I have a question mainly for the women and I certainly value the opinions of all the men too but the question is not directed towards men. I was born disabled but was raised in a normal environment around normal people, so it's very hard to see myself as being disabled because I am able to do most anything anyone one else can do but maybe a little differently. I am extremely smart own 2 real estate businesses and drive all over the U.S. whenever I feel like it.
My question is: "Would you willing date a disabled man, knowing that he's different but doesn't act differently and treats a woman like a queen?", and, "How far would you go depending on your comfort level?"
Just thought I'd ask and if you're not comfortable answering, that's cool too. I am curious to know what other's viewpoints are because I only know mine and have never really understood how other people feel about this subject.
I got into a nast debate in the blogs over a similar issue. But people want honesty....that's what they get. The other issue was a woman with no breasts.
Excellent Question. I have good friend in the same boat you are in. When you are born disabled, you h aven't different outlook then someone that became disabled.
You're both right. It's called V.A.T.E.R. Syndrome. The Dr.'s couldn't figure out what to call it so they included varying disabilities together and just used the initials to create up a name. My case file extends all over the world and in many medical journals. As far as I know, I appear to be one of the oldest to still be alive.
I met a girl in a wheelchair who was in a car accident and could not walk,she gave me her number and wanted to know if I would go to lunch with her. I called and we talked on the phone twice,I left a message twice after that and she never got back to me.
I certainly appreciate everyone's honesty no matter the outcome. It's just that I hardly ever see people out in public with a disability. It just seems like either they or their families shield them from the open public. Therefore everyone shy's away at what they don't understand. Sorry! Not me, I tend to go out whenever I want, visit friends, and other things whatever comes my way. I'm always looking for new friends but most times people do not know how to approach a disabled person or fear they may hurt their feelings, when in fact you hurt someone's feelings simply by not approaching them in the first place. A disabled person is just as nervous meeting new people as anyone else. Try it sometime, you might find the results are more rewarding than you ever imagined.
Now that might be an issue, If you life span is going top be greatly shortened, that may have more of an impact on a realitionship, then the disability itself.
I agree but at same time,anyone even without a disability never know's when thier time in life is up.Just enjoy whatever time you may have with that person.............
Sorry Mastic your dating didn't work on the woman in the wheelchair. Maybe she just wasn't ready or looking for another with her condition to relate with.
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I have a question mainly for the women and I certainly value the opinions of all the men too but the question is not directed towards men. I was born disabled but was raised in a normal environment around normal people, so it's very hard to see myself as being disabled because I am able to do most anything anyone one else can do but maybe a little differently. I am extremely smart own 2 real estate businesses and drive all over the U.S. whenever I feel like it.
My question is: "Would you willing date a disabled man, knowing that he's different but doesn't act differently and treats a woman like a queen?", and, "How far would you go depending on your comfort level?"
Just thought I'd ask and if you're not comfortable answering, that's cool too. I am curious to know what other's viewpoints are because I only know mine and have never really understood how other people feel about this subject.