Advice ..... relationship drama, true love or blind love (16)
Pure24kmanpittsburg, California USA9 Threads 29 Postsi have recently posted a situation on th forums. if 2 people were together for 21 + years and have 3 teenage kids together and life seems good no money problums nor drama from thier kids , but the wife was having an affair for 4+ years with someone that was close to thier family , the husban found out on his own and it seems that he was willing to forgive her for all that she has done , she is`nt a really bad person she has taken care of thier kids and was always there for him , for him he has always done everything that he could to make things as happy as posible for his family and did`nt know what had taken place . now that he has found out and she stopped seeing the other guy what should thay do to try to make things right .......tas if there both willing to try. or is he blinded by love and should let her go.
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For you to post the same thing on two different threads...
must be serious.
If you are the one in this mess , then you decide if to forgive her or move on. It's all up to you, don't rely on us to tell you what to do.
Well, If someone cheated on me for 4 yrs, i wouldn't justify it!!! She has no respect for you or herself.
must be serious.If you are the one in this mess , then you decide if to forgive her or move on. It's all up to you, don't rely on us to tell you what to do.
Well, If someone cheated on me for 4 yrs, i wouldn't justify it!!! She has no respect for you or herself.
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Why 2 different threads?
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dcj22: Why 2 different threads?
Because it's dead serious.
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Pure24kman: i have recently posted a situation on th forums. if 2 people were together for 21 + years and have 3 teenage kids together and life seems good no money problums nor drama from thier kids , but the wife was having an affair for 4+ years with someone that was close to thier family , the husban found out on his own and it seems that he was willing to forgive her for all that she has done , she is`nt a really bad person she has taken care of thier kids and was always there for him , for him he has always done everything that he could to make things as happy as posible for his family and did`nt know what had taken place . now that he has found out and she stopped seeing the other guy what should thay do to try to make things right .......tas if there both willing to try. or is he blinded by love and should let her go.
My ex-father-in-law who's now been married for 57 years had an affair for over 20 years. They are still together.
I could not, would not accept it. Like someone said, no respect. I'd have no respect for myself if I forgave that. I would not forgive it even if was just one time. JMO.
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Yeah.. I couldn't accept that either.. I would be heartbroken if I thought it had been going on all that time and I had had no idea..
It makes you think back over all that time.. and all the funny little things that now seem to make so much more sense. Personally.. I would feel totally betrayed.. and that would be the end of it for me.
(been there done that)
But as Luscious says... You can't let other people decide this kind of thing for you..
You know the situation and the feelings involved better than anyone else.
Good luck
It makes you think back over all that time.. and all the funny little things that now seem to make so much more sense. Personally.. I would feel totally betrayed.. and that would be the end of it for me.
(been there done that)
But as Luscious says... You can't let other people decide this kind of thing for you..
You know the situation and the feelings involved better than anyone else.
Good luck
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Claire, seems like you practically live in the Forums....what time is it in your neck of the woods? 
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airliner: Claire, seems like you practically live in the Forums....what time is it in your neck of the woods?
WELL... I went to bed.. kind of..
then got back up to come and get a drink .. and got sidetracked.
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Oh.... and its almost 3am
(and I have to be up at 7.15am)... I'm not a big sleeper.
(and I have to be up at 7.15am)... I'm not a big sleeper.
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I would think, after four years, one could develop some semblance of a conscience. Maybe it just takes some longer than others. 
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Everyon's different. I have a one strike you're out policy. My wife and I were together for 13 years, but she destroyed a level of trust that can never be regained, so as much as it hurts, it's over, we'll never have that back again.
If another man can get past that, more power to him.
If another man can get past that, more power to him.
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rwantin: I would think, after four years, one could develop some semblance of a conscience. Maybe it just takes some longer than others.
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constanza: and had he not found out on his own of her infidelity, how much longer would he have lived this lie? with a so called friend too? It really doesn't get any worse.
I agree!
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Raindog: Everyon's different. I have a one strike you're out policy. My wife and I were together for 13 years, but she destroyed a level of trust that can never be regained, so as much as it hurts, it's over, we'll never have that back again.
If another man can get past that, more power to him.
If another man can get past that, more power to him.
I totally agree... that's exactly how I see it too.
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Claayer: Oh.... and its almost 3am
(and I have to be up at 7.15am)... I'm not a big sleeper.
(and I have to be up at 7.15am)... I'm not a big sleeper.
Claayer, go to bed sweetie. Happy Valentine's Day. It's not that time here yet.
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