does distance matter if chemistry is there ( Archived) (20)

My thought is that oceans are meant to be crossed, mountains to be climbed, and land to be traversed over and over with a fine toothed comb until we stumble into the arms of THE ONE

thats fantastic!! gold star for you (in my books at least!)

i was in a long distance relationship for 2 years and we were alright for the first year and after that it hit me that i had no idea where it was going and that there was no map/plan in place and for me that was a really scary thing specially when most of my heart belonged to this other person.. at which point, i simply wanted some emotional support to make the move, anyhow, there was none of that, and here i am single again..

worked out great! BUT i did learn that if and when i do meet the person who feels right in my heart, and if they happen to be at a distance, then i'll have to 1. meet them ASAP(bc things are different once you're face to face).. and then 2. (if i even make it there) set a goal of when to be together (just in the same city, not move in or anything)..JUST to have that peace of mind that comes when you stare out into a tunnel and find some sort of light at the end.

wow chemistry without contact... is that possible??? I understand learning and gettin gto know someone but to actual have chemistry without contact ...I am a novice. I would have never thought such a thing was ever possible. But my time here On CS has shown me, all things are possible...
Now if you seek and find, then meet in person ....thats a different concept altogether... and yes I would relocate for a connection such as that ....just my opnion

i think the same way..as if you had read my mind...

Distance does not mean a damn thing if the chemistry is there .I'm ready to move down to the North Pole , Antarctica , Siberia or Jericho if called upon in the name of true love . Love transcends all barriers . Distances are meant to bridged . Modern technology has redefined the concept of distance thereby making it relatively easy to travel to all nooks and crannies of the earth . And beyond if necessary .Distance becomes an issue in the absence of both chemistry and a willingness to put in the required effort . Cowards, afterall die a thousand deaths .

Ditto.

Right,

Meet, then see if the attraction is mutual....

Then work on the relationship and see if it warrants a move.



Throw caution to the wind?

Not me, thanks

I also cannot imagine chemistry without contact.

I was just thinking about that today while I was riding my motorcycle through the park. Women can read my forum posts until they're blue in the face. They will know absolutely nothing of what it would be like to be with me in person. In fact, I'm pretty convinced that I would have little chance with any woman who reads my forum posts, or who tries to get to know me via emails. She won't have a clue how great it is to share life with me until she actually hangs out with me in the flesh. Only then will she realize the romance and bliss that she's been missing.

Distance is the ultimate nemesis simply because it will prevent her from ever experiencing that magic moment. If she doesn't know what she's missing where's the incentive to make the trip?

And of course, that probably goes both ways. I can know nothing of her from forum posts either. Only meeting in the flesh has any real meaning.

you are my new HERO!

>> I also cannot imagine chemistry without contact.
>> Distance is the ultimate nemesis

This was the first thing that came into my mind as well, having lost in a relationship, once we were physically apart.

But that begs the question of how much *emotional* intimacy was
there; emotional intimacy can span distance where physical intimacy cannot.