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OK I'm blunt so I'll just come out with it... When you email someone and just say a few simple things in the message, then leave no question at the end, for them to reply back too..... People email you back.
Then if you write the same thing and end it with, something like

feel free to drop me a line anytime, or I'd like/love to hear from you...

Noone responds....


I've found myself doing the same thing a couple of times. I'm not one to play any kind of psychological games with anyone. But it seems like we do play these games even not meaning too... I'm sure we all do it.

Like if they seem interested, then we feel, "well they must be hard up" or they are easy" we know in the back of our minds, that, that might not be the case, but we ignore them...

If they anwser an email, but don't seem to be interested, it intrigues us, and we like the fact that there maybe a better chance of them being a decent person by being choosy..

I think it's funny, because in a way we have more respect for the person, whom didn't seem eager to chat with us, then the person that was totally willing too....

I feel in most cases this is true, So how do we actually get a date with the person whom we are interested in, if we keep doing this to ourselves.....


The only question is : What are your thoughts....

"feel free to drop me a line anytime, or I'd like/love to hear from you..."

I usually end my e-mails with something like this as being friendly and polite. I never thought of it the way you presented it here...


I think saying it once is ok, but if you say it everytime you mail someone you just met, then it seems overdone.

No I just mean anwsering something along those lines on the original email, but I figure alot of us say about the same thing, and it probably comes off as boring for one, and maybe abit eager, even when we are not.. Thanks for the reply

well, tater, in my vast personal experience, be yourself. I have been on this site for like four months, and have met a variety of women, some closer than others. I've found one, on here, though I was only looking to chat and be my usual crazy self. That happened because i had no regrets, no problems, and no unresolved relationship issues. So, when you speak to a woman that you are actually INTERESTED in, speak to her as such. Forget what I say. Forget what everyone else says, or might say, in IRL or here. Just love and be love, good things will come, peace.

I'm always myself, when talking to someone, I'm just talking about the initial email or first response, not after you've started emailing them regularly........ thanks for the post..

I think in your original e-mail to someone, it is ok to say, "hope to hear from you". It shows a positive aggression that may flatter a woman.

I understand what you are saying as it might come off as needy. But I think the body of your e-mail is much more important, and to leave it off as saying it would be great to converse with you is icing on the cake...