It may never happen (65)
Hope. I have come to grips with this dilemna myself. If I should find someone, my life will be wonderful. If I don't find anyone, my life will still be wonderful.
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dazzling_dave: Hope. I have come to grips with this dilemna myself. If I should find someone, my life will be wonderful. If I don't find anyone, my life will still be wonderful.
Oooohhh, I like that answer, Dave.
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I think it represents hope. Never give up hope...it's what keeps humans striving forward, what keeps us trying, and what keeps us youthful.
I have hope that I'll find him someday. They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. I'll keep looking, but yes, I'm also 98% happy with my life the way it is. I like being single, for the most part. I'm actually enjoying finding out who I am and not having anyone to answer to for what I do, or where I go, or to ask if it's ok if a friend comes over. It's nice, and the first long stretch of my life that I've had this. I need to relax and enjoy it for a while...esp after this last frog experience.
I have hope that I'll find him someday. They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. I'll keep looking, but yes, I'm also 98% happy with my life the way it is. I like being single, for the most part. I'm actually enjoying finding out who I am and not having anyone to answer to for what I do, or where I go, or to ask if it's ok if a friend comes over. It's nice, and the first long stretch of my life that I've had this. I need to relax and enjoy it for a while...esp after this last frog experience.
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dazzling_dave: Hope. I have come to grips with this dilemna myself. If I should find someone, my life will be wonderful. If I don't find anyone, my life will still be wonderful.
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jlb684: Not everyone here is actively pursuing a relationship. Some are here just for the forums, some have found someone special and stay because they have made some sort of connection with others, some are ambivalent, but figure "what the hell...nothing ventured, nothing gained."
I ask the single-and-looking amongst us:
What if it never happens? Have you come to terms with this possibility? Can you see yourself 10, 20, 30 or more years from now, living as you do now (myself included), without that someone special that you just know must surely be out there somewhere for you?
Me? I have considered this, time and again. I am about 98% certain that I have come to terms with this. But there's that 2% that I can't seem to shake. I'm happy with my life, I have much to be thankful for, and I never feel lonely. I am alone, but not lonely.
So what does that 2% represent?
Hope?
Or denial?
I ask the single-and-looking amongst us:
What if it never happens? Have you come to terms with this possibility? Can you see yourself 10, 20, 30 or more years from now, living as you do now (myself included), without that someone special that you just know must surely be out there somewhere for you?
Me? I have considered this, time and again. I am about 98% certain that I have come to terms with this. But there's that 2% that I can't seem to shake. I'm happy with my life, I have much to be thankful for, and I never feel lonely. I am alone, but not lonely.
So what does that 2% represent?
Hope?
Or denial?
You read my mind...I have been trying to accept the possibility I will be alone for the rest of my life.
But I am here, so I am still hoping....
You are not in denial if you keep looking....
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jlb684: Oooohhh, I like that answer, Dave.
Thank you. My life has become much more enjoyable since I have taken this attitude. It felt nice when I was finally able to reach this level of contentment.
I do sometimes question whether I have become too content with my life as it is.
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mbcasey: You read my mind...I have been trying to accept the possibility I will be alone for the rest of my life.
But I am here, so I am still hoping....
You are not in denial if you keep looking....
Ken Darn I guess I have to give and move there.But I am here, so I am still hoping....
You are not in denial if you keep looking....
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druidess6308: I like being single, for the most part. I'm actually enjoying finding out who I am and not having anyone to answer to for what I do, or where I go, or to ask if it's ok if a friend comes over. It's nice, and the first long stretch of my life that I've had this.
Yes, me too. I really love being single, actually. And this is part of why I wonder why I have that small element wherein I am not 100% accepting of living the rest of my life alone. I really LOVE being single! I think I'm just wondering if I will love it as much 15 or 20 years from now.
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mbcasey: You read my mind...I have been trying to accept the possibility I will be alone for the rest of my life.
But I am here, so I am still hoping....
You are not in denial if you keep looking....
But I am here, so I am still hoping....
You are not in denial if you keep looking....
Hope springs eternal....
Thanks, Ken.
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Indyfella: And I bet you read my footnote too:
Yep.....read it, but I think you underestimate yourself.
Or....OVERestimate us women here!
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Not attempting to hijack your thread by any means, but if you went down the list of available men on here in your desired age bracket, how many would you even consider wanting to meet, let alone thinking about a potential relationship with them? From my perspective I find very few women of interest, and I'm sure there are a lot less that would be interested in me. I'd give it a 1 to 2% range. When you factor in the distance angle, it probably gets down to .05 per cent. The odds are slim to none.
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I know it's not going to happen for me and I really don't care anymore. I will just live, enjoy what I can and go on. Thats good enough. 
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Indyfella: Not attempting to hijack your thread by any means, but if you went down the list of available men on here in your desired age bracket, how many would you even consider wanting to meet, let alone thinking about a potential relationship with them? From my perspective I find very few women of interest, and I'm sure there are a lot less that would be interested in me. I'd give it a 1 to 2% range. When you factor in the distance angle, it probably gets down to .05 per cent. The odds are slim to none.
