Help with my sisters broken heart (30)
jus_4youpleasantville, New Jersey USA62 Threads 676 PostsMy sisters 21 year marriage came to a end. Yesterday i got word that her ex sent my sister a text message that he slept with her best friend. she is stressed out to the point where she is yelling at every one including her 14 year old daughter. I want to help but i don`t know what to say to ease the pain can anyone help.
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jus_4you: My sisters 21 year marriage came to a end. Yesterday i got word that her ex sent my sister a text message that he slept with her best friend. she is stressed out to the point where she is yelling at every one including her 14 year old daughter. I want to help but i don`t know what to say to ease the pain can anyone help.
Tell her to get rid of the man...get rid of the friend and be glad neither one of them is in her life anymore and to move on from here.....Nobody needs people like that in their life....
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you mean tell you what you should tell her?
doesn't it touch you enough?
I'm sorry for your sis, i hope she manage to get over it asap!
doesn't it touch you enough?
I'm sorry for your sis, i hope she manage to get over it asap!
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jus_4you: My sisters 21 year marriage came to a end. Yesterday i got word that her ex sent my sister a text message that he slept with her best friend. she is stressed out to the point where she is yelling at every one including her 14 year old daughter. I want to help but i don`t know what to say to ease the pain can anyone help.
I am sorry that has got to be tough for all concern..all you can do is just be there and listen and lend ur shoulder for her..try to let her 14 year old daughter know that Mom is going through alot of pain and its not her fault...All you can do is just be there whenever she needs you..So sorry
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i'm so sorry she must be devastated, did she have any idea something was going on?
The only thing that will help is time, she will go thro loads of emotions before she comes out the other
side, kinda like a bereavement. I think all you can do is be there when she needs you and listen, be
there for her kids too.
she must be devastated, did she have any idea something was going on?The only thing that will help is time, she will go thro loads of emotions before she comes out the other
side, kinda like a bereavement. I think all you can do is be there when she needs you and listen, be
there for her kids too.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Tell her to get rid of the man...get rid of the friend and be glad neither one of them is in her life anymore and to move on from here.....Nobody needs people like that in their life....
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cristina: you mean tell you what you should tell her?
doesn't it touch you enough?
I'm sorry for your sis, i hope she manage to get over it asap!
me too thanks, cristinadoesn't it touch you enough?
I'm sorry for your sis, i hope she manage to get over it asap!
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kissmedeeply: I am sorry that has got to be tough for all concern..all you can do is just be there and listen and lend ur shoulder for her..try to let her 14 year old daughter know that Mom is going through alot of pain and its not her fault...All you can do is just be there whenever she needs you..So sorry
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jus_4you: i tried that but it didn`t work couldn`t get past all the crying and sobing
I know it's hurtful but when the hurt goes away she will see it was a blessing in disguise...better to see that what she lost as far as an ex and so called friend...was nothing because the kinds of people that would hurt others like that....belong with each other and not with good people....
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jus_4you: i tried that but it didn`t work couldn`t get past all the crying and sobing
She needs time to take in what is actually after happening to her....I would say she is in shock now.....So give her time to scream and shout but please remind her that her daughter has lost her family life too.....As the child needs her mom at this moment in time......Its hard for all concerned........
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jus_4you: i tried that but it didn`t work couldn`t get past all the crying and sobing
It won't work yet, far to soon there is a process she has to go thro at her own pace. For me i went thro dis belief, self- blame, hurt, anger, then finally acceptance can't move on until you are ready, it takes time and patience from the people who love her.------ This thread is Archived ------
morganlee: i'm so sorry she must be devastated, did she have any idea something was going on?
The only thing that will help is time, she will go thro loads of emotions before she comes out the other
side, kinda like a bereavement. I think all you can do is be there when she needs you and listen, be
there for her kids too.
yeah that was my frist thought only will heal this wound thanks morganThe only thing that will help is time, she will go thro loads of emotions before she comes out the other
side, kinda like a bereavement. I think all you can do is be there when she needs you and listen, be
there for her kids too.
