Question for the ladies ( Archived) (12)

since this is my first post on this site, I wanted to know what the women would like to know about men.

If you had anything that puzzles you about men, what would it be?


I know this is a broad question but, I'm still wondering why women do certain things.


thanks for you responses,

Good morning 1tworker..

What kind of certain things that women do, are you wondering about?

Hope you have a great day.



Rose.

the last two women that I have dated were cheated on by their boyfriends. I had to endure their interrogation and trust issues. I can understand this but, I'm an open and honest person and told them both that I had nothing to hide.

I even told them that they could ask me any question and I was willing to be frank and honest.

in short, they still had issues they could not admit to and they ended up making me the bad person.

why can't women admit their issues and take responsibility for themselves?




any clarification would be great,

-joel

Joel.
Alot of women (and men to), have been hurt so deeply that it is very hard to trust ANYONE again, and although it is NOT right, the next people they allow into thier lives usually are the ones that end up paying the price. It most certainly is not right to blame one for what someone else has done, but in the eyes of the one who got hurt, it is easier than risking getting hurt again. They build a wall around thier heart, I think. At least I did, but thank God that wall caved in because I'd hate to think I'd live the rest of my life not trusting others.

Hope this helps you in some small way.

Rose.

I would like to know why men always say they are looking for somone honest and faithful, when there not themselves!!!

I think most of us, men and women alike, have been cheated on in some form or another at points in our lives. It is hard to move past and let go of that when entering into a new relationship, there are always lingering doubts until each proves to the other trustworthy. I do think there is a breaking point as well though, at some time ya just gotta cut the other some slack and question perhaps, but not ruin the relationship in doing so. After a time there is either trust or there isn't and if there isn't then other issues are present and the cheating one is a cover for the other things. Bringing the past into the new is a common mistake and a tough one to stop doing. We do compare, we do remember. It's human nature.

What do i want to know about men? HA welllllll...why is it you all say you listen and yet you don't hear a thing we say? Are men born with a gene that enables them to pretend to hear the words and then turn them around to make a simple thing into a huge deal or a huge deal into nothing?? AND THEN ya'll say we nag, well we wouldn't be nagging if you just listened the first time and actually took the time to understand what we are saying...

JMO lol
Dreamer

I'm sorry, were you saying something?

Just kidding.

Women and men are the same, just different. Individuals are confused and conflicted, but most want the same things. We just aren't raised to be complete and serene.

Several threads go on about this topic about men and infidelity. I cannot speak for the UK, but here, on sites such as Asheley Madison, there are more women that men looking for so called discrete relationships outside of their present commitments then there are men.
I am so sick of the stereotyping of men by making them ALL out to be the cheaters...and I do know, being on the wrong side of infidelity....
So when I write honest and faithful, I would expect the same of my partner as from myself since that is called RESPECT.

Speaking from experience here..I was cheated on by my last two relationships. I know somedays I do get insecure and have a hard time trusting. I think that is quite normal for someone who has been cheated on on numerous occasions.

But I do agree that you can not judge the whole batch of apples for a few sour ones right.

In my opinion women like the ones you just had need to learn to trust again and work on their insecurities before jumping into another serious relationship. You can't just keep assuming that everyone you see will be like the last.

Life is all risks. You need to go through them one way or the other.

Tracy :o)