Can we feel we are in love with people that we haven't met? (47)
Quykiwi: Can we love him/ her though we just know him on the internet and haven't met him in our daily life? Can love happen?
"Love" No.
Emphatuation or obsession, Sure, happens all the time.
I don't even consider it a relationship at all until the people have actually met in person.
People who think they are in love with someone they haven't met remind me of teenaged girls who fall in love with pop idols. They are serious in a sense, their emotions are involved, but it's all just delusion. They don't even know the person. They're just obsessing over a totally artificial mental image that they themselves have constructed. When reality catches up with them it will be a rude awakening.
Quykiwi: Can we love him/ her though we just know him on the internet and haven't met him in our daily life?
Can love happen?
Can love happen?
Here's the test.
Would people be willing to marry someone they haven't met in person and whose photo, information and history they can't be sure are even genuine?
Well yes, it can happen. Some people say they're in love before meeting and nobody can say that these people are lying or wrong over something so subjective as love.
I could say that I think that these people might be desperate, easy or have an abnormal way of bonding to other Human beings, but what I can't say is that they are not in love. I love my girlfriend, but I can't obectively prove this just as they cannot prove their love.
I could say that I think that these people might be desperate, easy or have an abnormal way of bonding to other Human beings, but what I can't say is that they are not in love. I love my girlfriend, but I can't obectively prove this just as they cannot prove their love.
I have a friend that has been in a somewhat long distance relationship.. And for both of their sakes I hope things work out when she gets here...She is going through I guess getting a visa. So I guess she is planning on staying. I hope for them both that it works... I really do.. but if it does not I will be the friend that I can be and help pick pieces up.
I don't knock people who feel they are in love with someone on the internet, because after all, it is their feeling.
I have been infatuated, smitten and lusted after a couple of men and made a bit of a fool of myself along the way, I might add, but, for me, personally, there is only one way to find out if there is true love...that is to meet in person and spend time together.
I have been infatuated, smitten and lusted after a couple of men and made a bit of a fool of myself along the way, I might add, but, for me, personally, there is only one way to find out if there is true love...that is to meet in person and spend time together.
Certainly it can happen !...Not always for the right reasons though !
Quykiwi: Can we love him/ her though we just know him on the internet and haven't met him in our daily life?
Can love happen?
Can love happen?
I'm new to this site and was just browsing on here and saw a question that struck me on a personal level. Can we feel we love someone we've never actually met? Absolutely! I know from personal experience. I am in love with someone I met on the internet. We met on a poker app and eventually exhanged emails. After a while communicating via emaul we exchanged phone numbers. We talked on the phone almost every night for a year. I have never connected with anyone else as much as with him. After about six months I realized I was completely head over heels in love with him. Is this smart? No. However you can't change the way you feel. It just is. My entire family thinks I'm crazy and they argue you can't truely love someone you've never met? It just is. You can't explain it. You feel it.
txbreeze134: I'm new to this site and was just browsing on here and saw a question that struck me on a personal level. Can we feel we love someone we've never actually met? Absolutely! I know from personal experience. I am in love with someone I met on the internet. We met on a poker app and eventually exhanged emails. After a while communicating via emaul we exchanged phone numbers. We talked on the phone almost every night for a year. I have never connected with anyone else as much as with him. After about six months I realized I was completely head over heels in love with him. Is this smart? No. However you can't change the way you feel. It just is. My entire family thinks I'm crazy and they argue you can't truely love someone you've never met? It just is. You can't explain it. You feel it.
I am happy for you - however, the question might be that you are in love with an unrealistic or only an image of him. I believe your feelings are valid and real however, where is the "love" going to go in the future? meeting in person is a healthy thing to do - so often we, all too human, beings invent a "better" image of ourself than we are in real life. It is easy to tell half truths and little lies about who we are on the internet. we also can present only a small timeframe of who we are and hid unpleasant characteristics of ourself.
I hope you get a change to meet this person in the real world in real world situation.
You make have these feelings - but you will not know if this can become a healthy love relationship and have the feelings shared or returned until you take the next step.
In my opinion I put someone who falls in love with someone online without having met them into the same category of those people who fall in love with a movie idol or screen star - the actor or the character in a movie - they do not fall in love with the real person, the actor
I could be wrong, and there may be exceptions, but falling in love with an image is a very sad thing to do.
