Dreamer82: I've done all I can to make friends with different ladies here. In fact, have a lot of friends. When it come to developing a relationship it becomes impossible because they're all spread out in other place. It does me no good to send messages to people closer because they don't send message back.
I met this great woman really sweet, and very beautiful. I thought our relationship was going great. I was even willing to look past the fact that she had 3 kids. I did everything I could, but she said she couldn't handle the distance. That was the end of it.
I've enjoyed meeting people from all over, but I'm looking for a girlfriend, and nobody close wants anything to do with me. I can't help, but think I'm being ignored. Does anybody else here have this problem? What have you done about it?
Many times Ive heard people say they think they are being ignored and have even thought it myself - but it isnt really the case - often in threads, people are on a roll and may not notice people who only post occasionally....... when I felt this way, yes, it was a toughie to get my head round but, not being the kinda person to allow defeat to overpower me I set my course for simply ignoring people whom I found negative or hostile, prone to anger or outbursts and determined to carry on regardless.
The forums are a great way of letting people know what you are about and how yr mind ticks over - I say join in with some of the conversations from time to time and let people see your mind at work.......
I reckon its a pretty healthy attitude to question whether or not you may be being ignored but I have never actually found this to be the case here - rather more and opposite to that, I have found people all too ready to offer the hand of friendship very willingly........
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
katiecharlyn: haha.....i ran a long ways for you this.........
haha!!!
You are better than me!... every time I buy some cake or chocolate.. I always seen to eat it before it gets there!.. Then have to buy it all over again..
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
trish123: Many times Ive heard people say they think they are being ignored and have even thought it myself - but it isnt really the case - often in threads, people are on a roll and may not notice people who only post occasionally....... when I felt this way, yes, it was a toughie to get my head round but, not being the kinda person to allow defeat to overpower me I set my course for simply ignoring people whom I found negative or hostile, prone to anger or outbursts and determined to carry on regardless.
The forums are a great way of letting people know what you are about and how yr mind ticks over - I say join in with some of the conversations from time to time and let people see your mind at work.......
I reckon its a pretty healthy attitude to question whether or not you may be being ignored but I have never actually found this to be the case here - rather more and opposite to that, I have found people all too ready to offer the hand of friendship very willingly........
Yep I agree with Trish..
Maybe start to join in more in the forums Dreamer..
and how about posting a piccy
People really do prefer to see who they are talking to.. I think you would find it helps a lot.
Dreamer82: I've done all I can to make friends with different ladies here. In fact, have a lot of friends. When it come to developing a relationship it becomes impossible because they're all spread out in other place. It does me no good to send messages to people closer because they don't send message back.
I met this great woman really sweet, and very beautiful. I thought our relationship was going great. I was even willing to look past the fact that she had 3 kids. I did everything I could, but she said she couldn't handle the distance. That was the end of it.
I've enjoyed meeting people from all over, but I'm looking for a girlfriend, and nobody close wants anything to do with me. I can't help, but think I'm being ignored. Does anybody else here have this problem? What have you done about it?
My problem is, the men i meet here, are never what i expect them to be. Take for instance tonight, i met this guy who looks amazing, but isn't very clever. I met this other guy the other day, but, there isn't chemistry between us....so, we're just friends.
I like this guy ( he's the complete package) but (again) he's a continent away.
Friendships aren't the problem. I've made a lot of friends here. The problems come when I get to be interested, and they're too damn far away. The distance kills it for me.
trish123: Many times Ive heard people say they think they are being ignored and have even thought it myself - but it isnt really the case - often in threads, people are on a roll and may not notice people who only post occasionally....... when I felt this way, yes, it was a toughie to get my head round but, not being the kinda person to allow defeat to overpower me I set my course for simply ignoring people whom I found negative or hostile, prone to anger or outbursts and determined to carry on regardless.
The forums are a great way of letting people know what you are about and how yr mind ticks over - I say join in with some of the conversations from time to time and let people see your mind at work.......
I reckon its a pretty healthy attitude to question whether or not you may be being ignored but I have never actually found this to be the case here - rather more and opposite to that, I have found people all too ready to offer the hand of friendship very willingly........
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
Dreamer82: Friendships aren't the problem. I've made a lot of friends here. The problems come when I get to be interested, and they're too damn far away. The distance kills it for me.
It does for lot's of us.. But it's better to hang around and have a laugh about being bored and single.. and see whats around the corner..
lusciousmile: My problem is, the men i meet here, are never what i expect them to be. Take for instance tonight, i met this guy who looks amazing, but isn't very clever. I met this other guy the other day, but, there isn't chemistry between us....so, we're just friends.
I like this guy ( he's the complete package) but (again) he's a continent away.
Claayer: Ermm.. actually.. I was being sarcastic..
Trying to count to 10.. and say something nicer than What a frickin horrible thing to say! ..
But as I have am PMTeasey at the moment..
I have to watch my mouth... and can't say things like that..
hahaha
I think he meant to say he'd see right *through* your kids, not *past* them, Claire. Looking past them would be downright rude, while being able to see through him probably indicates useful super powers...?
You know, keeping them in will make you burst at any unplanned moment. No good <- Not a Jedi btw.
The pmt thing we guys not really talk about after the few early shocks in the teens. We learn to live with it, or we just have it in the DNA to take it since it is there to stay
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
EnSilencio: ¿ Now the audience wonder - are the kids hiding under the stairs or is it YOU (they learn fast, kids) that is locked in with your computer?
Exciting episode follows (that would be the time just after and later just before pmt...)
... My boys are great.. They understand 'women'..
They frequently (well, like .. once a month.. haha!).. have to run to the shop for ice cream and chocolate supplies for my daughter and I..
They will be highly trained in the ways of Woman AND- PMT by the time I release them into the dating world.
My youngest son.. (12).. said.. 'When my girlfriend has her period.. I will give her a tub of ice cream and a big spoon.. and tell her I will be back later'
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I met this great woman really sweet, and very beautiful. I thought our relationship was going great. I was even willing to look past the fact that she had 3 kids. I did everything I could, but she said she couldn't handle the distance. That was the end of it.
I've enjoyed meeting people from all over, but I'm looking for a girlfriend, and nobody close wants anything to do with me. I can't help, but think I'm being ignored. Does anybody else here have this problem? What have you done about it?
Many times Ive heard people say they think they are being ignored and have even thought it myself - but it isnt really the case - often in threads, people are on a roll and may not notice people who only post occasionally....... when I felt this way, yes, it was a toughie to get my head round but, not being the kinda person to allow defeat to overpower me I set my course for simply ignoring people whom I found negative or hostile, prone to anger or outbursts and determined to carry on regardless.
The forums are a great way of letting people know what you are about and how yr mind ticks over - I say join in with some of the conversations from time to time and let people see your mind at work.......
I reckon its a pretty healthy attitude to question whether or not you may be being ignored but I have never actually found this to be the case here - rather more and opposite to that, I have found people all too ready to offer the hand of friendship very willingly........