Your fiancee wants you to sign a prenuptial agreement. Will you? (69)

Pisceslady, First of all I want to make clear that my comments aren't directed at you personally. Just to avoid misunderstandings.

I agree it would be stupid to ignore statistics. But what do those statistics mean? For me it only shows allot of people are getting married for all the wrong reasons. BEcause they fail to recognise true love, because they fail to bring the commitment that is required to build an everlasting marriage.
Thats all, nothing else. SO If I personally would think I was part of that group that doesn't understand the true meaning of marriage, or if i even had the slightest impression my partner was part of that group.. I would stay out of marriage and go for the cohabitation agreement. Marriage is sacred for me.. And I intend it to be forever.. So no need for a prenup then

Glatlol, True.. but that still doesn't mean they got what it takes to make a marriage work. Allot of people fail to understand the true meaning of marriage. They fail to understand their own needs and desires before they take this important step. Thats why after a few years they realise the partner they had selected wasn't the right one.
Sure allot of them blames a failed marriage to their partner, but I believe its only because they hadn't been honest with themselves from the start.
To truly be able to pick a right partner you must first truly understand yourself.. Learn what is really important to yourself.. What you can tolerate, what you consider really needed.

I used to think this way, too. And, it makes a lovely bed time story. However, in our generation things changed rapidly. Marriages don't always work out, no matter how much love and devotion was there. It's not even debatable (that they often don't work out). So, I realize that it seems that it's starting out a new life with a "negative", but the times kind of demand it. You wouldn't buy a car without a warranty, no matter how "perfect" it looked, would you? It is a matter of taking care of oneself, being prudent, in the event that either party becomes unhappy, and leaves. It is not fair to have to relinquish assets the other party had no effort in, so a prenuptial agreement is wise, sound, and really, in these times, absolutely necessary. It's sad that it is this way, but it IS.