when choosing a mate-what matters most? (34)

That is why this type of thing (the communication) is so important. We all were born naked in body, mind and soul, yet we cling to the pride and vanity of our illusions fearing to reveal who we truly are. It will never occur alone, and thus we must divest ourselves of our mental 'clothing' to be seen for whom we are. A difficult course and one learned only with 'failures' and 'mistakes.' Only when we have nothing can we typically see the truth for it clings to us and whispers ever in our ears, demanding its release...often too late to 'save' what was already squandered.
So many here profess desires for such and such but when the opportunity to expose ourselves as who we really are resort to fluffing the resume in fear of failure. This deciet propagates yet more failure and misery. Only when we dare do we succeed.

Mark

very well said