i have been friends with someone for quite awhile. he's been there for me as i have for him in diff ways. yet recently we fight more and more over silly small matters like for instance hanging out. which is what the fight was of last night. been over a month since last have so a week ago talked of seeing a movie. when brought it up yesterday to know when both could. he said wouldn't anymore since i was making a demand and then brought up how on another matter bothers him when meet in person. how i don't talk much. says we know each other shouldn't be a prob. he needs to understand it's just how i am. i tend to be more quiet even around my family. i've tried seeing his point of veiw in ways on this and everyting. lately through i feel more and more it is all give and no take. anyway thinking of ending the friendship don't know through. so i am asking what other's might think. should i end things or keep trying to save my friendship with him.
If he is truly your friend then you should be able to tell him how you feel. And take a break if necessary. He may be upset at first but if its true friendship it wont take long before hes calling you and apologizing or asking when you 2 are gonna hang out again.
If you feel like it's more give than take, you should distance yourself and see if he comes around. If he cares for your friendship, he'll contact you, and if not, then you'll be sure of how he stands.
If you feel uncomfortable in the relationship and it is just a draining experiecen for you, then tell him about it. Dont give him an ultimadum or anything but bring it up, if he is a friend, he will work it out with you. If not, then you dont have to deal with it. *M*
I think you need to define exactly what this relationship IS. Is it you know him & he knows you and you do things together sometimes or is it more than that? I have a few female friends that we hang out have some popcorn, some wine, watch a movie talk and that's it. No big deal if we don't hear from each other for a month. We discuss things but never fight. Fighting usually only happens if there's more going on than just friendship. Where is this relationship going? Or is it going nowhere? Are you guys on the same page? I think not!
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