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Feb 29, 2008 2:42 PM CST more on the help me
dezziegirl72107
dezziegirl72107dezziegirl72107nampa, Idaho USA6 Threads 6 Posts
well we both lived in boise id and he got a really good job offer in vegas and he took it but i was going to move there some time soon and he texted me the other day saying he was sorry but he had found some one else and it is killing me badcrying crying crying crying
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Feb 29, 2008 2:48 PM CST more on the help me
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta27 Threads 1 Polls 4,368 Posts
He sent you a TEXT message to tell you ??? you are better off without him he didn't even have the balls to be man enough to tell you properly ? put it down to experience and find someone who will treat you with a little respect
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Feb 29, 2008 2:50 PM CST more on the help me
Claayer
ClaayerClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK107 Threads 9 Polls 15,888 Posts
dezziegirl72107: well we both lived in boise id and he got a really good job offer in vegas and he took it but i was going to move there some time soon and he texted me the other day saying he was sorry but he had found some one else and it is killing me bad


Awwww what a B*stard!

you are soooooooo MUCh better off without someone like that in your life.

Stuff'im!.. he's not Eeeeeeeeeven worth it. thumbs down thumbs down thumbs down
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Feb 29, 2008 3:01 PM CST more on the help me
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK47 Threads 4 Polls 2,732 Posts
dezziegirl72107: well we both lived in boise id and he got a really good job offer in vegas and he took it but i was going to move there some time soon and he texted me the other day saying he was sorry but he had found some one else and it is killing me bad


wow... trust me sweetheart... someone that callous.. you would never have been able to count on him!!! U and ur little boy deserve better (sorry looked at ur profile... he is adorable!! grin)

hug
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Feb 29, 2008 3:01 PM CST more on the help me
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
i guess he wasn't ready for commitment...and Vegas seems to get everyone mad...

don't blame yourself if you haven't done anything wrong...he was just not honest and i believe he wanted to get rid of you asap...i'm sorry but how come he found someone that quick?

If you got a job there and really wanted to go there because of the place and not just to be with him, GO! Remember that you have your own life. We can't hang on men, mainly emotionally. You must be strong and build a life of your own, independent and far away from people that just want to get advantage of your goodness. Your kid need you to be strong. The baby needs you more than anyone in the world. Do it for him/her, do not waste so much time suffering.
When we are in love, we dream more than what reality can offer...
You need to be strong, he didn't love you... or he is just scared of commitment, either way, he was not prepared for that step, so better ex ante than ex post sufferring! You will realise that it was for the best!

Suffer less and think more now...what should be your next step, action baby!hug
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Feb 29, 2008 3:02 PM CST more on the help me
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK47 Threads 4 Polls 2,732 Posts
Claayer: Awwww what a B*stard!

you are soooooooo MUCh better off without someone like that in your life.

Stuff'im!.. he's not Eeeeeeeeeven worth it.


laugh... thumbs up.. yeah!!! he is soooooo not eeeeeeeven worth it!!!!! grin
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Feb 29, 2008 3:04 PM CST more on the help me
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta27 Threads 1 Polls 4,368 Posts
Aries01: ... trust me sweetheart... someone that callous.. you would never have been able to count on him!!! U and ur little boy deserve better (sorry looked at ur profile... he is adorable!! )
thumbs up well said Aries dezzie you have mail hug
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Feb 29, 2008 3:06 PM CST more on the help me
roseofsharon
roseofsharonroseofsharonmanchester, Hampshire, England UK60 Threads 3 Polls 8,699 Posts
morganlee: He sent you a TEXT message to tell you ??? you are better off without him he didn't even have the balls to be man enough to tell you properly ? put it down to experience and find someone who will treat you with a little respect


Yes.... I'm with Morgan on this one. If a text message is the best he can do and, therefore, the most (or rather little) respect he can show you....

Its easily said and hardest done, I know but just take off your "emotional" head for a moment and put on your "pragmatic" head..... if this was your best friend, you know EXACTLY what you'd be advising HER, don't you??

