alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
Accept or walk away. People, men especially, don't change, unless it's for the worse. And the way I see it, what right do I have to decide how someone else should live their life. I have enough work to do on myself, can't be wasting time trying to change someone who doesn't want to.
(Took me almost 50 yrs to figure that out. I'm a little slow! )
alabamabebe: Accept or walk away. People, men especially, don't change, unless it's for the worse. And the way I see it, what right do I have to decide how someone else should live their life. I have enough work to do on myself, can't be wasting time trying to change someone who doesn't want to.
(Took me almost 50 yrs to figure that out. I'm a little slow! )
i should keep that in mind
P.S. We all are slow when we have to accept truths that are not on our taste
i will tell you about what i have experienced this morning.....it was probably 5 or 6 am ( i hate taking a look at the watch when i am staying at home ) when i woke up. I felt like talking to smb but everybody was still sleeping so i had nothing to do inside.Put on quickly my jeans and my purple shirt and went out in the garden( i even forgot to comb my hair, was probably looking like an old crone hahaha). I never told you ,guys, i have so many flowers in my garden (though it's very small) that you never get boured watching them continuously. It's my mom who adores them and takes care of them. I only play the role of admirer So when i went outside they had already started to slowly open up their beautiful corollas, as if waiting for me to be the witness of this morning process.I couldn't resist to touch their petals and feel the softness of their colourful little bodies on my skin.Small dew drops were making their beauty even greater. And the sun was shining so peacefully over them...i suddenly had the feeling there are soooo many things we are missing in our lives just because we let ourselves be overwhelmed by all kind of problems which are sorrounding us like some high walls of darkness beyond which we even don;t dare imagining there might be happiness.I am wondering why can't we see how lucky we are for being alive, for being able to see and stare at the beauties of this world, for being able to walk, to run , to jump and laugh and hug and let to be hugged...well, we're doing all these but we're doing them mechanically, we don't feel them as a real luck and happiness.And that is bothering me:( While staying in the sun, thinking of all these things i suddenly had the need to whisper "i love you''. I never had a stronger need in the past months like this one...It was very weird , since there's no man in my life right now and still....i wanted to whisper these 3 magical words.And i did whisper them.At first i was a lil bit shy but then whispered them louder and louder. Guess they were meant to be heard by the flowers, by the sun and the sky and the wind and the little ants that started to climb my leg as if i was a tree or smth haha and you know what? in the moment i whispered them i felt i am loved too...i just felt it I could distinguish in that morning silence some lovely vibrations coming back to me......
i don't know why i wrote abt it here....maybe smb will pluck up courage and start whispering "i love you" too ?anyway, if u decide to do it, take care to be alone where u are hahaha i once was advised by a "sweet" neighbour to visit a psychiatrist coz i was talking with myself hahaha
RobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK4,553 posts
Never flog a dead horse, it's a waste of your time and energy and makes a terrible mess of the poor horse as well.
Oh and never take out your frustration and inadequacies on others, that makes you lower on the evolutionary scale than a slug sliding up an opened jar full of salt.
Oh and those who preach should take up another hobby, like parachuting.....without the parachute....at night, holding an anchor or a blacksmith's mantle.
alabamabebe: Accept or walk away. People, men especially, don't change, unless it's for the worse. And the way I see it, what right do I have to decide how someone else should live their life. I have enough work to do on myself, can't be wasting time trying to change someone who doesn't want to.
(Took me almost 50 yrs to figure that out. I'm a little slow! )
Men can change for the better..have seen it loads of times... we just have to be strong as women.. and expect nothing less that we deserve....
RobbieM: Never flog a dead horse, it's a waste of your time and energy and makes a terrible mess of the poor horse as well. Oh and never take out your frustration and inadequacies on others, that makes you lower on the evolutionary scale than a slug sliding up an opened jar full of salt.
Oh and those who preach should take up another hobby, like parachuting.....without the parachute....at night, holding an anchor or a blacksmith's mantle.
