direction if if stops from one direction there is nothing you can do mate trust me mate i have been there. As long as you go on thinking like you are, you will end up
I don't think you are that type of guy. Look at it in another way. It is not you that have lost her. It is her lose, i think one day she will see that, when you have found someone else.
Listen to what the girls are saying on the site. Look around you open your eyes and you will see there are plenty of women interested in you. Just take off the blinkers.
Good luck mate. let us know how you get on.
Hi Sam
I think you are well on the way to recovery now mate, the fact that you realise there is a problem is a good thing, its all part of getting older.
As soon as you see her just go to a different bar, just make this an automatic thing. You will feel much better and as soon as you get your head around the fact that it is over the sooner you will be in the frame of mind to realise that there are plenty of great women out there.
Trust me mate when the red mist clears and you have a new woman who ticks all your boxes, you’ll look back on this and think why was I so hung up on her.
Good Luck
I think you are well on the way to recovery now mate, the fact that you realise there is a problem is a good thing, its all part of getting older.
As soon as you see her just go to a different bar, just make this an automatic thing. You will feel much better and as soon as you get your head around the fact that it is over the sooner you will be in the frame of mind to realise that there are plenty of great women out there.
Trust me mate when the red mist clears and you have a new woman who ticks all your boxes, you’ll look back on this and think why was I so hung up on her.
Good Luck
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I'm Sam for those who havent chatted to me before. Need a little advice on how to fall out of love with a certain person.
About a year and a few months ago i split up with a girl who i had beem with for 2 1/2 years. Brillaint relationship but going down hill towards the end.... it was a nutral split we both sat down and discussed everything. Right, to the point...
Since then i have just not stopped thinking about her, and every girl i meet and it feels like its going somewhere i bail out because of this reason... I do see my ex ususally weekends, nights out etc.. but that cant be helped with going in the same bars/clubs as her. Lincolns a small city and theres not alot to choose from bar/club wise. Everytime i see her either dancing/kissing another lad the jelousy kicks in 'big style' i mean i get agressive towards the lad shes dancing with, who i know is totally inocent in the matter but i cant seem to help it. this only usually occurs when i've had a drink i must admit but, well you know.
I need some advice from somebody whos maybe been in this situation or simlar, its beem over a year now and im still 100% in love with her. yet she will not take me back due to complicated matters. Anyone who can help me please do.
Thanks for reading....
Sam2385