Reasons for ending a "true" friendship ??!!?? (41)
Ray33: Heya Guys and Girls,
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
That sounds like being used !! I agree with you .... friendship is a two way street !!
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Do we not try to get the best out of all friendships?
I have a handful of friends, I gain the best from them all.
Like any relationship, lover, children, parents, whoever crosses our lives, we all want the best from the people that enter our hearts.
In my experience, friends have always stated 'I am here for you, take what you need, you never know one day, I may need to also'
If you feel antagonistic or resentful about giving to any relationship, then it is wrong.
I have a handful of friends, I gain the best from them all.
Like any relationship, lover, children, parents, whoever crosses our lives, we all want the best from the people that enter our hearts.
In my experience, friends have always stated 'I am here for you, take what you need, you never know one day, I may need to also'
If you feel antagonistic or resentful about giving to any relationship, then it is wrong.
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Ray33: Heya Guys and Girls,
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
You have to know your boundaries ! If it ever comes to the stage where you are feeling that the friendship is not equal IMO talk first thaen if it is not sorted perhaps it is not true friendship!
Luckily for me I have good friendships , I have never needed to take any form of action in regards to leaving friendships but I would if it was necessary!
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Ray33: Heya Guys and Girls,
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
1st off, "true" friendship doesn't end.
2nd, like Sommer mentioned - Pretty much everyone is out to "get the best out of it," that's why friendship is such a wonderful thing -- We each get "the best" part of it. Sometimes that means we give it and sometimes it means that we take it, but it's still the best.
Lastly, you're partly right - Nothing in life should be one way. But you missed a key point: In a "true" friendship, even when things are one way, they're still BOTH ways...
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Ray33: Heya Guys and Girls,
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
Hey Ray
This happened to me nearly 2 yrs ago.. Having to drop a friend.
It hurt me soooo much.. because I am one of those 'Friends for life' kind of people.
She and I had been the closest of friends for 15yrs.. shared everything.. everyday stuff.. and knew each other deepest darkest secrets. We have laughed and laughed and cried and cried together.. and everything in between. (we went through a LOT of things together)
Trust is a HUGELY important thing to me.. in any kind of my relationships.. friends family children.. partners.
I trusted her with my life..
The first time she broke my trust it was quite small.. and although I was hurt.. I thought it was just a bit of a mistake. So although I wondered, I just let it go.
The second time it happened I became more aware that it wasn't a mistake... and stopped trusting her with my my inner most feelings and most important things. But I tried to still carry on as if everything was okay.. but emotionally backed away from her a lot.
But when it happened for a third time .. I lost totally trust in her.. and was so hurt and offended that I cut all contact with her immediately.
and it reeeeeeeally hurt me.. It hurt me like losing one of the 'Loves of my life' ... I cried A LOT.. (for a long LONG time) and it still makes my eyes leaky even now.. because I know I dumped one of the closest tightest friendships I will ever have.
We live in the same town.. but no longer mix in the same circles.. It's such a strange atmosphere when we bump into each other.. because you can actually SEE how hurt we both are.. yet still I cant go back..
I just wouldn't trust her again.
She is actually the only friend I have ever 'lost'.
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But I still know I would be the first person there if something happened to her.
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I dropped a female friend about 2 years ago. Her favorite past-time was male bashing. It got old...
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Indyfella: I dropped a female friend about 2 years ago. Her favorite past-time was male bashing. It got old...
::bashes Indy in the ankle:::
::runs off:::
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Claayer: Hey Ray
This happened to me nearly 2 yrs ago.. Having to drop a friend.
It hurt me soooo much.. because I am one of those 'Friends for life' kind of people.
She and I had been the closest of friends for 15yrs.. shared everything.. everyday stuff.. and knew each other deepest darkest secrets. We have laughed and laughed and cried and cried together.. and everything in between. (we went through a LOT of things together)
Trust is a HUGELY important thing to me.. in any kind of my relationships.. friends family children.. partners.
I trusted her with my life..
The first time she broke my trust it was quite small.. and although I was hurt.. I thought it was just a bit of a mistake. So although I wondered, I just let it go.
The second time it happened I became more aware that it wasn't a mistake... and stopped trusting her with my my inner most feelings and most important things. But I tried to still carry on as if everything was okay.. but emotionally backed away from her a lot.
But when it happened for a third time .. I lost totally trust in her.. and was so hurt and offended that I cut all contact with her immediately.
and it reeeeeeeally hurt me.. It hurt me like losing one of the 'Loves of my life' ... I cried A LOT.. (for a long LONG time) and it still makes my eyes leaky even now.. because I know I dumped one of the closest tightest friendships I will ever have.
We live in the same town.. but no longer mix in the same circles.. It's such a strange atmosphere when we bump into each other.. because you can actually SEE how hurt we both are.. yet still I cant go back..
I just wouldn't trust her again.
She is actually the only friend I have ever 'lost'.
This happened to me nearly 2 yrs ago.. Having to drop a friend.
It hurt me soooo much.. because I am one of those 'Friends for life' kind of people.
She and I had been the closest of friends for 15yrs.. shared everything.. everyday stuff.. and knew each other deepest darkest secrets. We have laughed and laughed and cried and cried together.. and everything in between. (we went through a LOT of things together)
Trust is a HUGELY important thing to me.. in any kind of my relationships.. friends family children.. partners.
I trusted her with my life..
The first time she broke my trust it was quite small.. and although I was hurt.. I thought it was just a bit of a mistake. So although I wondered, I just let it go.
The second time it happened I became more aware that it wasn't a mistake... and stopped trusting her with my my inner most feelings and most important things. But I tried to still carry on as if everything was okay.. but emotionally backed away from her a lot.
