There is Hope...some Pointers ( Archived) (101)

Sep 18, 2007 3:42 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
The single life has its share of highs and lows, more lows by far. Some handle it well, others are lost in confusion. I've been there. My girl Ice, has been there. We've overcome this. I read the threads and see massive depression, I see confusion, despair . Then I see humor. Sweet sweet humor, It's the humor that got me by when I was low. To this day, I haven't seen many posts that could ever match my lowest point. I over came it. How? I quit trying so damn hard. I quit searching for profiles in my area. I quit sending out 40 messages based on those searches, to get maybe 2 or 3 responses.doh It wears you down. That's where all the ; "Why doesn't anyone respond to me comes from" or "What am I doing wrong". I used to post those threads, it got me no where.

No one likes a down puppy!scold

I've said it many times, I'll say it again. interact in the forums, Read profiles, blogs, get to know someone a little bit before massive E-mails are sent. Have fun, post topics that are thought provoking, so you get feedback. There are so many good people on this site, I find it hard to believe that some are still single, but I will say this. 6 months before I met Ice, I heard the same thing from many. So don't give up!

One more thing, if you want to increase your odds of meeting your match, put in your profile, that you may consider relocating if it's an option for you.. This opens a whole new world of opportunity for all.

Why are we here? To encourage those, and show it can be done. To help shed light in dark areas, to help with the laughter when you are down.

Peace friends.cheers
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Sep 18, 2007 3:45 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
Unicornelle
UnicornelleUnicornelleQuebec, Canada47 Threads 1,675 Posts
Hey,I am trying to keep up my part of the fun and humor and will always do my best to say hello to just about everyone,no matter where they may live......I like making new friends and have made some very lovely friends off here.........
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Sep 18, 2007 3:47 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
I wanted to quickly add, I think some of you should re evaluate the ages you are looking for, some women or men see that and instantly think, "No Chance" When I was 44 I dated a 54 year old. She looked like a 30 year old and acted like one. So to limit the age really cutting your odds down.
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Sep 18, 2007 3:51 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
how did i know this would be another helpful informative thread?
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Sep 18, 2007 3:52 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
age?

definitely a case by case basisthumbs up
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Sep 18, 2007 3:53 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
FishingMTgirl
FishingMTgirlFishingMTgirlBig Sky, Montana USA18 Threads 5 Polls 971 Posts
Dear BND,

This is an awesome post. Your worded it with style. Great Jobcheering thumbs up
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Sep 18, 2007 3:53 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
I can't help it, Thanksblushing
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Sep 18, 2007 3:58 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
TheBaldGuy
TheBaldGuyTheBaldGuyMouseTrap, Florida USA10 Threads 906 Posts
You've been missedtongue
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Sep 18, 2007 4:04 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
blushing

giggle


chose those icons specifically as
they reflect how demure i am





rolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 18, 2007 4:04 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
I've seen some guys on here that think they only should have women younger then them. That's a crock, What if women felt that way. That would mean all guys that are 55 would only be able to date women older. Get over the age thing people. Two examples, Judy is 71, she posts it proudly. I doubt a man of 60 years could keep with Judy, yet they won't consider her cause her age?doh That's crazy. One more, Paws, this man is in excellent shape, well loved by all, so he gets cut out cause someone decides 59 is the limit. Like mindful say's, it's a case by case basis. Does this make sense to anyone else?
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Sep 18, 2007 4:07 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
TheBaldGuy
TheBaldGuyTheBaldGuyMouseTrap, Florida USA10 Threads 906 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 18, 2007 4:09 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
TheBaldGuy
TheBaldGuyTheBaldGuyMouseTrap, Florida USA10 Threads 906 Posts
I could never question your demureness rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 18, 2007 4:09 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
ShortyRed
ShortyRedShortyRedAthens, Tennessee USA6 Threads 624 Posts
LMAO bnd, you are so funny sometimes. "when I get a new perspective" laugh

You're right about no one liking a down puppy. Granted we all have our days, but if I notice someone always posting something depressing, I (personally) find it unattractive. A sense of humor will always carry you far, and it's the one thing NO ONE can take from you!

There have been days that I have been depressed to the point that I wa crying. I come to the forums, and within minutes of reading the funny threads, my tears slow down, and I'm smiling. It usually doesn't take long, and I'm posting, acting silly, and literally laughing out loud. Laughter is the best medicine.

Additionally, the harmless (and maybe some of it is not so harmless) flirting that takes place on the forum, goes a long way to sooth a bruised ego!!!

To borrow Ice's trademarked phrase : JMO!!


LOL
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Sep 18, 2007 4:11 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
funny you would make this point
as i started a thread yesterday that fell flat
and it was a scientific report regarding may-december rromance
and how it affects the human race...scientifically or biologically or whatever


dunno

now we are really taking a side road from the topic-
but still swimming in the sub-topic i spose

anyway the OP can drive any direction they want i guess?

happy trails
stuff to do

ciao for now
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Sep 18, 2007 4:12 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
WAIT




we have to make sense?


whew-good thing im leavin
laugh
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Sep 18, 2007 4:16 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
Been there too mant times. Crying. leave the PC, go lay down. Get back on the PC find some funny stuff, then roll with it for hours. Humor is a great treatment when you are down..thumbs up
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Sep 18, 2007 4:17 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
Unicornelle
UnicornelleUnicornelleQuebec, Canada47 Threads 1,675 Posts
am I invisible?..dunno blues rolling on the floor laughing
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Sep 18, 2007 4:17 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
Always going to be sub topics or spin off topics. It boils down to one thing. Kill time have fun till you meet the one.thumbs up
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Sep 18, 2007 4:20 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
b_n_d
b_n_db_n_dGlasgow, USA60 Threads 3,675 Posts
Hardly ivisible Gail, maybe in your mirror, but I see you very clearly. You are one of those that fits into the category, "I can't believe you are still single" Someone will appreciate you, when you learn to appreciate yourself. You've come along way. Give yourself some credit.comfort
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Sep 18, 2007 4:22 PM CST There is Hope...some Pointers
Unicornelle
UnicornelleUnicornelleQuebec, Canada47 Threads 1,675 Posts
Thanks B but am used to being alone so I dont mind it at the moment....
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