did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ? (11)
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There are things that my parents did right that I do with my kids...they taught me solid values like honesty, being a good friend, helping others. They also taught me to stand up for myself.
However, they never taught me the value of a dollar. Dad was a pilot and made good money, so we had everything we wanted. That didn't do me a lot of good long-term.
Also, there are things I don't wish to repeat. My mom was abusive physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I haven't done any of that to my own kids. Also, mom runs the household absolute, it's her way or the highway, and dad knows he'd better enforce it if he wants peace (and piece). Dad has a backbone...surprises us on the rare times it shows, but he seems to be content to let her rule. I believe in the equal partnership that they espoused, even if it's not 100% the way it is. (There are ways in which it is...it's complex, so I don't know how to explain better...I know I just contradicted myself.)
They raised me solidly Christian...mostly Catholic. I am raising my sons solidly Pagan...in Catholic schools. They have good values, and I get compliments all the time on what great kids I have. I can't take all of the credit, though. Their dad does a pretty good job, too. We co-parent well.
However, they never taught me the value of a dollar. Dad was a pilot and made good money, so we had everything we wanted. That didn't do me a lot of good long-term.
Also, there are things I don't wish to repeat. My mom was abusive physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I haven't done any of that to my own kids. Also, mom runs the household absolute, it's her way or the highway, and dad knows he'd better enforce it if he wants peace (and piece). Dad has a backbone...surprises us on the rare times it shows, but he seems to be content to let her rule. I believe in the equal partnership that they espoused, even if it's not 100% the way it is. (There are ways in which it is...it's complex, so I don't know how to explain better...I know I just contradicted myself.)
They raised me solidly Christian...mostly Catholic. I am raising my sons solidly Pagan...in Catholic schools. They have good values, and I get compliments all the time on what great kids I have. I can't take all of the credit, though. Their dad does a pretty good job, too. We co-parent well.
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Some things - absolutely, but some other crucial things - no, because they didn't know better themselves. I don't blame them at all, I'm just learning it by myself now, from other reliable sources.
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AudrysSis: Some things - absolutely, but some other crucial things - no, because they didn't know better themselves. I don't blame them at all, I'm just learning it by myself now, from other reliable sources.
Like how to cook.
j/k
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As a child I was expected to address adults as Mr. or Mrs. Smith, Uncle Bob or Aunt Jill etc and this was the norm.It never occurred to me to call an adult by their first name .I was raised in a household where respect was expected towards my elders ,in and out of the home.I never entertained the idea of sassing an adult because I knew I also had accountability for my words and actions. My children were also raised to respect their elders. I think that children need rules of conduct and expectations to help them become successful adults. I guess at the end of the day ,we were taught to respect ourself as well.If you don't care what you do yourself then you won't worry much about respect for others.
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y father taught me everything I could ever want to know about being a father. I just think about what he would have done and do the exact opposite. Works like a charm.
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BarrenPneuma: My father taught me everything I could ever want to know about being a father. I just think about what he would have done and do the exact opposite. Works like a charm.
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friendsfirst: Like how to cook. j/k
Ha ha, yes, this is actually very true.... That too.
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Did your parents bring you up right? would you raise children the same way?
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stefonline: Did your parents bring you up right? would you raise children the same way?
Did they Gilly bring you up right.....?
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no and no
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