Is "separated" single? (75)
um...i really have to say i agree with windy on this one...there was a time when i would have said, "nope, separated just doesn't cut it!" but that was before i got married...to a man with a wonderful daughter...and when we split...
well, i kept her. and she was underage. so we stayed legally married so that i would be legally able to sign for anything that she needed...courts said she couldn't choose me for custody, since i wasn't biologically her mother, but if we stayed married, it was fine.
SO...the month after she hit eighteen, i filed. quickly. we had been completely separated, living in different towns, for over two years.
well, i kept her. and she was underage. so we stayed legally married so that i would be legally able to sign for anything that she needed...courts said she couldn't choose me for custody, since i wasn't biologically her mother, but if we stayed married, it was fine.
SO...the month after she hit eighteen, i filed. quickly. we had been completely separated, living in different towns, for over two years.
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And here again my point being made that sometimes circumstances dictate...separated people should not be less desirable because of their "in between" status..most oft times its because there is children involved...
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same here
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NO NO NO and again NNNNNNNOOOOOOO...Separated is being married in denial
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I answered before reading the rest of the threads...I know emotionally that a person that is separated doesn't feel married, but I feel that legally you have to express your real state! you have to live in what's real...
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i dont date seperated people unless it has been like years.Being a multi married person i must say its only because i cant get it right lol
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I was able to serve papers on my ex when he was trying to break into my car to take it and leave me and our children without wheels...LOL! (I can laugh about it now, but it wasn't funny then...of course...)
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What good is a piece of paper saying you're married...and you don't have any idea where your "married" partner is...
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Well being separated and legally separated are two different things. I'm legally separated and by law I have to be separated for one full year in order to get a divorce. I don't know about you but an entire year of not dating could drive you mad. I feel like its ok as long as its over between the people who had the falling out.
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Piece of paper ain't worth a FLIP when you don't know where they're at! lol
And regarding the last post, yup, rules are getting more ridiculous. I left the state we were married in, so I had to be a resident here for 6 months, WITH PROOF, before I could even file.
And regarding the last post, yup, rules are getting more ridiculous. I left the state we were married in, so I had to be a resident here for 6 months, WITH PROOF, before I could even file.
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Separated to me is "not" single...... if you are ready to move forward in your life that to means that me that you have dealt with the past (ie. divorce finalized).
Separation and divorce are tramatic occurances sometimes in our lives..... heal yourself and learn so that you can be at your best..... you owe it to yourself and your future partner to have a firm foundation to grow on.
Separation and divorce are tramatic occurances sometimes in our lives..... heal yourself and learn so that you can be at your best..... you owe it to yourself and your future partner to have a firm foundation to grow on.
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Whoever started this thread, "I LOVE YOU". My experience has been that men will put 'separated' for another reason. They are amotionally separated from their spouse, from whom they have not even MOVED on! I just recently messaged someone, (not from this site but another dating site) who had separated in their profile. We talked for a bit, and then I asked how long he had been separated...he said..well we have been 'spiritually separated' for a long long time. LOL..ok..my EX and I were spiritually separated from almost the moment after we said "I do". But I didnt go figuring I was fair game for every man out there!
So in answer to the question, finally, I say NOPE, wont date someone until they are completely and totally FREE to love another!
So in answer to the question, finally, I say NOPE, wont date someone until they are completely and totally FREE to love another!
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unfortunately, many of the men who are fully divorced...are not fully separated emotionally. some never will be.
that's what i really want...someone who has moved on completely and is healed.
that's what i really want...someone who has moved on completely and is healed.
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Really....I dont think anyone ever get completely healed...some get mean, other get lost and try to do more to compensate, and there one that blame himself for eveything. I doubt you ever going find a guy complete heal after being divorce.
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I agree with enchantedfire...and i agree with nwnstar...a divorce means according to the law you are not legally bound...there are no papers to emotionally detach someone from your life though...good or bad
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NO and NO
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yeah, but there are different levels of attachment. like...iamtheone...he is married in his head.
and the one that you speak of...i hate that he blames himself...he's so awesome...
me? i'm completely healed.
and the one that you speak of...i hate that he blames himself...he's so awesome...
me? i'm completely healed.
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yes but was it your fault or the idiot....I learn most of the time when the one wasnt the victim and they were get hurt from the relation can heal quicker....like I said most of the time...or they blame theirself for eveything even global warning...but they loser that hurt cant get over it and they tend to get worse until death or prison
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explain that again, please...
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When it's time to stroke the pen, it will be done...My former and myself both agree, there are no skeletons in our closets...Just my take on it..so there...
Not everyone who breaks up is bitter and runs for the nearest lawyer, a lot can be settled with time and patience.
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