just three good things........... (24)
gingerbLetterkenny, Donegal Ireland7 Threads 1 Polls 4,139 PostsI can only think of one thing,that my daughter flies home from Barcelona for Christmas and I will see her for a few days again.
rusty_knight: I wanted to give her a hug when I got back, but I had the 'flu....... I do not resent her as I have agreed willingly to look after her - no way could I look after her 265 days a year and have sensibly organised things so that I get regular breaks.
I gave her three options when my father died:
1.) Go back to the UK and into a nursing home there.
2.) Employ a filipina housekeeper (in which case I could not afford to stay here also)
3.) Stay in the villa with me to 'look after her' (I do very little really as she has carers in to wash and change her etc for 3 hours every day) as long as I could get away for a break every seven or eight weeks.
She chose the last option. It also suits me. I obviously get a little lonely and starved of company as I am stuck in the villa 21/24, but there is always a break looming like the light at the end of each little tunnel!
Ok?
I gave her three options when my father died:
1.) Go back to the UK and into a nursing home there.
2.) Employ a filipina housekeeper (in which case I could not afford to stay here also)
3.) Stay in the villa with me to 'look after her' (I do very little really as she has carers in to wash and change her etc for 3 hours every day) as long as I could get away for a break every seven or eight weeks.
She chose the last option. It also suits me. I obviously get a little lonely and starved of company as I am stuck in the villa 21/24, but there is always a break looming like the light at the end of each little tunnel!
Ok?
Grrrrr! - typo in first para ............ I meant 365 days a year would be too much - 305 is ok!
rusty_knight: I wanted to give her a hug when I got back, but I had the 'flu....... I do not resent her as I have agreed willingly to look after her - no way could I look after her 265 days a year and have sensibly organised things so that I get regular breaks.
I gave her three options when my father died:
1.) Go back to the UK and into a nursing home there.
2.) Employ a filipina housekeeper (in which case I could not afford to stay here also)
3.) Stay in the villa with me to 'look after her' (I do very little really as she has carers in to wash and change her etc for 3 hours every day) as long as I could get away for a break every seven or eight weeks.
She chose the last option. It also suits me. I obviously get a little lonely and starved of company as I am stuck in the villa 21/24, but there is always a break looming like the light at the end of each little tunnel!
Ok?
I gave her three options when my father died:
1.) Go back to the UK and into a nursing home there.
2.) Employ a filipina housekeeper (in which case I could not afford to stay here also)
3.) Stay in the villa with me to 'look after her' (I do very little really as she has carers in to wash and change her etc for 3 hours every day) as long as I could get away for a break every seven or eight weeks.
She chose the last option. It also suits me. I obviously get a little lonely and starved of company as I am stuck in the villa 21/24, but there is always a break looming like the light at the end of each little tunnel!
Ok?
Well that is good then...
I can see being tied would cause you difficulties Rusty. I would feel the same, I am sure, if I was holed up for that many hours a day.
I love my dad, he gave me life, raised me, gave me so much love for two parents, but he has always stressed that I do not owe him anything.
I never had a mum Rusty, I had my dad, that was it, but I never know what it is like to even say the word Mum, I know what it is to hear it, but I have not had the pleasure of saying it...
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I was very lucky to have two wonderful parents.
I looked after them both from January 2006 until June 2008 - then I'd had enough and couldn't cope anymore........
Nearly everything I did for my dad was a pleasure, but everything I did for my mother was hard work...... however I did get on better with her when my father was seriously ill in hospital last year (he recovered and died over a year later).
Maybe I just found the demands of TWO people too much for me; I guess i relied on my father to give my mother whatever emotional support she needed - and he couldn't give it then it wasn't my rersponsibility and I could was my hands like Pontius Pilate.
Now I have just my mother to look after and I do not have the bond between her and myself that I had with my father. I do love her and I do want her to be happy, but I am just not 'sympatico' with her.
She wants to stay in the villa. She'd drive the staff in a nursing home nuts - we had an experiment for a week a year or so ago in a very nice retirement complex in Malta... it did NOT work out.
I enjoyed a whole week alone with my father. We were able to relax and talk together and enjoy each others company without constantly being concerned for my mum's immediate welfare.
You are lucky you that at least have your dad. I am even luckier, but I do appreciate that there are many people who have lost both their parents when very young - and some have never known their parents. Others, who happen to have had really evil abusive parents, wish they had never known their parents...... yes, we are very, very lucky!
I never had a mum Rusty, I had my dad, that was it, but I never know what it is like to even say the word Mum, I know what it is to hear it, but I have not had the pleasure of saying it...
quote]
I was very lucky to have two wonderful parents.
I looked after them both from January 2006 until June 2008 - then I'd had enough and couldn't cope anymore........
Nearly everything I did for my dad was a pleasure, but everything I did for my mother was hard work...... however I did get on better with her when my father was seriously ill in hospital last year (he recovered and died over a year later).
Maybe I just found the demands of TWO people too much for me; I guess i relied on my father to give my mother whatever emotional support she needed - and he couldn't give it then it wasn't my rersponsibility and I could was my hands like Pontius Pilate.
Now I have just my mother to look after and I do not have the bond between her and myself that I had with my father. I do love her and I do want her to be happy, but I am just not 'sympatico' with her.
She wants to stay in the villa. She'd drive the staff in a nursing home nuts - we had an experiment for a week a year or so ago in a very nice retirement complex in Malta... it did NOT work out.
I enjoyed a whole week alone with my father. We were able to relax and talk together and enjoy each others company without constantly being concerned for my mum's immediate welfare.
You are lucky you that at least have your dad. I am even luckier, but I do appreciate that there are many people who have lost both their parents when very young - and some have never known their parents. Others, who happen to have had really evil abusive parents, wish they had never known their parents...... yes, we are very, very lucky!
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