Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!! ( Archived) (43)

A interesting article I found, for us to read and get back to talking about Romance.
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Romantic Dreams come true when you make an effort to never settle or anything else than what your genuine expectations are from a person. This does not mean you should never compromise however, for nobody will every perfect, including yourself, so keep in mind that there will be times where you will need to find a middle ground with your lover. Not settling for less is meant more on an obvious level. For example, if your romantic dream is to find a partner who loves long walks on the beach and going out for fancy dining and intimate picnics, then do not even bother getting seriously involved with a person who loves staying at home all the time or going out to loud parties with his or her friends. You will only be frustrated later.

Many people choose to get involved with a person who never really fulfilled their romantic expectations from the start, but feel that things will change as their relationship proceeds. This is a mistake often made and one you should avoid making if you ever wish to live the romance of your dreams. Though people can be unpredictable, a persons hobbies and lifestyle can usually be determined in the early stages of dating?after about between 3 and 6 dates. You will be able to observe from your dates if a person carries the qualities you are in search for by paying attention to where they choose to take you on your dates, the way they speak to you, as well as all the other little things that are important to you.
It is important that you are also open and honest about your hobbies, lifestyle and romantic qualities so that your date also starts to learn who you really are as a person and can also decided whether or not they feel you are someone they wish to continue dating. If you do not wish to be misled, then do not mislead others either!

Living the romantic life of your dreams is indeed very possible, but requires time, patience and most importantly, being honest with others and yourself about who you really are and what you really want. Accomplishing true romance can only happen when you express yourself freely and confidently. Remember, no one can read your mind and there will be no magical wand that will wave over you. Fate will play a part in who you end up committing to and settling down with, but according for fate to do so, you have to help it out by showing it exactly what it is you are looking for.
Fate is like a dating service in a way- in order for it to help you find the right person, you need to give it an honest description of what you are looking for and what you are also not interested it. Once you have done so, stick to it without settling for something you know you will not be 100% satisfied with. In time, you will be living your romantic dream come true with a person who feels the same and the two of you will have the wonderful relationship you have been searching for.

I did an affirmation describing exactly what I was looking for...and I followed my gut in sending a flower on here to someone a little further away than I normally would...and I might just have found him.

In Oprah magazine a few months back there was an article on making a list of the top 100 things you're looking for in a mate, and it must be 100 exactly, and then hiding it. You're giving Fate the list of what you most want. According to those who'd done it successfully, only one or two minor things might be different, but the rest will be there...even silly things, like his shoes or the color(s) of his socks. 100 is just enough to put on all of the big stuff, and then enough of the little stuff for confirmation that it's right.

I don't know yet if he hits all of my list...but he sure hits a lot of it!

That's great, cause it makes for someone you could be more compatiable with, so I believe these list are important.
Every time I have given too much that is different than my list of what I want and don't want, it never worked out.
After each failure I have tighten up to more of what I do want and will absolutely not want in my life. It also means no one will be hoping or trying to change the other, since most all the important stuff is already there. I really hope you have found your's.

Thank you. So far, the only big thing we don't have in common is political beliefs. However, if we have everything else, this one won't matter that much. Yes, making a list like this and defining what you really want, and then waiting for it, certainly makes for better compatibility. We'll have challenges ahead of us due to distance, but if it's right, we'll work through those.

I learned a long time ago that you can't change the other, so you have to find someone that you love, and can live with, just the way they are now.

He and I will know more by the end of this weekend. (He's staying in my guest room, btw...and meeting my sons right away, which is abnormal for me. This is starting out different than any other relationship...I hope that's a good sign. He's a good man, and I feel lucky to have this chance.)

congrats dru, hope it all unfolds seamlessly for you

That's a great start, I wish you the best.
I have clicked with many online but when we met , it just wasn't right. Other's I dated all seemed right but about 5 months later, they relaxed and there true self came out. When I look back I saw hints of all that. I just didnt' listen to my gut feelings. I will from now on.

Thank you, B. It feels right. I'm sure it will have its troubles, just like any other relationship...but I think we have the ability to get through them. It's our outlooks on life and relationships being so similar that makes me feel that way.

Yes, I've learned the hard way to listen to them, too. That's why I got out of the last one so quickly instead of ignoring how I felt. I'd have saved myself two of my four marriages if I'd done that.