Emanuellla: i suddenly had the feeling there are soooo many things we are missing in our lives just because we let ourselves be overwhelmed by all kind of problems which are sorrounding us like some high walls of darkness beyond which we even don;t dare imagining there might be happiness.I am wondering why can't we see how lucky we are for being alive, for being able to see and stare at the beauties of this world, for being able to walk, to run , to jump and laugh and hug and let to be hugged...well, we're doing all these but we're doing them mechanically, we don't feel them as a real luck and happiness.And that is bothering me:( While staying in the sun, thinking of all these things i suddenly had the need to whisper "i love you''. I never had a stronger need in the past months like this one...It was very weird , since there's no man in my life right now and still....i wanted to whisper these 3 magical words.And i did whisper them.At first i was a lil bit shy but then whispered them louder and louder. Guess they were meant to be heard by the flowers, by the sun and the sky and the wind and the little ants that started to climb my leg as if i was a tree or smth haha and you know what? in the moment i whispered them i felt i am loved too...i just felt it I could distinguish in that morning silence some lovely vibrations coming back to me......
i don't know why i wrote abt it here....maybe smb will pluck up courage and start whispering "i love you" too ?anyway, if u decide to do it, take care to be alone where u are hahaha i once was advised by a "sweet" neighbour to visit a psychiatrist coz i was talking with myself hahaha
Manolitoa strfilled galaxy far faraway, Greater London, England UK1,611 posts
Emanuellla: i will tell you about what i have experienced this morning.....it was probably 5 or 6 am ( i hate taking a look at the watch when i am staying at home ) when i woke up. I felt like talking to smb but everybody was still sleeping so i had nothing to do inside.Put on quickly my jeans and my purple shirt and went out in the garden( i even forgot to comb my hair, was probably looking like an old crone hahaha). I never told you ,guys, i have so many flowers in my garden (though it's very small) that you never get boured watching them continuously. It's my mom who adores them and takes care of them. I only play the role of admirer So when i went outside they had already started to slowly open up their beautiful corollas, as if waiting for me to be the witness of this morning process.I couldn't resist to touch their petals and feel the softness of their colourful little bodies on my skin.Small dew drops were making their beauty even greater. And the sun was shining so peacefully over them...i suddenly had the feeling there are soooo many things we are missing in our lives just because we let ourselves be overwhelmed by all kind of problems which are sorrounding us like some high walls of darkness beyond which we even don;t dare imagining there might be happiness.I am wondering why can't we see how lucky we are for being alive, for being able to see and stare at the beauties of this world, for being able to walk, to run , to jump and laugh and hug and let to be hugged...well, we're doing all these but we're doing them mechanically, we don't feel them as a real luck and happiness.And that is bothering me:( While staying in the sun, thinking of all these things i suddenly had the need to whisper "i love you''. I never had a stronger need in the past months like this one...It was very weird , since there's no man in my life right now and still....i wanted to whisper these 3 magical words.And i did whisper them.At first i was a lil bit shy but then whispered them louder and louder. Guess they were meant to be heard by the flowers, by the sun and the sky and the wind and the little ants that started to climb my leg as if i was a tree or smth haha and you know what? in the moment i whispered them i felt i am loved too...i just felt it I could distinguish in that morning silence some lovely vibrations coming back to me......
i don't know why i wrote abt it here....maybe smb will pluck up courage and start whispering "i love you" too ?anyway, if u decide to do it, take care to be alone where u are hahaha i once was advised by a "sweet" neighbour to visit a psychiatrist coz i was talking with myself hahaha
I am reserved about telling people how i feel .. ..... it takes alot of determined efforts to share ..
I have realised but its not a very great trait cos sometimes u miss out on telling someone what they would love to hear from you ... how u feel ... and in return you land up missing the joy of that moment ...
Many times life doesnt give u a second chance .. all that love and affection which could have brought unseen happiness to someone is all lost in vain .. as it never touched them ..
All i am trying to say is .. you never know what tommorow has in store .. so if what you got to share is not going to harm or hurt anyone .. i think its a better bet to share .. to tell them ..
Manolitoa strfilled galaxy far faraway, Greater London, England UK1,611 posts
riyablossom: hmm ..
I am reserved about telling people how i feel .. ..... it takes alot of determined efforts to share ..
I have realised but its not a very great trait cos sometimes u miss out on telling someone what they would love to hear from you ... how u feel ... and in return you land up missing the joy of that moment ...
Many times life doesnt give u a second chance .. all that love and affection which could have brought unseen happiness to someone is all lost in vain .. as it never touched them ..
All i am trying to say is .. you never know what tommorow has in store .. so if what you got to share is not going to harm or hurt anyone .. i think its a better bet to share .. to tell them ..
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(Took me almost 50 yrs to figure that out. I'm a little slow! )