How many of you would date, or have dated, someone far away? ( Archived) (61)

Luthion: I have done and will do again the long distance thing if the person calls for it.

It has its pro and cons, as you're pretty much already aware. Intimacy is a tricky one unless you plan for the start to close the distance, and how strong the relationship gets over time is a large factor in that.

As for staying close, it's just an issue of communication. That's probably one bonus factor of it. You talk a lot, so you often get to know the person better before you get intimate... though I strongly believe you should be able to open up to someone just as much in person if you're gonna be open to them over the internet; otherwise you're just giving them a jumbled image of yourself as a person.

Common interests can go a long way too. Gives you much more to talk about.

Short distance is obviously preferable, but as we all know, it can seem like searching for a needle in a haystack at times. Finding the right person with the right mindset and the right interests, as well as that certain "click".

I'm not the average Irish guy, and Ireland can be devishly close minded at times if you don't fit into the stereotypes; I don't like soccer, I don't enjoy "going out for some craic", and I'm intellectually minded. At times I feel a bit older than my years compared to most of my generation; Finding people with even remotely similar tastes as myself isn't easy here.

So the internet thing works depending on the context, and a fair degree of paitence. At the end of the day though, you'll know you've got "the feeling" whether they're standing five feet in front of you or 5,000 miles away.



You're a smart lady Mindy, and that's rare. Never compromise yourself if you find the right partner; the right person won't want you to.

Hope my rambling musings helped. <3

MindyQ: Thx for the advice.
I do have a built in cam on my applemac laptop. I will be meeting NO ONE without first camming with them. I think being a long distance apart would be different. I like being with my boyfriends, in person. I want to touch, smell, and do "stuff" with them.

rasgumby: Just listen to yourself here!
You already know the best answer in my opinion!!

There is no way to get to really know someone/ anyone just by what they tell you online.

In person is the only way and even then it is rough. so many online rush into an online relationship, only meet once or twice before moving in together or marriage.. then end up right back online looking again in a month or so....
To me, that is not a relationship, it is just sleeping around and switching partners often, Guess that is ok if that is all one wants and how they want to live their lives...

For me... same reasons as you gave...
They have to be close for a normal dating relationship, like to spend time with them in person. touch, kiss and talking with eye contact and so on.

Luthion: I have done and will do again the long distance thing if the person calls for it.......


Hope my rambling musings helped. <3

rasgumby: Just listen to yourself here!
You already know the best answer in my opinion!!

There is no way to get to really know someone/ anyone just by what they tell you online.

In person is the only way and even then it is rough. so many online rush into an online relationship, only meet once or twice before moving in together or marriage.. then end up right back online looking again in a month or so....
To me, that is not a relationship, it is just sleeping around and switching partners often, Guess that is ok if that is all one wants and how they want to live their lives...

For me... same reasons as you gave...
They have to be close for a normal dating relationship, like to spend time with them in person. touch, kiss and talking with eye contact and so on.

MindyQ: Thx for the post. I will not be rushing I can promise you that. Anyone having a long distance relationship with me will not be getting up my skirt until I know a lot about them.

I am in no hurry. I don't need to be married until the end of next week.

Doorman112: Eventually yes but just because you meet online and talk a lot doesnt mean you are sleeping around or switching partners if you only have one person you talk to in that way.
Everyone here plans on actually being with the person they meet not just talking with text online.
You can get to know someone as well as possible by talking and listening but as i've said in a previous post you do need to see them and talk to at least somone they know,best is a parent really.

MindyQ: Thx for the post. I will not be rushing I can promise you that. Anyone having a long distance relationship with me will not be getting up my skirt until I know a lot about them.

I am in no hurry. I don't need to be married until the end of next week.

rasgumby: But

You have jeans on... If they are in you skirt.. they have a serious problem!!