Take me as I am or don't take me at all! (26)
Iamtheone3984 Threads 1,420 PostsI was talking to a friend and she kept saying, "she won't like it if you act this way or that way," and I was thinking,"I love myself just the way I am," Either take me as I am or don't take me at all...I'm sure that other CS members have had experiences with dating people who try and change you. I don't think you ought to change for anyone!
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I agree with not changing the fundamentals of one's self...however..change is not always a bad thing...especially if you've been with an "ex" for a long time..you somehow conformed in some manner (not that it worked!!..lol..) but when meeting someone new yet again, if there is no room for "growth" and "change"...well there may not be any room for you in their life either...and i'm not talking "overhaul" here...just little "compromises"..
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i agree... however, being conciderate, and nderstanding a persons needs through love is different. not changing the person per say, but allowing ideas...same as the partner wold for you.
it is a give and take thing...
make sense? i'm tired, and fading, lol
it is a give and take thing...
make sense? i'm tired, and fading, lol
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i agree one hundred percent, this is me, i know i've a good heart, I am who i'am and know doubt not every ones cup of tea.. The way I see it is that if theres sides to me that they would love to change there gonna have to be sides to them that i'd want to do as well' why bother, when there is gonna be some one who will love you just as you are warts and all..
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ooooooooh BOY is that a loaded heading... 
snowwolf
snowwolf
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You know,fcryan,some warts are very kissable!
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I still can't say i totally agree...but not that i disagree with the part of someone loving you just the way you are...i am very set in some of my ways...and at my age my friends and family has come to accept me just that way...being "out there" meeting people..its not that they have tried to "change" me per se..as much as they have given me the opportunity to view my "behaviours" from another point of view...
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i have no problem changing, as long as said change is for the better.
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Its how people grow Lori...by being open to "change" and as you say..as long as said change is for the better...
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i know where your coming from wicked, i was thinking the extreeme as to newly dating and them telling you what to wear and what not.. then i'm outta of there. if, i like the guy and we've been dating of course there is gonna be compramises...there are gonna be likes and dislikes that will have to be excepted if the relationship is to progress, thats the good side of it, when both of yere personalitys compliment each other, with out compromise as two individuals and also been able to understand the balance within yere selfs as a couple there is know relationship..
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perfect way to put it, urs...yes, growing. i hope to grow throughout my life, rather than being static.
i hope...any special person in my life...would want to grow WITH me, and that we could spur each other to be better individuals.
i hope...any special person in my life...would want to grow WITH me, and that we could spur each other to be better individuals.
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I was going to add a version of that statement...I do think that there are some things you HAVE to change; womanizing,or manizing...,alcoholism,running over small animals,giving your friends wedgies,etc. I just have a problem with people that try to change the "you's". You know what those are? They are the core values,funny personality traits,whether your outgoing or intraverted...you shouldn't change those things cause they make up the person called "you". Where is Abra when you need his poetry?
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I know what you mean and I agree. I always say its either you like me or you don't.
The only way I can see myself changing is if I am hurting someone without intending to which I never did and never will.
But so far I don't see myself being a problem. Okay well to some but hey thats their loss right :o)
The only way I can see myself changing is if I am hurting someone without intending to which I never did and never will.
But so far I don't see myself being a problem. Okay well to some but hey thats their loss right :o)
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I agree you shouldn't change for anyone, and you should be accepted for who you are.
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i agree be yourself.... i feel the same way
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wayne, just be yourself if people dont like it tough. i think your pretty cool 
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Lord,I forgot about this thread...let's see 1,2,3 months ago...thanks sweetdollen for reviving it for me! I still believe it and I just recently encountered another one trying to change me. It aint gonna happen...
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Rashes,bumps and all,I would still kiss it for you...
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I agree with Deb - if they don't like you for how you are, you're better off without them. If you're tired of the way things are, do what I'm doing and mix things up completely. In the last week I've decided to uproot and move 3300-ish miles away from where I am now and re-do everything that I thought was absolute or remotely close to being so.
Don't let your dreams stop you, go with what you know and what you feel with no regrets. Don't let a day slip by that could be life-altering, as you don't know what day will be your last.
My .02
Rich
Don't let your dreams stop you, go with what you know and what you feel with no regrets. Don't let a day slip by that could be life-altering, as you don't know what day will be your last.
My .02
Rich
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