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well the first thing is she has to get some really booster Vitamins as she is burning gas right now, that did it for me and a flight Solo to Kuala Lumpur Malaysia and Taipei Tiewan 3 months I was out there..
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jus_4you: My sisters 21 year marriage came to a end. Yesterday i got word that her ex sent my sister a text message that he slept with her best friend. she is stressed out to the point where she is yelling at every one including her 14 year old daughter. I want to help but i don`t know what to say to ease the pain can anyone help.
There are FIVE stages of GRIEF!
Here they are:
THE STAGES OF GRIEF
* A Normal Life Process
* Five Stages Of Grief
o 1. Denial and Isolation.
o 2. Anger.
o 3. Bargaining.
o 4. Depression.
o 5. Acceptance.
* Grief And Stress
* Recovering From Grief
GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!
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nuala: She needs time to take in what is actually after happening to her....I would say she is in shock now.....So give her time to scream and shout but please remind her that her daughter has lost her family life too.....As the child needs her mom at this moment in time......Its hard for all concerned........
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friendsfirst: There are FIVE stages of GRIEF!
Here they are:
THE STAGES OF GRIEF
* A Normal Life Process
* Five Stages Of Grief
o 1. Denial and Isolation.
o 2. Anger.
o 3. Bargaining.
o 4. Depression.
o 5. Acceptance.
* Grief And Stress
* Recovering From Grief
GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!
i`ll foward this to her and see how she takes itHere they are:
THE STAGES OF GRIEF
* A Normal Life Process
* Five Stages Of Grief
o 1. Denial and Isolation.
o 2. Anger.
o 3. Bargaining.
o 4. Depression.
o 5. Acceptance.
* Grief And Stress
* Recovering From Grief
GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!
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friendsfirst: There are FIVE stages of GRIEF!
Here they are:
THE STAGES OF GRIEF
* A Normal Life Process
* Five Stages Of Grief
o 1. Denial and Isolation.
o 2. Anger.
o 3. Bargaining.
o 4. Depression.
o 5. Acceptance.
* Grief And Stress
* Recovering From Grief
GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!
Here they are:
THE STAGES OF GRIEF
* A Normal Life Process
* Five Stages Of Grief
o 1. Denial and Isolation.
o 2. Anger.
o 3. Bargaining.
o 4. Depression.
o 5. Acceptance.
* Grief And Stress
* Recovering From Grief
GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!
stages or steps honey?
mmm...i'll pick number 2.
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nuala: She needs time to take in what is actually after happening to her....I would say she is in shock now.....So give her time to scream and shout but please remind her that her daughter has lost her family life too.....As the child needs her mom at this moment in time......Its hard for all concerned........
best answer I have seen yet!
I would add that maybe give your niece your phone number and tell her to call you any time she needs to talk.
But it is still her father.. don't talk him down to her, she still loves him no matter what,, and she should.
just explain to her how badly people can screw up at times and make bad choices.
Sometimes we cant say exactly what we feel.
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SatelliteServer: well the first thing is she has to get some really booster Vitamins as she is burning gas right now, that did it for me and a flight Solo to Kuala Lumpur Malaysia and Taipei Tiewan 3 months I was out there..
Omg.....
....you seem to think that vitamins hold the answer for everything.I would tell my sister to get a grip and to take matters up with the "man" himself if she needs to settle anything....although at this point I feel she'll be wasting precious emotion.
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jus_4you: i`ll foward this to her and see how she takes it
.Seems like she is at the ANGER stage.
Daughter should know these to.14 y.o. girls are very smart.Much smarter than boys at that age.She can help by understanding for instance .It not here fault.
I think that MAYBE ,,just MAYBE if she/THEY, know what coming .
It will HELP!
Glad to be of use here.
GL
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