Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!! ( Archived) (43)

It's cool, I enjoy talking about other's happiness on these subjects, so I can see if I am on right path with all I have learned. And so far we are doing all we can to find the right ones.
I am happy you are sharing this.
What I always end up finding for some reason is ones that have a problem with their own past, they haven't learned to be happy. So that's the main thing that really helps. So they have room in their heart to let you in. And willing to work for a relationship.
I think you have found a good one for you, and sometimes the best relationships do burn slow. I dated my future kids dad for a year before we finally fell in love and got married. And we were together for 11 yrs. after

Awesome. I'm glad that you had that long together...esp if most of that time was good.
Yeah, the ones that are still bitter or hurt from their ex-wives are tough to get to let you in, and they don't really work through the problems in this one because they never worked through the issues from the last one.

He's been in two other long term relationships since his marriage, they're the only 3 women he's ever dated (so this is not a player!), and he hasn't let any of the things that happened make him bitter or non-trusting. This man is a gem...and guys like him are tough to find. He has old-fashioned values and new-age curiosity. I just hope that the sparks are there. I really do. But I know that no matter how good he is, I can't force it to be if it isn't there. I have a feeling, though...a very good feeling about this.

In that case I have a even better feeling about what you have found also. From him being this way and you both being able to talk well together. I think the odds are at least in your favor.
My problem is wanting to stay in my area of the country, I have a need to be close at least within a few hours drive to my grown children, and my new grandbabies. So that makes it a bit tougher for me. But It will just take longer.

He is within a few hours of me. That's the thing...I cast my net a bit wider, so he's a couple of hours away, and that's outside the normal area I search within. I was looking that far for fun, saw his profile and pic and felt something, so I sent a flower. He's not drop-dead handsome, and his profile doesn't even say much, so I don't know why it stopped me, but it did. I pay attention to those things.

Ah, Lela...I hope you find someone. I have the same limits right now 'cuz I won't leave my kids behind. Right now, I couldn't even move to where he'll be, and to visit him where he's moving, I'd have to kennel the dogs...so, it's still a distance that could cause us problems. See, he'll be starting a new job, and moving about an hour further away...and working midnights. But, if it's meant to be, and we want it bad enough, we'll overcome all of that. And I'm in no hurry for it to get serious enough to talk about moving in, so we've got time.

Anyway, keep hope alive. I hope someone as good as you finds the right man. You're such a great woman, with a lot to give. You deserve to find someone who will appreciate that and give back just as well.

It cool that it's not further than that for you. Even one more hour driving, at least you would still be in basically the same area. And I am sure you two will be able to work with that.

Well thankyou sweetie, I am sure one day the right one will come along for me, I will remain hopeful. Now to find my sweetheart, and have that cool feeling of love once again. That is all worth the wait.

Goodluck Sweetie

Stop calling me Sweetie!

Well don't stop being romantic to her then

I can't help it - I'm a romantic at heart......... to me life without romance is like living on bread on water - survival, but not really living!