Reasons for ending a "true" friendship ??!!?? (41)
Lonely1Ottawa, Ontario Canada76 Threads 21 Polls 1,858 Posts...if it is always my money that is buying the booze.
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I had to just recently end a friendship because the person wanted alot more then friendship which I felt I wasn't up to giving them right now.
They also became overbearing and it was like they were trying to pressure me into making a commintment.
They also threw up in my face the fact that I hadn't defended them in a bad situation even though there was proof they were in the wrong. They were trying to make me feel guilty which caused me to become defensive and the breakup of the friendship became very heated.
Right now I feel sad about what I had to do but I saw no other way out of this.
They also admitted to some things which I had no knowledge of or reconigzed right away. I guess I was going through the grieving process that I was to blind to see the signs. It's like that person was taking advantage of my weakness.Then some recent things began taking place so I decided to break off this friendship for my own well being.
They also became overbearing and it was like they were trying to pressure me into making a commintment.
They also threw up in my face the fact that I hadn't defended them in a bad situation even though there was proof they were in the wrong. They were trying to make me feel guilty which caused me to become defensive and the breakup of the friendship became very heated.
Right now I feel sad about what I had to do but I saw no other way out of this.
They also admitted to some things which I had no knowledge of or reconigzed right away. I guess I was going through the grieving process that I was to blind to see the signs. It's like that person was taking advantage of my weakness.Then some recent things began taking place so I decided to break off this friendship for my own well being.
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Ray33: .This is so right...but the most important fact is that as friends you should be equal and not be EGOCENTRIC. Friends among each others always try to create win win situations...where we can gain from each other...mostly wisdom. I rather have friends I can learn from and WHO CAN LEARN FROM ME too...not just me gaining from them. I mean it sounds nice but I think its nicer to wake up or top walk away knowing that you have learned someone something good...
The moment I notice the opposite its bye bye swye swye...
I'd rather take my time in hanging with people that know the real value of true friends.
The moment I notice the opposite its bye bye swye swye...
I'd rather take my time in hanging with people that know the real value of true friends.
Ok, so what is the value of true friends?
This is how I see it.
You may not always agree, you may have the odd cross word, yet they are the people you would get up in the middle of the night for if they were stuck...
I ask myself, would I do it for them? Yes, would they do it for me? Yes.
It is about what you and you alone value as a true friendship, my levels of friendship may be different from yours, what you find acceptable in a friendship may differ from what I find acceptable...
It is down to the individual, what they want and expect and what and how much they want to give in that relationship...
I have dear friends, we speak once a week, we are scattered all over the world, but we are there, for many years, through ups and downs, we have had cross words, but I ask would my life be better without them? No, it has been enhanced by them...
I do not count how many times my friends have needed me, as they do not, it goes without saying...
As with any relationship, nobody has a right to our love, we choose who to give it to, yet when it goes wrong, humans being humans, often blame the other....
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The_Kansan: Brings up an interesting point: Why is there a word to describe a man who hates women (Mysoginist), but not a word for a woman who hates men? (I think the closest we could come to such a term would be "male-directed misanthrope.")
Okay, I know - time to go clean out the truck and take it to the yard!
Because when a man hates women there's something wrong with him, when a woman hates men there's usually a dang good reason! Okay, I know - time to go clean out the truck and take it to the yard!
GM Don!
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alabamabebe: Because when a man hates women there's something wrong with him, when a woman hates men there's usually a dang good reason!
GM Don!
GM Don!
Hi darling
I don't hate you and there is a good dangle reason for it
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i think true frenship never ends
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alabamabebe: Because when a man hates women there's something wrong with him, when a woman hates men there's usually a dang good reason!
GM Don!
GM Don!
I love my mom. Its my dad i can't stand. Whats the reason for this!
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somechick: I had to just recently end a friendship because the person wanted alot more then friendship which I felt I wasn't up to giving them right now.
They also became overbearing and it was like they were trying to pressure me into making a commintment.
They also threw up in my face the fact that I hadn't defended them in a bad situation even though there was proof they were in the wrong. They were trying to make me feel guilty which caused me to become defensive and the breakup of the friendship became very heated.
Right now I feel sad about what I had to do but I saw no other way out of this.
They also admitted to some things which I had no knowledge of or reconigzed right away. I guess I was going through the grieving process that I was to blind to see the signs. It's like that person was taking advantage of my weakness.Then some recent things began taking place so I decided to break off this friendship for my own well being.
They also became overbearing and it was like they were trying to pressure me into making a commintment.
They also threw up in my face the fact that I hadn't defended them in a bad situation even though there was proof they were in the wrong. They were trying to make me feel guilty which caused me to become defensive and the breakup of the friendship became very heated.
Right now I feel sad about what I had to do but I saw no other way out of this.
They also admitted to some things which I had no knowledge of or reconigzed right away. I guess I was going through the grieving process that I was to blind to see the signs. It's like that person was taking advantage of my weakness.Then some recent things began taking place so I decided to break off this friendship for my own well being.
Somechick
When a friendship affects your health and well being then you have to do what is right for you...
