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Last night, after work, I joined friends at a nearby bar, where we ultimately stayed for hours. I drank, but not a lot (plenty of water, nursing and sipping slowly, etc.), so I left in good shape, while others remained and some were completely wasted. I live very close by and go by foot almost everywhere in the area. Others had their cars and lived further away. OK. So I got home and soon afterwards, I received a call from one of the men (a friend who had previously made it clear that he wanted to be more than a friend, but I don't feel the same way and we had talked about it...I thought he understood that there was not going to be anything more than a friendship between us). Anyway, he called and said that he was totally blitzed (as I know he was...he had way too much to drink) and asked if he could come over and sleep on my couch for awhile. I knew that he had no business driving and I also knew that this man would not just take a cab home and deal with his car another time. I did not want him on the roads, so I told him he could come and he could have the couch. This is what a friend SHOULD do, isn't it??? He came over, I brought him a pillow and led him to the couch and left the living room to go to my den, where I have my tv and computer and such. Now I will speed this up...he got up after only 20 minutes or so, came in to the den and ultimately made some very inappropriate and highly unwelcome moves. And there was a bit of forcefulness which was somewhat alarming to me. I pushed him away, immediately went to the front door, opened it, and told him to get the F out. I grabbed the "panic button" that our embassy provides us, which would have brought security personnel here immediately if I had triggered it, and I stood with the door open until he left.
Now...finally...my question. Was I a fool to allow a man to come here, knowing that he wanted to be more than a friend? Or, was I being a friend to him by not allowing him to drive home? And, even though I won't have him here again, should I never let someone come and sleep on my couch if they are wasted if I know that they have an attraction or interest in me???