Okay here's the Scenario... (20)
blackneckbaby14 Threads 356 PostsAnd this is to all ladies and gents because I'm sure the gents have experienced this as well. Okay have you ever been browsing through profiles reading them and viewing pictures and then you come across one that describes themselves exactly like what your looking for?!? Well I came across a profile in here of a guy and man o man lol he is everything and then some. well here's me getting all gitty! lol so I send him an e-mail and surprisingly he e-mails back. and he told me he didn't know what he wanted right now and was just seeing whats out there. which is cool and very understandable. But if you feel that he/she is the right one for you wouldn't you not want to let them get away from you? meaning ya know keeping in touch with them and stuff?!? I would love to continue to stay friends with this guy but WOW dunno if I could bear it? What do yall think?
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Sure you should keep in touch but don't be "pushy" if u know what I mean... Be a friend.. drop him a line from time to time saying "Hi, How have u been, etc." NOT every day, just once in a while. Sounds like he doesn't want to rush into anything... so lay off any pressure but just try to be a friend...
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cool thanks. I was thinking the same thing because I have been pushy before and it got me no where and I don't want to do that again.
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The feeling of the prospect of love is thrilling and I know what you mean.
I would try to be a little cautious though since his profile, picture and brief introduction are the liner notes of the book. There are still 37 chapters to decipher.
I don't mean to damped the feeling of infatuation I'm just saying, guard your sweet heart.....
Roxanne
I would try to be a little cautious though since his profile, picture and brief introduction are the liner notes of the book. There are still 37 chapters to decipher.
I don't mean to damped the feeling of infatuation I'm just saying, guard your sweet heart.....
Roxanne
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Reading about someone and actually knowing them are very different, yes a profile that is what you are looking for is great, but the imposter inside them comes out to play just as much as yours when you first start talking, take it as slow as you normally would.
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good point optional. I'm feelin ya.
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Yea.. I wasn't expecting love... all I did was send a flower one day.. saying I like your style..
We would email back and forth sometime... the more we talked to more my feelings grew! SOO... just give it some time... trying to be a friend first is the best way. Alot of times, I hear, and have learned that being a friend is the best... At least he was nice enough to email you back!
Keep it real Baby!
susan
We would email back and forth sometime... the more we talked to more my feelings grew! SOO... just give it some time... trying to be a friend first is the best way. Alot of times, I hear, and have learned that being a friend is the best... At least he was nice enough to email you back!
Keep it real Baby!
susan
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In case anyone is wondering what mean by the 'imposter', I'm not talking about a person who lies about who they are, I'm talking about the fact that we all stratigically ommit and edit ourselves in the hope that we are presenting what they really want, and everyone does it. Some to a lesser degree than others, and some hide it for longer and deeper, but sooner or later the real you will come creeping back.
All the little things that get on your nerves that you never seem to have minded before, the little personal bad habits of your own ect.
All the little things that get on your nerves that you never seem to have minded before, the little personal bad habits of your own ect.
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Very good points Optional. Sometimes it isn't just that we're editing ourselves for others but even for ourselves. We want to be someone we're not and hope that if we "pretend" then it'll become a reality.
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I have had that happen to me before. But unfortunatly the other didn't feel the same.
So not to scare or disappoint you but if he says he needs some time and is not really looking then let him have his space. Do let him know your interested in being friends with him and would love to get to know him more but make sure you do understand his needs and space as well. Because if you do get too pushy you will end up losing him for sure.
I know myself personaly I do not like being pressured into something I am not ready for. I had a guy not long after joining here that assumed we were made for one another and he was too fast for me and it scared the living daylights out of me. I made it clear to him that I was not ready to commit right now and needed more time to get to know him. Unfortunatly he did't turn out my type at all. Too clingy to be honest and that worried me because I had a bad experience with an ex who was too clingy and it ended ugly. Don't want to go through that again ever.
So be patient woman and even if it dosn't work out just means the next one is out there still waiting to find you.
Tracy :o)
So not to scare or disappoint you but if he says he needs some time and is not really looking then let him have his space. Do let him know your interested in being friends with him and would love to get to know him more but make sure you do understand his needs and space as well. Because if you do get too pushy you will end up losing him for sure.
I know myself personaly I do not like being pressured into something I am not ready for. I had a guy not long after joining here that assumed we were made for one another and he was too fast for me and it scared the living daylights out of me. I made it clear to him that I was not ready to commit right now and needed more time to get to know him. Unfortunatly he did't turn out my type at all. Too clingy to be honest and that worried me because I had a bad experience with an ex who was too clingy and it ended ugly. Don't want to go through that again ever.
So be patient woman and even if it dosn't work out just means the next one is out there still waiting to find you.
Tracy :o)
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oh hony stay friends...how many times dose our hearts talk to us...dont let anyone tell you differnt...you know yourself...and if this guy feels like the guy...then stay in touch...but not to touchy...just enough to let him know ya know... I hope this helps..
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well i guess it comes down to
will you wonder what would of happened if
the rest of your life
or can you let it slip by without the curiousity bothering you
making you shouldof on your self for the rest of your days
just a thought after all
what do i know
will you wonder what would of happened if
the rest of your life
or can you let it slip by without the curiousity bothering you
making you shouldof on your self for the rest of your days
just a thought after all
what do i know
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WOW thanks tracy. I have ran into lots of them well not specifically here haven't been here very long but I have ran into those clingy types
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thanks lily that was very nice.
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man I have felt like this many a time.
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Can't add much to what has already been said; but I'll be rooting for your side.
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thanks hun. ;-)
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Many thanks to all that has replied. Helps alot getting other peeps views opninons and thoughts. I mean what are the forums for if you can't hear what other people think ya know :-). I'm just gonna kick back and keep on keepin on. When I e-mailed the guy he said he was fixing to ditch the site because he said he wasn't getting noticed. that statement kinda made me think a little but I wasn't gonna jump to any conclusions just e-mailed him to see if you would respond back and he did so, but dunno how long he will stick around since I was the only person that has contacted him.
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I say jump his bones and get it over with, whether he wants to or not...LOL
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LMFAO!!!!! dun give me any ideas Jini lol BAD THOUGHTS BAD THOUGHTS!!!! LOL
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