jac379: Do you mind me asking why you can't look your ex in the eyes, RS?
Also, do you think it helped your child/children that you beat this abuser and if so, how?
I realise this is a painful subject and I'm not going to quibble if you feel you can't answer. I'm interested in the consequences of how parents react on behalf of abused children. As KB has mentioned, turning a blind eye can be devastating, but I'm also wondering about other reactions.
She knew all along it was happening and chose him over her son.
From that day forward he felt vindicated and never looked back and now he's the top dog of anything he chooses to do, and I'm am proud of him for overcoming.
The only one that still lives with the guilt and the pain is me, because I wasn't there to for him and never even guessed it was happening. Later to find out that my son wasn't the only one. The only thing I would change now is that I should have put him in a coma, and it wouldn't have taken much more.
peachmelba: abbey if you don't mind me saying you spoke alot how much you would like an older hot woman your words...now you speaking of young females under the age of 16 that go with older men...I think you take delight in speaking of the young man in twenties with ladies old enough to be your mother and young girls with much older men..just an observation.
just looking for insight as to which is more acceptable in the society... that was why i inserted the quote ''prefer to see'' no ''want to see'' haha....
JeanKimberley: children are children and not responsible adults. I say that too young girls that sneak into the clubs - it is on the owners to realize they can lose their license - and it is still a poor excuse to say "I didn't know she was underage"... poor excuse.
so you would say these children have no clue what they are doing?they cant tell the difference between whats right and wrong. my argument is that some of the young girls in the age range 13-17 can tell if something is wrong , does this not show that all the girls in the age range can also tell if something is right or wrong? say for example a girl age 16 likes a guy age 24 because he's handsome and she's going out with him..is she blinded by the handsomeness of the guy and disregarding the fact that he's older on purpose?hahaha...
Abbeylikesdating: so you would say these children have no clue what they are doing?they cant tell the difference between whats right and wrong. my argument is that some of the young girls in the age range 13-17 can tell if something is wrong , does this not show that all the girls in the age range can also tell if something is right or wrong? say for example a girl age 16 likes a guy age 24 because he's handsome and she's going out with him..is she blinded by the handsomeness of the guy and disregarding the fact that he's older on purpose?hahaha...
Adults know what they are doing, and minors not always know.
RomancingSting: She knew all along it was happening and chose him over her son.
From that day forward he felt vindicated and never looked back and now he's the top dog of anything he chooses to do, and I'm am proud of him for overcoming.
The only one that still lives with the guilt and the pain is me, because I wasn't there to for him and never even guessed it was happening. Later to find out that my son wasn't the only one. The only thing I would change now is that I should have put him in a coma, and it wouldn't have taken much more.
..yes most dads and mothers may I say would feel same.you were powerless over what happend and it was beyond your controll,please don't eat yourself up feeling guilt you are a victim of his actions too but may I take the word victim out and say a surviver...he should be held accountable in front a judge..you have a wonderful son who is living his life and dare I say wants his dad to also he wants you to move on too hard as it is to say I'm guessing he wants closure on the whole thing and his dad to be that way too,he sure dosnt want to be reminded of it he has moved on and not a victim no more.
peachmelba: ..yes most dads and mothers may I say would feel same.you were powerless over what happend and it was beyond your controll,please don't eat yourself up feeling guilt you are a victim of his actions too but may I take the word victim out and say a surviver...he should be held accountable in front a judge..you have a wonderful son who is living his life and dare I say wants his dad to also he wants you to move on too hard as it is to say I'm guessing he wants closure on the whole thing and his dad to be that way too,he sure dosnt want to be reminded of it he has moved on and not a victim no more.
Yes Peaches, he has moved on and thank all the stars above that he has never shown any signs of this bothering him since. Just reading Pedal's post brought back some very deep unwanted memories and I hope someday that it will eventually be erased from my mind. I love my boys more than anything and have and I am always there for them no matter where I am and it has been that devotion to them that has made all of them build a confidence level second to none.
RomancingSting: Yes Peaches, he has moved on and thank all the stars above that he has never shown any signs of this bothering him since. Just reading Pedal's post brought back some very deep unwanted memories and I hope someday that it will eventually be erased from my mind. I love my boys more than anything and have and I am always there for them no matter where I am and it has been that devotion to them that has made all of them build a confidence level second to none.
unlaoised: It's tough being a parent, sometimes, isn't it?
It is Unla, but I wouldn't ever have it any other way, this coming from a guy that never wanted kids. Being a father has been the greatest and most precious gift I could have ever wished for, and the joys and happiness and unconditional love I recieve from them daily is beyond priceless. It has given me a level of accomplishment in life to see them now as adults with blooming careers and incredible intellectual prowess both in book and life smarts, wiping a tear.
RomancingSting: It is Unla, but I wouldn't ever have it any other way, this coming from a guy that never wanted kids. Being a father has been the greatest and most precious gift I could have ever wished for, and the joys and happiness and unconditional love I recieve from them daily is beyond priceless. It has given me a level of accomplishment in life to see them now as adults with blooming careers and incredible intellectual prowess both in book and life smarts, wiping a tear.
Aw romanc yes, you echo my feelings about my children.
unlaoised: Aw romanc yes, you echo my feelings about my children.
Thanks Unla, I would never thought in my younger years how precious they are and without a doubt there isn't anything I wouldn't do to protect them and help them in life. I feel that part of the gift of having children is knowing that you would sacrifice lifes pleasures or riches to see them succeed
RomancingSting: Thanks Unla, I would never thought in my younger years how precious they are and without a doubt there isn't anything I wouldn't do to protect them and help them in life. I feel that part of the gift of having children is knowing that you would sacrifice lifes pleasures or riches to see them succeed
peachmelba: ...I just can't believe how blessed I feel he is back to himself but yet he is wiser more humble, he works at it,body mind and soul,... In recovery now over a year and half,..back to his swimming,gym.just taking things bit more Easey on himself he is aware,...thankyou .::teddybear:
I sense your pure happiness and love Peaches, you're a wonderful mother with an immense heart, and know this, that your son will always hold you close to his heart and give you a spot in his heart that no other woman can ever take the place of. I'm speaking from experience!
RomancingSting: You're the greatest Peaches, thank you so dearly
..im not so peachy all the time can be so dam cheeky I got taken off the Irish forum one time for my cheek but I came back with a renewed more refined kind of cheekiness,haha. Now if I can get the optimisim to just get that Hoover out of my stress Cupboard the spiders love me tho. ::laugh: still looking at you kid. .have a great one.
RomancingSting: I sense your pure happiness and love Peaches, you're a wonderful mother with an immense heart, and know this, that your son will always hold you close to his heart and give you a spot in his heart that no other woman can ever take the place of. I'm speaking from experience!
. Thankyou By the way I'm thinking of putting him up for auction.......I'd like to wear a lovely hat I have in my wardrobe just nice for a wedding, Hey come out of your shock I'm speaking of son, He can cook to survive. But needs a wifey.oh he'll if he read this I'd be ex mam.:.::laugh: .
Wait all the ladies here weren't you once really young and you felt it wasn't fair as you couldn't go out with him or do stuffs with because he was older?..just saying...
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