Disruptive Children In Public ( Archived) (45)

I hear you. My husband was having an affair with my friend. My friend's husband was having an affair with another one of her friends who was also sleeping with my brother in law and many other men.

I work in the school where 5 of the 9 children involved in this Jerry Springer episode go to school. I stayed with my kids during this time and left my husband while they were still playing around. Needless to say, my kids are the only ones who remained without behavior issues. The others want to say their children need meds, what they really need is mom or dad to stop gettng drunk and ****ing other people and stay home and pay attention to them or not leave them in the middle of the night!

I reallize this is a somewhat "isolated" experience, but parent behavior and expectations do play a big part in how kids behave and react in situations.

to start, I don't have any children of my own. But I never cared when my nephews acted out in public with me. They were children......thats what they do. I wasn't going to stop shopping because they 'acted up'. People at the store got attitudy when they cried, but who gives a S***! It happens all the time! And it's Absolutely silly to abandon a whole cart of groceries because 'Junior starts crying'!! It's not like thats the first time people have seen a crying baby.

You are absolutely right...they are children behaving like children.....but then whose responsibility do you think it is to correct this behaviour?
There is a huge difference between a crying baby, and a child having a tantrum in public....or crying because that is not where they want to be...
The parents that decide it is worth it to abandon a cart of groceries because "Junior starts crying" are the parents who have taken their role seriously...its worth it to them to abandon their groceries to teach their children what is and isn't appropriate behaviour in public....

May i suggest that it is because you are an aunt out with your nephews on occasion that you can tolerate the behaviour...perhaps if you had to live with that behaviour day in day out 24/7, you too may find the necessity to teach them differently?

As for your comment "but who gives a S***!"....I do...it is the future generation i am raising here....

Children appreciate clear boundaries and structure set by calm and loving parents/relatives/teachers.

It isn't oppression, it is instruction and gives the child a framework for success, not just in that moment but for life in general.

It also dramatically decreases escalating anger that usually ends up in confused and angry children being punished for not behaving. Hitting, naming the child bad, shaming and blaming the kids for lack of control do nothing for the child's self esteem or sense of accomplishment or safety.

It doesn't take too many times of ending outings in a calm manner with a "you can try again next time but now you've got to live with the choice you made now" attitude before there are very good results.

My grandchild is not only fun to be out in public with, she is strong, smart and loving. I'm very proud of her, she rocks my world.