is true love hard to find??? (127)
pedro27: well
TRUE love......it is NOT hard to find I LOVE ME, A TRUE ,TRUE LOVE....
hard to find is a TRUE PERSON
No, I don't think its crazy because it obviously worked out for you both. My own parents didn't speak the same language when they got married and that started with my dad buying an extraordinary number of birthday cards for his sisters (he had three sisters, not an extraordinary number ) from the shop where my mother worked. Fifty-five years on, they're still together, but I don't know that they've always been in love all the time.
Okay, next question if you don't mind: Stories like yours and my parents' appear to me to be more common in your generation and before, than since. What do you think the difference is?
Also, had you experienced anything like that before and it didn't work out and become true love? The description that wash2u and Dee gave of instant chemistry and 'sparks' to my mind is infatuation, which may, or may not grow to become a life-long loving relationship. Most of us have experienced some kind of zippidy-doo-dah feelings when meeting someone, but as most of us on here aren't widowed, it didn't develop into a life-long loving relationship.
Was it really true love at first sight with you and your husband? Or was it an instant chemistry that lead to true love? What do you think was key in that development, if so?[/quote
Jac, Not sure what the difference in the then and now is, but I sure know I have a 17 yr. old grandaughter and a soon to be 20 yr. old grandaughter. Would not want to see them marry at such a young age. Today the ladies(some not all)want to go on to college and have a career before they fall in love, then marry. With me some 40 years ago that did not really matter. You are right on the fact for me it was WOW look at this hunk of a man (LOL) I was not even sure what love meant but what I knew was everytime I was with him I never wanted to be away. After he proposed and I accepted he left to find a good job and a place for us to live so we actually dated for only about 3 weeks. He was back the night before we married. We had nothing but his pick-up, his horse(yes, he was a cowboy) and what few personal items we had.
Took me a very short time to figure out I truly loved this wonderful person. Even though I kept very busy when he was at work I could not wait for him to return home.
Yes, love did happen to me one more time but because of health reasons beyond our control we had to part 2 weeks ago today. I miss him terribly, but I know in my heart now it is for the best.
Okay, next question if you don't mind: Stories like yours and my parents' appear to me to be more common in your generation and before, than since. What do you think the difference is?
Also, had you experienced anything like that before and it didn't work out and become true love? The description that wash2u and Dee gave of instant chemistry and 'sparks' to my mind is infatuation, which may, or may not grow to become a life-long loving relationship. Most of us have experienced some kind of zippidy-doo-dah feelings when meeting someone, but as most of us on here aren't widowed, it didn't develop into a life-long loving relationship.
Was it really true love at first sight with you and your husband? Or was it an instant chemistry that lead to true love? What do you think was key in that development, if so?[/quote
Jac, Not sure what the difference in the then and now is, but I sure know I have a 17 yr. old grandaughter and a soon to be 20 yr. old grandaughter. Would not want to see them marry at such a young age. Today the ladies(some not all)want to go on to college and have a career before they fall in love, then marry. With me some 40 years ago that did not really matter. You are right on the fact for me it was WOW look at this hunk of a man (LOL) I was not even sure what love meant but what I knew was everytime I was with him I never wanted to be away. After he proposed and I accepted he left to find a good job and a place for us to live so we actually dated for only about 3 weeks. He was back the night before we married. We had nothing but his pick-up, his horse(yes, he was a cowboy) and what few personal items we had.
Took me a very short time to figure out I truly loved this wonderful person. Even though I kept very busy when he was at work I could not wait for him to return home.
Yes, love did happen to me one more time but because of health reasons beyond our control we had to part 2 weeks ago today. I miss him terribly, but I know in my heart now it is for the best.
I'm sorry to hear about you and your lovely fella Sassy, I really am. You must miss him being around horribly.
My parents married after my mother travelled to England for a three week holiday - they were in love and it was the only way they could stay together. I agree with you that I'd find it worrisome for my daughter to marry young (even though she's a mother herself) and I'm pleased her priority is her education. I'm also relieved that with the advent of divorce and education, people (especially women) are not forced to remain in awful marriages, where they may be abused.
Having said that, I wonder if something has been lost with all the changes. To a certain extent, I think those of my parents' and your generation relied a little on luck, but also on hard work and acceptance. Once married, (assuming you were fortunate enough to have found someone willing to work with you, rather than against you in such a short space of time courting) you maybe accepted each other for who you each were, accepted it was a life-long commitment and made it work between you. You created the 'true love', it didn't just happen to you.
To me, finding this indefinable and elusive thing called 'true love' is like thinking it lands in your lap fully-formed and will forever remain constant as if by magic...and if it doesn't, that person is not worthy.
It strikes me, rather than looking for 'true love' we should be looking to ourselves to develop the skills to handle the love that is potentially all around us.
Does that make sense to you?
My parents married after my mother travelled to England for a three week holiday - they were in love and it was the only way they could stay together. I agree with you that I'd find it worrisome for my daughter to marry young (even though she's a mother herself) and I'm pleased her priority is her education. I'm also relieved that with the advent of divorce and education, people (especially women) are not forced to remain in awful marriages, where they may be abused.
Having said that, I wonder if something has been lost with all the changes. To a certain extent, I think those of my parents' and your generation relied a little on luck, but also on hard work and acceptance. Once married, (assuming you were fortunate enough to have found someone willing to work with you, rather than against you in such a short space of time courting) you maybe accepted each other for who you each were, accepted it was a life-long commitment and made it work between you. You created the 'true love', it didn't just happen to you.
To me, finding this indefinable and elusive thing called 'true love' is like thinking it lands in your lap fully-formed and will forever remain constant as if by magic...and if it doesn't, that person is not worthy.
It strikes me, rather than looking for 'true love' we should be looking to ourselves to develop the skills to handle the love that is potentially all around us.
Does that make sense to you?
only " LOVE " is hard to find
so " TRUE LOVE " is harder to find more
so " TRUE LOVE " is harder to find more
jac379: I'm sorry to hear about you and your lovely fella Sassy, I really am. You must miss him being around horribly.
My parents married after my mother travelled to England for a three week holiday - they were in love and it was the only way they could stay together. I agree with you that I'd find it worrisome for my daughter to marry young (even though she's a mother herself) and I'm pleased her priority is her education. I'm also relieved that with the advent of divorce and education, people (especially women) are not forced to remain in awful marriages, where they may be abused.
Having said that, I wonder if something has been lost with all the changes. To a certain extent, I think those of my parents' and your generation relied a little on luck, but also on hard work and acceptance. Once married, (assuming you were fortunate enough to have found someone willing to work with you, rather than against you in such a short space of time courting) you maybe accepted each other for who you each were, accepted it was a life-long commitment and made it work between you. You created the 'true love', it didn't just happen to you.
To me, finding this indefinable and elusive thing called 'true love' is like thinking it lands in your lap fully-formed and will forever remain constant as if by magic...and if it doesn't, that person is not worthy.
It strikes me, rather than looking for 'true love' we should be looking to ourselves to develop the skills to handle the love that is potentially all around us.
Does that make sense to you?
My parents married after my mother travelled to England for a three week holiday - they were in love and it was the only way they could stay together. I agree with you that I'd find it worrisome for my daughter to marry young (even though she's a mother herself) and I'm pleased her priority is her education. I'm also relieved that with the advent of divorce and education, people (especially women) are not forced to remain in awful marriages, where they may be abused.
Having said that, I wonder if something has been lost with all the changes. To a certain extent, I think those of my parents' and your generation relied a little on luck, but also on hard work and acceptance. Once married, (assuming you were fortunate enough to have found someone willing to work with you, rather than against you in such a short space of time courting) you maybe accepted each other for who you each were, accepted it was a life-long commitment and made it work between you. You created the 'true love', it didn't just happen to you.
To me, finding this indefinable and elusive thing called 'true love' is like thinking it lands in your lap fully-formed and will forever remain constant as if by magic...and if it doesn't, that person is not worthy.
It strikes me, rather than looking for 'true love' we should be looking to ourselves to develop the skills to handle the love that is potentially all around us.
Does that make sense to you?
Of course that makes sense Jac. I was never and still am not looking for love. But will always leave the doors open to the possibility that it will touch my life again.
I have other interests that take up my time and keep me busy. But I guess I am from that long ago generation. I do miss having that special person in my life. When I love I am in it forever. Sometimes things happen that forever is a short time.
Isn't it amazing how we all have our own idea of true and lasting love? Yet, why should it be? What a dull place this would be if we all thought the same and agreed with everyone.
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