It will take time, hun..... you know where we are. hug
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Feb 29, 2008 3:09 PM CST more on the help me
dezziegirl72107: well we both lived in boise id and he got a really good job offer in vegas and he took it but i was going to move there some time soon and he texted me the other day saying he was sorry but he had found some one else and it is killing me bad


You ought to have texted him back,beginning with:
"YOU SWINE..........",
then giving your fantasy free reign.

What a Damn Loser someone like that is.doh

comfort wave
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Feb 29, 2008 8:43 PM CST more on the help me
Skeptikos
SkeptikosSkeptikosGreenville, South Carolina USA19 Threads 745 Posts
Dezzie, baby, I'm here for you. Just give me a call. (just kidding)

Okay, here's what's happening in your mind. "Is she prettier than me?" "Is she better in bed than me?" "Does he tell her the same things he told me?", etc. But the main thing that's bothering you is that you feel inferior to whoever he thinks he loves now. Don't do that to yourself! He could leave the woman he's with before he gets the Las Vegas glitter out of his eyes before you know it.

Love yourself! Never, ever give up on yourself or put yourself down. There's nothing wrong with you. Actually, there's nothing wrong with your former boyfriend. People live and learn. It's a constant. Take your time with a man. Get to know him. And you know what? If it still doesn't work out, it still doesn't mean you are somehow deficient.

It's usually hard for people to not feel put down, inferior, and all that. But imagine this. What if you former boyfriend finds yet another girl in a week or a month? Does that mean the girl he was with isn't somehow good enough for him?

You find your love, little darling. But whatever you do, do not feel "less than" because your boyfriend found someone else. And don't hate him. Remember, just like you, he's only human too.

May you love and live a happy life,
Skeptikos
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Feb 29, 2008 8:47 PM CST more on the help me
rwantin
rwantinrwantinRoyal Oak, Michigan USA17 Threads 8,924 Posts
morganlee: He sent you a TEXT message to tell you ??? you are better off without him he didn't even have the balls to be man enough to tell you properly ? put it down to experience and find someone who will treat you with a little respect


thumbs up Know that you are better off without the amoeba. They're so hard to take out anyway, and they are kind of messy.

This too, shall pass. tip hat
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Feb 29, 2008 8:50 PM CST more on the help me
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada59 Threads 2 Polls 25,438 Posts
dezziegirl72107: well we both lived in boise id and he got a really good job offer in vegas and he took it but i was going to move there some time soon and he texted me the other day saying he was sorry but he had found some one else and it is killing me bad


Well if he can find someone that quick and hurt you that bad then he couldn't have really loved you...could he...So if he didn't really love you then he isn't worth having in your life anyway...The man who truly loves you won't be looking for someone else to replace you and will never want to see you in soooooo much pain...hug teddybear hug bouquet
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Feb 29, 2008 8:52 PM CST more on the help me
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
Hugz_n_Kissez: Well if he can find someone that quick and hurt you that bad then he couldn't have really loved you...could he...So if he didn't really love you then he isn't worth having in your life anyway...The man who truly loves you won't be looking for someone else to replace you and will never want to see you in soooooo much pain...
I am with Shelley on this..NO one would hurt the one that they love..they would rather hurt themself..I am so sorry but Trust me the pain will go away with the help of friends..and Time...hug
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Mar 1, 2008 6:37 AM CST more on the help me
Zellarrone1
Zellarrone1Zellarrone1Hull, East Riding of Yorkshire, England UK33 Threads 4 Polls 7,644 Posts
I go with the gist of what the others had to say about this..

He's not worth bothering about and you and your son are worthy of someone who has REAL respect, care and love for you both bouquet
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Mar 1, 2008 6:57 AM CST more on the help me
ladysman07
ladysman07ladysman07mount maunganui, Bay of Plenty New Zealand6 Threads 39 Posts
well all i can say is that hes not a man to break up with you via txt he doesnt hav the guts to say it to ur face all i can say is that hes not worth it you can do beta
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