But when it happened for a third time .. I lost totally trust in her.. and was so hurt and offended that I cut all contact with her immediately.
and it reeeeeeeally hurt me.. It hurt me like losing one of the 'Loves of my life' ... I cried A LOT.. (for a long LONG time) and it still makes my eyes leaky even now.. because I know I dumped one of the closest tightest friendships I will ever have.
We live in the same town.. but no longer mix in the same circles.. It's such a strange atmosphere when we bump into each other.. because you can actually SEE how hurt we both are.. yet still I cant go back..
I just wouldn't trust her again.
She is actually the only friend I have ever 'lost'.
Aww Claayer but it was 100% the right , healthy reaction from you ! Why bother have that kind of friend , I personally would prefer to go to the newspapers and broadcast it myself ! Sorry you experienced it , but what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!!
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livinglarge: Aww Claayer but it was 100% the right , healthy reaction from you ! Why bother have that kind of friend , I personally would prefer to go to the newspapers and broadcast it myself ! Sorry you experienced it , but what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!!
hellloooo I know you are right.. but it is still one of my biggest regrets.. I KNOW she would have me back in a flash too.. She knows what she did.. and I know she is sooo hurt too. But I just can't do it.. and I know I never will. Stupid really..
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Claayer: hellloooo
I know you are right.. but it is still one of my biggest regrets.. I KNOW she would have me back in a flash too.. She knows what she did.. and I know she is sooo hurt too. But I just can't do it.. and I know I never will. Stupid really..
No it is not stupid !! What is stupid is , your friend wanting to be the bearer of gossip .... of course she didn't mean to hurt you , but really she should have valued being in your life a bit more !! When someone tells me something in confidence , I keep that in confidence , or will die trying !I know you are right.. but it is still one of my biggest regrets.. I KNOW she would have me back in a flash too.. She knows what she did.. and I know she is sooo hurt too. But I just can't do it.. and I know I never will. Stupid really..
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livinglarge: No it is not stupid !! What is stupid is , your friend wanting to be the bearer of gossip .... of course she didn't mean to hurt you , but really she should have valued being in your life a bit more !! When someone tells me something in confidence , I keep that in confidence , or will die trying !
Yep thats how I am too.. It a BIG thing to me.. and I always 'assume' everyone is the same. (nope, NEVER assume)
Thankyou
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Claayer: Yep thats how I am too.. It a BIG thing to me.. and I always 'assume' everyone is the same. (nope, NEVER assume )Thankyou
Its HUGE to me , but its sad not to be able to !"assume" that your friend won't divulge !! Her loss , and I am sure she will always miss you
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Sommerauer71: Do we not try to get the best out of all friendships?
If you feel antagonistic or resentful about giving to any relationship, then it is wrong.
.If you feel antagonistic or resentful about giving to any relationship, then it is wrong.
This is so right...but the most important fact is that as friends you should be equal and not be EGOCENTRIC. Friends among each others always try to create win win situations...where we can gain from each other...mostly wisdom. I rather have friends I can learn from and WHO CAN LEARN FROM ME too...not just me gaining from them. I mean it sounds nice but I think its nicer to wake up or top walk away knowing that you have learned someone something good...
The moment I notice the opposite its bye bye swye swye...
I'd rather take my time in hanging with people that know the real value of true friends.
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For years my best friend was Sue... we had been roommates at one time, took holidays together, went out together all the time... and always had the best time together. For years when we went out and started chatting to men, if there was someone we were both interested in... I always backed off and left her to it, after all a friend is for life and guys come and go
We were out of town for a weekend and met this guy... well the chemistry between us was amazing.... and for the first time in 7 years I didn´t back off. He made it clear that he had no interest in her but wanted to get to know me better... I stood my ground and that was the last I saw of my friend that weekend, she had the car and left me. Luckily the connection between the man in question was good and he drove me home... after a lovely weekend. I was with the guy for a year and a half and almost wound up marrying him.
She was angry because I hadn´t backed off as I normally did... the friendship was never the same again although we do see each other occasionally.
We were out of town for a weekend and met this guy... well the chemistry between us was amazing.... and for the first time in 7 years I didn´t back off. He made it clear that he had no interest in her but wanted to get to know me better... I stood my ground and that was the last I saw of my friend that weekend, she had the car and left me. Luckily the connection between the man in question was good and he drove me home... after a lovely weekend. I was with the guy for a year and a half and almost wound up marrying him.
She was angry because I hadn´t backed off as I normally did... the friendship was never the same again although we do see each other occasionally.
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Claayer: ::bashes Indy in the ankle::: ::runs off:::
LOL...
it did get old...though...
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Indyfella: LOL...
it did get old...though...
it did get old...though...
Yep.. I'm sure it did.
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Claayer: Yep.. I'm sure it did.
Well, she booted her hubby out of the house...(and he was a fairly nice guy)...then she was pissed cuz he wouldn't help her out with everything. Then, over time...it grew to her dissatisfaction with all men.
I hung in there a long time...then said... "enough for me" .....I'm out too.
And life goes on...
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Indyfella: Well, she booted her hubby out of the house...(and he was a fairly nice guy)...then she was pissed cuz he wouldn't help her out with everything. Then, over time...it grew to her dissatisfaction with all men.
I hung in there a long time...then said... "enough for me" .....I'm out too. And life goes on...
I hung in there a long time...then said... "enough for me" .....I'm out too. And life goes on...
Brings up an interesting point: Why is there a word to describe a man who hates women (Mysoginist), but not a word for a woman who hates men? (I think the closest we could come to such a term would be "male-directed misanthrope.")
Okay, I know - time to go clean out the truck and take it to the yard!
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What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol