Why do yoy believe or not believe in getting married (109)
I don't believe in getting married, after the 1rst one, everything was fine until that damm paper.
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Married excellnt if you wish to rear children.. at some point I do wish to adpot a child with a proper mate. Always wanted a little girl..
As for not getting married, this is also a wonderful thing for those who do nto require paper, and are loyal to their mate~! Not require if you do not wish the traditional family roles...
As for not getting married, this is also a wonderful thing for those who do nto require paper, and are loyal to their mate~! Not require if you do not wish the traditional family roles...
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i had this idea when i was very young that i never wanted to be owned by someone.
...and the traditional upbringing i was born into, had a betrothed allready chosen for me. I made my Debut in 5 countries and i felt like a piece of meat on the market.
i never did marry and have 3 children with 3 fathers , have always been self sufficient and did not take child support or alimony.
we are all friends still except the last father who was a donor and preferred to remain out of the picture. All who know me and my children will attest to the fact that they are extraordinary people , well adjusted and intelligent and with strong morality and values...
soooooooo if the mother never feels abandoned in the first place and there is no betrayal from unrealistic vows taken and broken.....
why do we bother???
...and the traditional upbringing i was born into, had a betrothed allready chosen for me. I made my Debut in 5 countries and i felt like a piece of meat on the market.
i never did marry and have 3 children with 3 fathers , have always been self sufficient and did not take child support or alimony.
we are all friends still except the last father who was a donor and preferred to remain out of the picture. All who know me and my children will attest to the fact that they are extraordinary people , well adjusted and intelligent and with strong morality and values...
soooooooo if the mother never feels abandoned in the first place and there is no betrayal from unrealistic vows taken and broken.....
why do we bother???
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Let's look back through time.. the institution of matrimony goes wayyyyyyyyyyyy way back....The institution of married perhaps is logged within our instinct to ensure the future success of our line....
It appears that it stems from a "GURANTEE" (perhaps primitive) that your hunter will remain near you so that the plod will have success....
Also it takes generally a community to contribute towards successful development of a child. Family, friends, school, etc... we always need other’s to provide input into a human life… we are not born with passed down memory…
hmmmmmmmmmm
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just a note.... i did a spell check just because i hate sloppiness and i mispelled "you"
but seriously i think there's a glitch!!! i checked myself!!
but seriously i think there's a glitch!!! i checked myself!!
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is marriage really necessary for this???
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I have been married a few times 
The first time was for twelve years, to a man who gave me two wonderful children. As a couple, we grew up and away from each other. We shared the lawyer and went on our way, doing pretty well on the visitation thing over the years. We respect each other now and give each compliments about how well our children turned out.
Marriages after this one...short, dramatic, sad and just plain "shouldn't have bothered"
Raising children well is important. Whether you are married or not is up to the participants.
The first time was for twelve years, to a man who gave me two wonderful children. As a couple, we grew up and away from each other. We shared the lawyer and went on our way, doing pretty well on the visitation thing over the years. We respect each other now and give each compliments about how well our children turned out.
Marriages after this one...short, dramatic, sad and just plain "shouldn't have bothered"
Raising children well is important. Whether you are married or not is up to the participants.
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No way, no how, never again. Steadfast.
I went 2 go rounds because I thought that's what I was supposed to do.
Too many take comfort (read: take for granted) in a legal document.
At this point in life and wisdom, I would never want the church or state to have any say in my partnerships.
I went 2 go rounds because I thought that's what I was supposed to do.
Too many take comfort (read: take for granted) in a legal document.
At this point in life and wisdom, I would never want the church or state to have any say in my partnerships.
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I have two sons 7 years apart, two different fathers. Everyone is very happy, younger son's father is here visiting this week. No courts involved, just worked things out ourselves.
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The first time I was just 20, and smoked about a Kilo of hash a week, and found myself suddenly married.... How the hell did that happen? I asked her when I came out of the fogg! The second time I was conscious and however divorced now, I would do it again, it was great. Both times, my motto is 'Even the bad-times were good."
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Married 23 years. Never ever going there again. Control is why not. I have it back and never letting it go again.
I always beleived in marriage not really sure why, the dream of being together forever with the one you love I suppose, was brought up in that society. I had no problem with it then and had always thought it is better for children to have parents that are married. Although I was married 14 years before having a family.
The only reason now to be married is to protect your rights to your children and shared property. Although the legislation is hopfully changing for the better with that too finally.
But I do believe now it is an outdated institution forced upon us by the church. I was married in a registry office.
But each to their own and I am looking back on it as in later years a sentence for crimes I did not commit.
I always beleived in marriage not really sure why, the dream of being together forever with the one you love I suppose, was brought up in that society. I had no problem with it then and had always thought it is better for children to have parents that are married. Although I was married 14 years before having a family.
The only reason now to be married is to protect your rights to your children and shared property. Although the legislation is hopfully changing for the better with that too finally.
But I do believe now it is an outdated institution forced upon us by the church. I was married in a registry office.
But each to their own and I am looking back on it as in later years a sentence for crimes I did not commit.
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i fully believe in marriage and the marriage vows. i would love to be married again...but to the right man this time that believes in those vows as well.
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do you not worry that you may get lost in the relationship and lose your identity???
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So I wonder how many people these days really know what "vows" mean. I mean I pretty sure it's supposed to be more than just a script.
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my daughter just had her "ceremony" remember the dress?? lol!!
i said i wouldn't attend if they took vows or made promises...wouldn't be party to broken words or set ups....
they had to come up with something more imagnative so they told stories about the inspiration they have in love with one another and what it means in their lives, and thanked alll the people who had been most instrumental in showing them what love looked like ....naked and true
it was beautiful !!!!
i said i wouldn't attend if they took vows or made promises...wouldn't be party to broken words or set ups....
they had to come up with something more imagnative so they told stories about the inspiration they have in love with one another and what it means in their lives, and thanked alll the people who had been most instrumental in showing them what love looked like ....naked and true
it was beautiful !!!!
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I remember the dress...
and vows should mean more than the present thinking...
lovely way to join, your daughter...
I'm not sure a promise is a set up always.
It's not like your asking them to be more than they are...and, by the time it come along, this joining, then hopefully the two know each other well enough.
and vows should mean more than the present thinking...
lovely way to join, your daughter...
I'm not sure a promise is a set up always.
It's not like your asking them to be more than they are...and, by the time it come along, this joining, then hopefully the two know each other well enough.
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but how can you know what or who you or someone else will be in 10 years??
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now that sounds perfect really...my second husband and i wrote our own "vows" and if he hadnt been a drunk, it would have been all true
it did mean more and was more personal and emotional at the wedding...no matter how things turned out, it was one of the best days of my life.
it did mean more and was more personal and emotional at the wedding...no matter how things turned out, it was one of the best days of my life.------ This thread is Archived ------
you can't...
that's where your trust in each other, and faith in it all come into play...
you never know what can happen. people get sick, and die, too.
the promise isn't a soul script, hon. or, should never be what some think...
that's where your trust in each other, and faith in it all come into play...
you never know what can happen. people get sick, and die, too.
the promise isn't a soul script, hon. or, should never be what some think...
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what have you learned about the institution and why do you believe in it? or not?