What do you think? (13)

I was in a rather complicated relationship about a year and 2 months ago, i was dating via the net an American for about 14 months. Anyway's things were a little rocky in that time period and we got into some arguments but i think thats because of the distance and also because we loved each other and were so far away.

I made alot of sacrifices for my loved one,turned down a place at Griffith University in Brisbane for a bahelors degree in Biotechnology,sold most of my stuff so i could afford the ticket there and have money to spend while i was there,turned my entire sleeping habits around so i was sleeping from 5:30 PM to 12:00AM just so i could match her time to talk with her( that messed me up bigtime),i even put off going out with friends and family just so i could talkt to and be with her.

Anyway's i whent over to America for a months to be with her and we were to actually be married in that time and things were goin well for the first two weeks but every now and then she'd get angry with me and attack me for no apparent reason, i mean this could be anyware between 3-5 times a day, being accused of lying and hiding secrets,i have no secrets and i certaintly don't hide anything from my loved ones and i always tell the truth as i hate lying and being lied to.

I can't remember how much i spent on roses for her to make an appology for her,probably because i felt like it was all my fault even though it wasn't,i know that now. Anyways the relationship ended about a week later when she practically called me a waste of time,that really cut me deep that did,enough to be vary weary of people in the future. All in all im not to sure how much i spenmt on gifts for her....over $1400 i think and thats just in that month,even have a $700 engagement ring i can't get rid off.

Well that was it pretty much,now im here in this site and this is the very fist time ive been on something like this. Anyways sorry that this is so long and that i may be boaring whoever might be reading this.

Anyway's whats your take on this?

Oh my golly sheesh... long distance is always a huge gamble for that reason. At least you gave her and the relationship a good go.

I am sure you will find someone far more suitable and date a little while first get to know the person and develop a friendship with them that way if you dont get on with them it is an easy out before things get too serious.

Ps sell the ring on ebay or somewhere because if you give it to another girl i think it is bad luck.. specially if she finds out lol :-)

I think good onya for taking such a gamble. There is no way I would have done it and atleast you can look back and say you gave it a shot.

Any potential partners now, I would just take it very easy and slowly and don't spend so much money/time on gifts.. Words are always nicer to hear

Good Luck to you matey..

On a side note, is there any way you can still get back into the course you wanted?

Thanks for your advice Lou79, yea im trying to get back into it at the moment but i may have to wait till the year's finished so im just gona bide my time with some tafe studiestill then.

Thanks again for your kind words.

bourbs bourbs bourbs, u are sooo sweet.
Aint gonna happen.... lol
Have had enough of spongers.

Its all good. Alcohol is good
Glad I could make u smile bourbs

Good things come to those who wait

Wasn't so much that it made me smile. It was more a case of trying to paint a lighter side to a sad event.

It amazes me that people will pay someone's airfare when they really don't know them all that well.

But I suppose you live and learn.

I read a different take on that concept somewhere... went something like...

"Those who wait end up with the leftovers"

I guess its how you want to read it.

I not going to settle for crumbs lol.

& re: ^ above comment, the thing was, I thought I did know him after talking for a year, but, I guess not as well as I thought.
Maybe I am just plain old stupid, or just plain & old