Typical amount of emails before first date? (23)
They are still trying to get a grip on your personality and intelligence. Writing can convay a lot about a persons inner self. The bit that is covered up by fronts and walls and safety mechanisms.
Good serious correspondence will show feelings and emotions that one would keep well hidden on a first second third or fourth date even.
I have no idea what is norm or considered acceptable but will watch and read to see feedback.
But my advice is to accept it positively. That she is still interested and very real and has enough self respect, commonsense, and backbone to take things responsibly and slowly. Knowing if your really interested in her and her personality you will keep corresponding. and if you don't; then you were too shallow for her anyway.
We won't go down the negative path
Good serious correspondence will show feelings and emotions that one would keep well hidden on a first second third or fourth date even.
I have no idea what is norm or considered acceptable but will watch and read to see feedback.
But my advice is to accept it positively. That she is still interested and very real and has enough self respect, commonsense, and backbone to take things responsibly and slowly. Knowing if your really interested in her and her personality you will keep corresponding. and if you don't; then you were too shallow for her anyway.
We won't go down the negative path
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From my own experiences ... it varies depending on the vibes I get. Generally only 2 emails would probably not be enough especially depending on the amount that one has written. Some people like yourself seem to be able to convey more than two words, but on average I find that most men seem to like only a few short sentences that generally don't say alot.
I'm the type of person that likes to read and write ..... and learn about a person. Some have said that this is a "downfall" for me because of my need to know attitude - but its hard to change one's personality. I'm probably more the type that "gives too much away" as someone recently told me. So my "aloof" answer would simply be "5 - 10 emails"
I'm the type of person that likes to read and write ..... and learn about a person. Some have said that this is a "downfall" for me because of my need to know attitude - but its hard to change one's personality. I'm probably more the type that "gives too much away" as someone recently told me. So my "aloof" answer would simply be "5 - 10 emails"
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I'll let you know if it ever happens
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I think it depends on the people involved. My experience has been that if a woman asks to meet and I respond by asking to extend the emailing for a while, she immediately loses interest.
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i have went on dates with guys i have met online and 5 emails are generally not enough to feel comfortable with meeting a complete stranger. before i agree to go on a date with somone we usually exchange anywhere to 5-10 emails, then exchange phone numbers and talk on the phone for a few days. talking to someone on the phone helps alot with the trusting issue, and most of the time women can tell if it is for good intentions and they will not be as worried about their safety. so my advice is try talking to her a bit on the phone first before you offer a date and maybe it will help a little more. goodluck!
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I agree with that. You have to talk and get to know each other over a period of time. Maybe at least a couple weeks, depending on the comfort level. Phone conversations will eaither make or break your connection. It is a good idea to call each other before meeting.
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Well put! 
I have never dated anyone I met online before but I think you need to use some common sense...there is no magic number for anything (except maybe the lottery!) Just go with what feels right and don't rush it!
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I don't think just a few emails would be enough to really get to know someone well enough.
You can't rush meeting someone over the net, if they aren't comfortable then obviously if you really want to meet them give them a bit more time to come round to the idea.
I think it is common to have initial apprehensions and theonly way to overcome any apprehensions is to get to know the other person.
Take your time, have patience and if you are meant to meet someone you will know when the chemistry is right.
You can't rush meeting someone over the net, if they aren't comfortable then obviously if you really want to meet them give them a bit more time to come round to the idea.
I think it is common to have initial apprehensions and theonly way to overcome any apprehensions is to get to know the other person.
Take your time, have patience and if you are meant to meet someone you will know when the chemistry is right.
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I have written at least 2 weeks before meeting. Need to get a feel of there personality first, then I usally talk on the phone 1 x before meeting.
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I know everyone is different, but personally I go a step further. Emails are a nice way to start, but I like to talk on the phone with someone for at least a couple of days before I meet them for a date. You can tell a lot more about a person just by listening to the sound of their voice than you can through an email.
As far as the writing side of it goes, I can usually tell in a couple of days of quality (decent length with solid content) emails if I want to step up to the phone conversations.
As far as the writing side of it goes, I can usually tell in a couple of days of quality (decent length with solid content) emails if I want to step up to the phone conversations.
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I agree .... talking on the phone is important before actually meeting in person, although sometimes its hard to gauge someone who is extremely shy and doesn't say much. Its pretty painful conversations and meetings with someone like that.
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...i dont think their are any hard an fast rules, its personal preferance... there may be all sorts of reasons for wanting to continue mailing or talking on the phone a bit longer and i have done this myself... if its what makes the person feel more comfortable just go with it for a while longer...? showing yourself to be understanding and patient can only stand u in good stead anyway, yes...? 
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thats a tough one
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Good advice..
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mmm...as a new matter(internet), regulation might be lacking on that bit
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Oh my gosh, you're going to make me count those things?
*runs to go count...
I count about 100 right now from my special guy... we wont be meeting for a while still... I guess it'll double between now & then.
That's the thing about emailing... it's about the two sides communicating.
You just never know how much or how long that will take.
*runs to go count...
I count about 100 right now from my special guy... we wont be meeting for a while still... I guess it'll double between now & then.
That's the thing about emailing... it's about the two sides communicating.
You just never know how much or how long that will take.
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After 2 sent and 2 replies, I sent a 5th to someone on another site, asking if they'd like to meet for dinner or a drink someplace, and they responded that they prefer to email more before meeting a person.
Common?
I guess I can understand with all the whackos on the internet these days, but I don't think I give off a creepy vibe heh. At least I don't hope so.