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Oct 5, 2008 8:53 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
gillyloves69
gillyloves69gillyloves69london, Greater London, England UK1,915 Threads 12 Polls 10,261 Posts
conversing
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Oct 5, 2008 9:02 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA99 Threads 20,283 Posts
There are things that my parents did right that I do with my kids...they taught me solid values like honesty, being a good friend, helping others. They also taught me to stand up for myself.

However, they never taught me the value of a dollar. Dad was a pilot and made good money, so we had everything we wanted. That didn't do me a lot of good long-term.

Also, there are things I don't wish to repeat. My mom was abusive physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I haven't done any of that to my own kids. Also, mom runs the household absolute, it's her way or the highway, and dad knows he'd better enforce it if he wants peace (and piece). Dad has a backbone...surprises us on the rare times it shows, but he seems to be content to let her rule. I believe in the equal partnership that they espoused, even if it's not 100% the way it is. (There are ways in which it is...it's complex, so I don't know how to explain better...I know I just contradicted myself.)

They raised me solidly Christian...mostly Catholic. I am raising my sons solidly Pagan...in Catholic schools. They have good values, and I get compliments all the time on what great kids I have. I can't take all of the credit, though. Their dad does a pretty good job, too. We co-parent well.
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Oct 5, 2008 10:15 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
Weimarlady
WeimarladyWeimarladySouth, Xlokk Malta34 Threads 6 Polls 1,618 Posts
Some things - absolutely, but some other crucial things - no, because they didn't know better themselves. I don't blame them at all, I'm just learning it by myself now, from other reliable sources.
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Oct 5, 2008 10:17 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
friendsfirst
friendsfirstfriendsfirstBurbank, Illinois USA122 Threads 1 Polls 7,648 Posts
AudrysSis: Some things - absolutely, but some other crucial things - no, because they didn't know better themselves. I don't blame them at all, I'm just learning it by myself now, from other reliable sources.


Like how to cook.tongue


j/klaugh wave
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Oct 5, 2008 10:18 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
As a child I was expected to address adults as Mr. or Mrs. Smith, Uncle Bob or Aunt Jill etc and this was the norm.It never occurred to me to call an adult by their first name .I was raised in a household where respect was expected towards my elders ,in and out of the home.I never entertained the idea of sassing an adult because I knew I also had accountability for my words and actions. My children were also raised to respect their elders. I think that children need rules of conduct and expectations to help them become successful adults. I guess at the end of the day ,we were taught to respect ourself as well.If you don't care what you do yourself then you won't worry much about respect for others.
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Oct 5, 2008 10:18 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
BarrenPneuma
BarrenPneumaBarrenPneumaGolden Staircase, Ontario Canada121 Threads 4 Polls 2,496 Posts
y father taught me everything I could ever want to know about being a father. I just think about what he would have done and do the exact opposite. Works like a charm.
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Oct 5, 2008 10:19 PM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
BarrenPneuma
BarrenPneumaBarrenPneumaGolden Staircase, Ontario Canada121 Threads 4 Polls 2,496 Posts
BarrenPneuma: My father taught me everything I could ever want to know about being a father. I just think about what he would have done and do the exact opposite. Works like a charm.
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Oct 6, 2008 7:27 AM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
Weimarlady
WeimarladyWeimarladySouth, Xlokk Malta34 Threads 6 Polls 1,618 Posts
friendsfirst: Like how to cook. j/k


Ha ha, yes, this is actually very true.... That too.
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Oct 6, 2008 7:31 AM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
Did your parents bring you up right? would you raise children the same way?



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Oct 6, 2008 7:37 AM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland152 Threads 1 Polls 13,318 Posts
stefonline: Did your parents bring you up right? would you raise children the same way?




Did they Gilly bring you up right.....?conversing
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Oct 6, 2008 8:09 AM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
Not really...in fact I do the opposite with my kids now...what I have learned...yes I learned from them...but to not be like that as a parent or in a relationship...not that they were bad people...but my family was very dysfunctional because of domestic abuse...so the raising of the kids kinda took a back seat....what I have learned about a lot of things I have learned on my own!!!!!!!!


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Oct 6, 2008 8:59 AM CST did your parents bring you up right ? would you raise children the same way ?
shipoker58
shipoker58shipoker58Las Vegas, Nevada USA35 Threads 4,332 Posts
no and no
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