Less than that mate, and even then you cant tell if their sane, they don't smell or have nervous twitches.
Best start simple and ask if they wash their hair in the sink or in the washing machine, then ask the same about their teeth and then see if there on medication.
After that's done the field is pretty narrow anyway.
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RobbieM: Less than that mate, and even then you cant tell if their sane, they don't smell or have nervous twitches.
Best start simple and ask if they wash their hair in the sink or in the washing machine, then ask the same about their teeth and then see if there on medication.
After that's done the field is pretty narrow anyway.
Best start simple and ask if they wash their hair in the sink or in the washing machine, then ask the same about their teeth and then see if there on medication.
After that's done the field is pretty narrow anyway.
I'd like to hear more women's perspective on my prior post.
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Indyfella: Not attempting to hijack your thread by any means, but if you went down the list of available men on here in your desired age bracket, how many would you even consider wanting to meet, let alone thinking about a potential relationship with them? From my perspective I find very few women of interest, and I'm sure there are a lot less that would be interested in me. I'd give it a 1 to 2% range. When you factor in the distance angle, it probably gets down to .05 per cent. The odds are slim to none.
Man, you just opened my eyes....
You mentioned my desired age bracket and I realized I hadn't updated that (or my text, for that matter) since I first came on CS, which has been over 2 years now.
Anyway, I just updated the numbers to reflect what I would really prefer.
As for the distance angle....boy, don't I know it!
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jlb684: Man, you just opened my eyes....
You mentioned my desired age bracket and I realized I hadn't updated that (or my text, for that matter) since I first came on CS, which has been over 2 years now.
Anyway, I just updated the numbers to reflect what I would really prefer.
As for the distance angle....boy, don't I know it!
You mentioned my desired age bracket and I realized I hadn't updated that (or my text, for that matter) since I first came on CS, which has been over 2 years now.
Anyway, I just updated the numbers to reflect what I would really prefer.
As for the distance angle....boy, don't I know it!
I'm glad you realize I'm more than just another pretty face. I'm good for something.
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jlb684: Man, you just opened my eyes....
You mentioned my desired age bracket and I realized I hadn't updated that (or my text, for that matter) since I first came on CS, which has been over 2 years now.
Anyway, I just updated the numbers to reflect what I would really prefer.
As for the distance angle....boy, don't I know it!
You mentioned my desired age bracket and I realized I hadn't updated that (or my text, for that matter) since I first came on CS, which has been over 2 years now.
Anyway, I just updated the numbers to reflect what I would really prefer.
As for the distance angle....boy, don't I know it!
WOOHOO. I still have a chance.
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mylifewithu: I know it's not going to happen for me and I really don't care anymore. I will just live, enjoy what I can and go on. Thats good enough.
Yes it will....
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if i had to pick from you two choices, i would say it is hope, but with that being said, i would argue the percentage of the possibility of it happening is much greater than the 2% you allotted. i have grappled with this question for some time, i have lived thus far with no real significant other in my life, i have come to terms with that aspect, but that doesn't mean i am happy with my life. i am jealous of you for that. i have certain issues that i struggle with, which result in me isolating myself a lot, when people get close to me i tend to push them away for fear that i will hurt them in the long run, so i don't let them get close. i'd rather be alone and miserable than hurt someone else. now i know i'll probably get people saying things to the effect of "oh but your so young, you'll find her someday." i've heard it before. the truth is i can see myself 10-30 years from now, still stuck in my own self inflicted isolation. the real truth is that i don't see much of a future period. i guess that may be what i am searching for. i am admittedly a glass half empty sort of guy. do i believe that there is someone special out there for me, i hope sometimes, then the negativity takes over and i begin to believe that whoever she is she deserve better. i want to lead no one on, for i know my patterns. so in that way i am self limiting. and maybe my belief that i am protecting people by keeping them away is irrational. i guess i need to fix myself before i am able to allow someone else in, i just don't know how to climb that mountain. i came on here looking for connections, i guess i wasn't sure what kind, friendship, relationship, i want those things, i want them in reality, i just don't know if i am capable of it. perhaps it is easier for me to connect from behind this screen, to people who i will most likely never meet, i feel they won't be let down by me. as far as a relationship, no one seems interested anyway, i find myself trying to make people laugh, or help them with issues more than looking for love. maybe an online dating site is an odd place for me to be. anyway, i'll stop rambling now, sorry if i got too heavy or long winded.
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I ask the single-and-looking amongst us:
What if it never happens? Have you come to terms with this possibility? Can you see yourself 10, 20, 30 or more years from now, living as you do now (myself included), without that someone special that you just know must surely be out there somewhere for you?
Me? I have considered this, time and again. I am about 98% certain that I have come to terms with this. But there's that 2% that I can't seem to shake. I'm happy with my life, I have much to be thankful for, and I never feel lonely. I am alone, but not lonely.
So what does that 2% represent?
Hope?
Or denial?