best way to get over someone who passed so suddenly ( Archived) (36)

My friend died on the 19th of June
I miss her and I keep remembering moments and places and talks we shared ... but she will always be with me in spirit and ...I am working on letting her go

thanks to you all

aww i am so so sorry...

When someone does this and you really dont know why..

and things go through ur head wondering if he had of spoken up..

could we of help this person..

ur mind will go crazy thinking about this...

Its pains..No one will ever really know the reason why people do this...

Some think this is the way to go...

I am sorry you and others have to go through this...

Maybe you all can help one another and just be there and listen...

I know it may never ever go away...

Time will certainly help...

Cry ur eyes out...

let it all out...this will help..

dont keep it bottle up in side...

We will all be here to help...

Talking it out also does help...

Much love and prayers to you my dear...

I'm so sorry. You must feel just horrible but you have to remember the good times and know that he would not want you feeling bad about something he chose to do. We're all here if you need to vent or a shoulder to cry on.

Know that here you are not alone - and thoughts and prayers go with you.

I am very very sorry for your loss the fact is, is time is the factor here, you must use it instead of letting it use you, your friend would be very sad if he knew you were going through this tough of a time.when i lost my mother who was our dad and mother it was very hard, damn hard because we lost everything, but i dealt with it like when thoughts would come up sad, which were all the time, i would actually mentally remove that thought like a file and replace it with busying myself and remembering the good times, after "time" (which is your factor here)and training myself to do that, the pain lessened somewhat, but i haved learned this about us humans and pain, we are all the same, we hurt just as bad and go through these stages, the only difference is? it all depends on how quickly we go through the stages:1.denial, 2.anger, 3. and finally acceptance of what IS, all through these steps there is sadness, we all go through this, it is one of our processes in life, you know what you are up against so try and use the factor of time to an advantage even though it is hard, after you heal you can always come back to these days in your head and know you survived the heartbreak.We have approximately 27,000 days to live on earth just remember you are here for a reason and so was he, accept the things that you cannot change.I hope i didn't make things worse, sometimes i say things wrong but in this i felt so bad for you that i had to share, again i am sorry and will pray that my lord guides you on your way to recovery from this great loss.Amen,R

Hi,,,,you are a lovely young lady. I read your post here. I thought about the people I have lost over the years,,and the close friends I know that also lost people..suicide,,overdose,,killings,accidents,,,this is heavy stuff to deal with,,,I read that you are taking some meds....I know you say you dont want to talk with a "doctor" ,,I do encourage you to at least tell them that the meds are not working..it is important as some meds can even make you feel worse. I am in no way discounting your loss,,in fact after reading it I was reminded of a old friend who lost two girl friends ,,,at different points in his life that shot themselves ,,,,,,just tragic,,,,he was obviously devestated and somehow is still alive. Maybe when the time is right you can talk with someone,,,,they might not tell you it is all right,,they might just listen,,,you never know...as many here have already said, you have people here that are very caring and willing to talk with you.
I pray you mourn your loss and heal your loss to live as you would have loved to see your friend also live and prosper. I hope some of this helps....you can also talk with me if you wish,,,,many people talk with me,,,they always tell their hairdresser everything,,,thats me,,
My condolences