Flash backs of high school... (4)
No, you really aren't alone. I am really not part of any clique either but it doesn't really bother me. I never was in one during high school or anywhere else either. I know I am a bit different, but I don't think it's necessarily bad.
I haven't had anyone really be outright rude to me but once or twice here, and then I just kind of laughed it off. A few people have emailed me and we have had few conversations back and forth. Pleasant enough, but certainly not any love connections or close friends. I suppose maybe I just haven't really corresponded much with many people, but I have never been the type to initiate that sort of thing. See, I am rather shy too in RL. Maybe that's why. I don't come here that much. I come and read forums when I can't sleep and what not, but not really a regular.
Just say what's on your mind (without being totally rude of course) and don't worry about what people think or say.
If you have to sugar coat everything you say for fear of controversy, then the people you may end up connecting with, may never see the real you.
Or at least that's how I look at it. I do try to not offend anyone but some people will get offended at "hello" lol
I haven't had anyone really be outright rude to me but once or twice here, and then I just kind of laughed it off. A few people have emailed me and we have had few conversations back and forth. Pleasant enough, but certainly not any love connections or close friends. I suppose maybe I just haven't really corresponded much with many people, but I have never been the type to initiate that sort of thing. See, I am rather shy too in RL. Maybe that's why. I don't come here that much. I come and read forums when I can't sleep and what not, but not really a regular.
Just say what's on your mind (without being totally rude of course) and don't worry about what people think or say.
If you have to sugar coat everything you say for fear of controversy, then the people you may end up connecting with, may never see the real you.
Or at least that's how I look at it. I do try to not offend anyone but some people will get offended at "hello" lol
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Oh my... I am not part of any click, I post if I feel like it and won't if I don't.
I email people who make me smile or cry. I have found that most of the people out here are great. Most of us are here to find something, whether that be a partner or friends.
I came here to find a way to dispell some of the stress I have with my marriage breakdown. I have found some new friends and even met up with some wonderful people.
I suppose this site is what you make of it. I am not here to be popular and shy away from the 'contests' that they have on CS. I can understand why people need them, but don't feel the need to be validated that way.
Just come on, have fun and send emails or flowers to those who touch you. Post when you want and ignore those who try to argue with you. It is really all under your control..
I email people who make me smile or cry. I have found that most of the people out here are great. Most of us are here to find something, whether that be a partner or friends.
I came here to find a way to dispell some of the stress I have with my marriage breakdown. I have found some new friends and even met up with some wonderful people.
I suppose this site is what you make of it. I am not here to be popular and shy away from the 'contests' that they have on CS. I can understand why people need them, but don't feel the need to be validated that way.
Just come on, have fun and send emails or flowers to those who touch you. Post when you want and ignore those who try to argue with you. It is really all under your control..
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When i was in high school I was popular, but I was a loner.. didn't like hanging out with clicks.. and mostly spent time taking up for the ones that were considered nerds.. can't stand to see anyone get bullied..
As for you being shy, nothing wrong with that.. but the more you come around the more you will loosen up.. sorry things here haven't worked out for you so far.. but if you need a friend I will be one for you..
As for you being shy, nothing wrong with that.. but the more you come around the more you will loosen up.. sorry things here haven't worked out for you so far.. but if you need a friend I will be one for you..
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I was shy and still am. I was not popular but had a few friends that did not quite really fit in either.
I was so happy when my high school days were over!
I found a whole new world when I went to college. It was more about what I thought then how popular I was or what brand name clothing I had or didn't have.
I read the forums but have found it is very easy to get verbally attacked here. I watch my opinions now and choose carefully what I post or respond too. I have a life away from the internet and have found that maybe others have more time than I do to sit and post for hours. (observation not a judgement)
Other may not be as shy and have established relationships online (including platonic friendships) but I have not found a connection either romantic or platonic yet.
Some people say just jump in and go for it, don't be shy! That may be easy for some, but not for me.
I have found this to be somewhat disheartening and is probably why I have had difficulty establishing relationships offline.
I have found that my honesty and candor has either offended or scared others.
I have found that some posts are very "clicke" . So, I don't post.
Some posts are very thought provoking but a reply may be meet with aggression when your opinion is not favorable.
I have heard that some have found true friendship online. I have not felt very much friendliness here.
I have heard that some have found life partners, wives and husbands online. I have not even found a date here!
I am looking for a connections. Not sure how possible that may be in this kind of environment.
Does anyone else feel the same way? Is anyone else searching? Am I alone?
Maybe I truly don't want to be part of a "Click." Maybe I march to a different beat. Maybe I want more out of life than a computer keyboard and mouse. Maybe I am asking for too much.
Maybe I thought that I would find a connection at Connecting Singles...........