If the friendship is not negotiable then you have to let go...
But as the OP stated, what if that person is in it for the best they can get out, I want my friends to gain the best from our union...
A friendship is not about pressure, it is about giving a friend enough space and offering options, of they choose an option that they are not happy with then they have little respect for your thoughts...
And hi by the way...
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A lack of boundaries and integrity and too much drama have been key factors in my past decisions.
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constanza: A lack of boundaries and integrity and too much drama have been key factors in my past decisions.
how about religion? was that a factor?
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airliner: how about religion? was that a factor?
Nooo.......never......
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Ray33: Heya Guys and Girls,
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
What could or would be the trigger for you to bring an end to a "true" so called friendship??
I mean...if I had someone who I would call a friend and I should notice that they are only into the friendship to get the best out of it....that would definately be it for me....cause no friendship ..as a matter of fact nothing in life should be one way because it takes mostly two to makeup things...
What do you think about this? Give your own maybe short experience...
Thanx and I hope this didn't really come out as a tread already... lol
I have ended friendships...for breaking my trust and deception....I don't really consider those true friends though because if they were...those things wouldn't have happened....I guess they were true..one-sided friendships....I give my friendship without any expectation....but trust and honesty are the two most important things to me in any relationship...whether it be a friendship or a partnership....those 2 things at least I do expect and I have spent a long time clearing people from my life that have caused me pain and stress in general because they lack those 2 things...so I absolutely will not over-look them for anyone...
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somechick: I had to just recently end a friendship because the person wanted alot more then friendship which I felt I wasn't up to giving them right now.
They also became overbearing and it was like they were trying to pressure me into making a commintment.
They also threw up in my face the fact that I hadn't defended them in a bad situation even though there was proof they were in the wrong. They were trying to make me feel guilty which caused me to become defensive and the breakup of the friendship became very heated.
Right now I feel sad about what I had to do but I saw no other way out of this.
They also admitted to some things which I had no knowledge of or reconigzed right away. I guess I was going through the grieving process that I was to blind to see the signs. It's like that person was taking advantage of my weakness.Then some recent things began taking place so I decided to break off this friendship for my own well being.
They also became overbearing and it was like they were trying to pressure me into making a commintment.
They also threw up in my face the fact that I hadn't defended them in a bad situation even though there was proof they were in the wrong. They were trying to make me feel guilty which caused me to become defensive and the breakup of the friendship became very heated.
Right now I feel sad about what I had to do but I saw no other way out of this.
They also admitted to some things which I had no knowledge of or reconigzed right away. I guess I was going through the grieving process that I was to blind to see the signs. It's like that person was taking advantage of my weakness.Then some recent things began taking place so I decided to break off this friendship for my own well being.
thats a tuff situation
im sorry you had to go thru this
i think ive experienced similar things
its hard to say no when someone has been nice
it makes me feel nauseous-always wondering if its me...
good job
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I do not feel TRUE friendship ever ends. When I give my friendship, it is for life. I am always there for the person, even if they wrong me. I DO have boundaries in place. I have experienced situations were others wanted more than I could give, however, when we sat down and discussed the situations we always stayed friends. Perhaps not as close as we were but we did remain friends that would be there for each other. I have been more fortunate in my friendships than in my marriage or in the two engagements following my Husband's death. Maybe there is something there? I seem to know how to pick good friends but not good mates? A puzzle.
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hmm I luckily have not many close friends or rather i find it hard and am happy. I find it difficult to keep up once let down.
One of the very dear and true friendships that i ended was cos he fell in love with me. He said he could keep both the feelings separate and not affect us. But I felt very strongly this is not going to be possible and i would be hurting him the most by continuing knowing this.
One of the very dear and true friendships that i ended was cos he fell in love with me. He said he could keep both the feelings separate and not affect us. But I felt very strongly this is not going to be possible and i would be hurting him the most by continuing knowing this.
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Betrayal.......... Break the trust, I don't look back..
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Would not hold it against you either, what you do is your business. For me, when it is over, it is over..
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HJFinAZ: Betrayal.......... Break the trust, I don't look back..
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Claayer: But I still know I would be the first person there if something happened to her.
Claayer you are a class act a real class act...
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I ended a friendship sadly over a woman I knew since 13 yrs. old,we were in school together.As an adult she and my commited boyfriend,went behind my back and did the wild thing.In front of me they never gave me a clue.I ended it with both though I cared for both very much.Trust issue came in to play.Maybe if it had been another 2 people another time in my life I would have let it go, I forgave them for the act but the trust as I said in all ways was gone with both.
Having said that,I at this time in my life have only a few people I really want to call friends,can't say for sure,but would forgive theses few much if they apologized sincerely for whatever.True friends arn't that easy to come by.I prefer many people stay aquaintances.
I forgave them for the act but the trust as I said in all ways was gone with both.Having said that,I at this time in my life have only a few people I really want to call friends,can't say for sure,but would forgive theses few much if they apologized sincerely for whatever.True friends arn't that easy to come by.I prefer many people stay aquaintances.
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