I could be wrong, and there may be exceptions, but falling in love with an image is a very sad thing to do.
sundayrose1: It happened to me two years ago here. I fell in love with him, long before he knew I existed, then on the poem section, I was writing and he did, too and before we knew it, we were both so passionately in love. We met after a month of writing and skyping and so many trips later (13 hours flight) and still love him very much. Although love left him, I stayed on this feeling as I can't seem to let go and move on. But I am happy just the same loving him still.
thanks for this question..by the way just on the poetry corner alone, there's about 10 couples now who are happily married and still in love.
SR
thanks for this question..by the way just on the poetry corner alone, there's about 10 couples now who are happily married and still in love.
SR
P.S. I LOVE YOUR EXAMPLE
I sympathize with you. I know that it's not wise and seems so crazy when I feel I'm in love with him but the feeling and the token of love defitely exists. Like the other people, I worry that he's just making jokes with me and he's maybe a liar, it's so easy. However, I can't deny my feeling, my heart beats fast when I hear his voice and when he says he wants to see my smile. I really love talking to him :(. I miss him when he goes away on his business and can't contact to me. I'm also afraid that he's maybe dating with some other girls and got jealous when I think about his ex-girlfriend
I have never thought that I might be engaged in a long distance relationship but now I'm not so sure.
I don't know what will be going on in the future, I'm a litte bit scared. But it's hard not to contact him :(.
I have never thought that I might be engaged in a long distance relationship but now I'm not so sure.
I don't know what will be going on in the future, I'm a litte bit scared. But it's hard not to contact him :(.
txbreeze134: I'm new to this site and was just browsing on here and saw a question that struck me on a personal level. Can we feel we love someone we've never actually met? Absolutely! I know from personal experience. I am in love with someone I met on the internet. We met on a poker app and eventually exhanged emails. After a while communicating via emaul we exchanged phone numbers. We talked on the phone almost every night for a year. I have never connected with anyone else as much as with him. After about six months I realized I was completely head over heels in love with him. Is this smart? No. However you can't change the way you feel. It just is. My entire family thinks I'm crazy and they argue you can't truely love someone you've never met? It just is. You can't explain it. You feel it.
I sympathize with you. I know that it's not wise and seems so crazy when I feel I'm in love with him but the feeling and the token of love defitely exists. Like the other people, I worry that he's just making jokes with me and he's maybe a liar, it's so easy. However, I can't deny my feeling, my heart beats fast when I hear his voice and when he says he wants to see my smile. I really love talking to him :(. I miss him when he goes away on his business and can't contact to me. I'm also afraid that he's maybe dating with some other girls and got jealous when I think about his ex-girlfriend
I have never thought that I might be engaged in a long distance relationship but now I'm not so sure.
I don't know what will be going on in the future, I'm a litte bit scared. But it's hard not to contact him :(.
Quykiwi: Can we love him/ her though we just know him on the internet and haven't met him in our daily life?
Can love happen?
Yes.Can love happen?
Quykiwi: Can we love him/ her though we just know him on the internet and haven't met him in our daily life?
Can love happen?
Can love happen?
Never.
You can build likeness,admiration,friendship,sympathy,careness.....but in order to love somebody there has to be a connection ( touch, live, smell...look in there eyes ...ecc ).
kidatheart: Yes, it most certainly can happen.
I read a survey that says that 8 out of 100 marriages are between folk who met on the internet and I personally know it can happen
Long distance love IMO creates images of sometimes is not the reality of the object of our affection. You can't touch or smell or make love to the person. People are highly vulnerable to imagination when they are lonely and desperate for friendship. It is true that only minds and hearts can join with a common connection but honestly cyber love is a pitiful way to sell ourselves out to the think we can be in love with people we have not met or seen or touched in person. Online people can create an image that is not real. When we are vulnerable we will love the image and or the fantasy but if our reality states that we can't sometimes afford to run off 12000 miles to meet our friends or love connection endless emails chats phone calls will not take the place of the human touch that we all desire. So we all should be careful in not fooling ourselves or misleading ourselves. Yes we can make mental spiritual and emotional connections easily to one another. If we can purge our physical desires and shut them off then cyber love can work. Yet all the spirit and emotions cannot be complete with that element of the physical reality because we live in this physical body and dimension. People are not ready to leave the body to meld themselves spiritually. Only few are capable of doing that I think and it takes a joint effort and understanding of ourselves and our partners or objects of affection.
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so if you can love an imaginary friend, why can't you love someone from the internet