am i alone (38)

hi every one im new to this, but enjoying it,reading some of the forums and them very funny now what i realy want to know is,, do men find it of putting if th womam aready has kids and dose not want any more

hi im in same position as yourself, single again last 18 months, not sure about what men think! will we ever??? still i find it hard to meet people second time round, as most of my freinds are in relationships,and tend to stay at home or go out in couples!

hi and hello to u, yes i find that with my friends if i have to look one more time at my friends kissing there men and forgetting im there i will scream,

yes, you end up feeling worse than before you went out! i think people don't realize what its like until in that position. ah well, we will keep trying, have you gone to any of the cs singles nights? Im thinking of going to the one in dub in july. just trying to drum up the courage

no never at one, i would love to go can u tell me how they work

Hey Girls-

Just hang on to the hope that there is someone out there for everyone!

And the meet is a great way to meet people and have a laugh!

You should both deffo come!!

xx

hey ladys,
well to answer your question yes and no, yes its off putting because males see children as a reminder that the woman has 'been' with another man before him which brings on subconscious jealousy which most dont want to deal with (ex still in the womans life, financing the kids and lack of private time and the inability to leave for a trip/holiday at a seconds notice also being factors) and a no because (and this is largly due to the kid) the child just catches the heart if you will of an already paternally predisposed male, whew lol.
and in closing its not just you ladies, some of us guys face the exact same social stigmtism daily, just not on the same scale
me out!

I have exp'ced all the above before - guys saying that cuz I have a son , they cant go out with me because they wanna be able to do what they want when they want eg, go away on a moments notice, but realistically if you are a working female/male, how likely is that to happen anyway, we all have committments be it work/family. I dont think that men/women should be ruled out cuz they have children. If anything being a parent brings loving qualities to a person. Now if it is a women/man with ten different kids form ten different partners then I could understand hesitation as it shouts out some not so good qualities to me.

Everyone is different and everyone wants different things, but if you do like someone. children from past relationships shpuld not be an issue. Sometime even ex's who dont have children together stay in one anothers lives. Ex's are always gonna be there. People are always gonna have past relationships. But instead of viewing them in a negative light, look at them as learning curves that made your partner who they are. We all learn form past hurts/ relationships.

Also, my child may pull on people heart strings - but in no way would I want anyone to stay with me cuz they adore my son

J.M.O

hi nice to hear everyones oppion, i think that if someone has a problem with u having kids, there just not the right person for you at that time.i think id want to know someone a long time before bringing them to meet my kids anyway.

not sure how singles night work! think u just turn up, if your interested in going to one in dub july 5, there's info on the events forum, let me know if your going as im a novice too