Who To Trust ( Archived) (75)

best of luck to you

I agree and it's now become a fear for me!! Of course men suffer as much, just not the ones I have had.

let me tell you woman all men are dogs and bad ones until that dog finds the right trainer then it acts right rule with a iron fist you got the upper hand in life all women do cause you got the candy or cookie jar so to speak so use it to your advantage and be strong and demanding trust is earned not just givin away be smart sorry about the spelling

This could sound really bad if you take it the wrong way, but it could be 'a numbers game'.

I'd never consciously take the attitude 'the more the merrier' as I'm a sensitive soul and losing out in a relationship can hurt just as much when you are older as when you lost your first love. The one good thing about being slightly 'older and a little wiser' is that the mourning process of lost love can take less time and there isn't the need to consider yourself or the other person a failure - just face the fact that 'it didn't work out' and 'that it wasn't meant to be'.

Like 64% of the whole population (according to some recent report) I too have suffered from depression; it's no big deal if you can recognise it and eventually deal with it - though your life can almost be unbearable if you suffer and feel there is no future.

In relation to CS this is what happened to me; I met some wonderful women via CS - none of the relationships worked out............ then I met somebody who seems perfect for me and vice versa. We didn't meet via CS, but maybe meeting the lovely ladies from CS helped me recognise I'd met the right person when I did.

You might not like this, but (like I said before) it could be a 'numbers game'. You won't meet the right person until you 'get out there'. You won't know if the person you meet and feel strongly about is the right person for you until you both try. It might not work, but at least you both tried. Next! The next might not be the man or woman you're looking for either. Next!

Listen, I am NOT advocating a string of meaningless relationships - what I AM saying is that when you meet somebody and you think you love them but it doesn't work out there is no point whatsoever in either blaming yourself or the other person. Right? It's not going to get you anywhere; especially if you hate yourself for having 'failed'.

Pull your pants back on, blow her/him a kiss.... and move on with a smile - then one day you'll meet the right person for you and you'll be that person's 'right person' too - you can at last relax and accept each other's love and know all the heartache on the way was worth it!

Good luck!

Thankyou Daniel ! I am working hard at getting past this, and I will do it that I do know.

Hey hun I'm sorry but there is not a whole lot of advise I can give you you just have to go with your insticts, and as far as them calling you babe or baby it still is up in the air it depends on the content in which it was used among many other variables, but if he hardly knows you and he is saying it in a serious way, I would have my doubts, I don't know because for instance ME I call people hun all the time and I'm not attracted to alot of the people its just how I talk. If you don't ever take a chance then YOU will be alone and if you do you can always have a first meeting in a public setting and even bring a friend If they are a descent person they will understand. But not trying to offend you hun, but to me you come off as being too trustfull and a bit niave, I would ask a few close personal friends what they think... either way good luck to you