Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex? ( Archived) (21)

Feb 23, 2009 1:41 AM CSTIs it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
samxixam
samxixamsamxixamCincinnati, Ohio, USA5 Threads 1 Polls 67 Posts

Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?(Vote Below)

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Yes, all's fair in love and war.
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17%
yesIf relationship was ended by your friend/family
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9%
Only if you recieve permission from friend/family
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31%
No, never
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43%
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The reason I'm asking: My best friend's cousin is now hooking up with/possibly going to date my best friend's ex-boyfriend. My friend is really upset (mostly because they tried to hide it and weren't up front with her about it).

Generally, I vote no. But I have gotten permission to date a friends ex (they hadn't been serious, at all).
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Feb 23, 2009 4:42 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
jetdevil2001
jetdevil2001jetdevil2001Tashkent, Uzbekistan6 Threads 1 Polls 406 Posts
Yes, it is dilema, but if it is so better to make your friend know it from you first,rather then from somebody else
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Feb 23, 2009 4:46 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
tumtum52
tumtum52tumtum52trenton, New Jersey USA8 Threads 633 Posts
why should you worry, kids are your dna, not your ex, and no one owns you but godangel
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Feb 23, 2009 5:09 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
RayfromUSA
RayfromUSARayfromUSAvienne, Rhone-Alpes France86 Threads 29 Polls 6,611 Posts
Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?

It's ok with me.
But I think sometimes the "friends or family" might not like it.
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Feb 23, 2009 6:29 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
buzzy
buzzybuzzybiddeford, Maine USA24 Threads 1,492 Posts
samxixam: The reason I'm asking: My best friend's cousin is now hooking up with/possibly going to date my best friend's ex-boyfriend. My friend is really upset (mostly because they tried to hide it and weren't up front with her about it).

Generally, I vote no. But I have gotten permission to date a friends ex (they hadn't been serious, at all).


Only if that friend or family member is deceased. How could you hurt another by doing that?
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Feb 23, 2009 6:32 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
Nope i wouldnt do that..
Would be too much Drama
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Feb 23, 2009 6:34 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
jetdevil2001
jetdevil2001jetdevil2001Tashkent, Uzbekistan6 Threads 1 Polls 406 Posts
kissmedeeply: Nope i wouldnt do that..
Would be too much Drama


If you love and respect your friend you would not mind and not consider this act as a betray
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Feb 23, 2009 6:37 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
jetdevil2001: If you love and respect your friend you would not mind and not consider this act as a betray


If i love and respect my friend i wouldnt do that

2 way street..
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Feb 23, 2009 6:37 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
Too much drama and chance for hurt feelings, I would say no.

wine
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Feb 23, 2009 6:38 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
druidess6308: Too much drama and chance for hurt feelings, I would say no.
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Feb 23, 2009 6:41 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
jetdevil2001
jetdevil2001jetdevil2001Tashkent, Uzbekistan6 Threads 1 Polls 406 Posts
kissmedeeply: If i love and respect my friend i wouldnt do that
I meant if my friend acted that way, and he came to inform me about that
2 way street..
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Feb 25, 2009 9:25 PM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada30 Threads 16,544 Posts
Wouldn't make any difference to me, if they're happy, have at it. dancing

The only person I'd ever ask permission from is the lady's father, and that would only be if it was for her hand in marriage....like that'll ever happen.laugh
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Feb 25, 2009 9:28 PM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
loverboy690
loverboy690loverboy690East Jordan, Michigan USA84 Threads 7 Polls 3,729 Posts
Depends on the person and how well you know them.
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Feb 25, 2009 9:29 PM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
Shirley49WV
Shirley49WVShirley49WVMason, West Virginia USA27 Threads 2,449 Posts
druidess6308: Too much drama and chance for hurt feelings, I would say no.


Have to go with Dru here and say no.
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Feb 26, 2009 2:05 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
Drewski
DrewskiDrewskiOlds, Alberta Canada9 Threads 343 Posts
Ray
In response to: It's ok with me. But I think sometimes the "friends or family" might not like it.


rolling on the floor laughing Good one!

Me, I think you should just ... you know ..... banana Like, why hide it, just get satisfied and destroy people. If they can't deal with your libido or weaknesses, screw 'em.
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Mar 4, 2009 6:47 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
zirebekermun
zirebekermunzirebekermuntehran, Iran3 Posts
the matter is not ownership,it is actually embarrasment and it is personal.differs in each case..
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Mar 4, 2009 6:56 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
petalbabe
petalbabepetalbabeOgdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland61 Threads 1 Polls 3,101 Posts
No one needs permission to date ANYONE.

You just have to be aware of, and able to cope with, any possible fallout and future bad feeling..

It could ruin a long standing friendship.

Personally, I would look further afield than a friend's ex. Just because I wouldnt want to stir up any bad feeling.

There are plenty of men (and women) in the world to choose from.

Friendship is more important.

Just my own opinion, though.
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Mar 4, 2009 7:00 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
Nope, nope, nope, and nope.
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Mar 4, 2009 7:01 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
Da10th
Da10thDa10thThree Springs, Pennsylvania USA17 Threads 2,744 Posts
petalbabe: No one needs permission to date ANYONE.

You just have to be aware of, and able to cope with, any possible fallout and future bad feeling..

It could ruin a long standing friendship.

Personally, I would look further afield than a friend's ex. Just because I wouldnt want to stir up any bad feeling.

There are plenty of men (and women) in the world to choose from.

Friendship is more important.

Just my own opinion, though.
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Mar 4, 2009 7:02 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
Big_John
Big_JohnBig_JohnOcean Springs, Mississippi USA19 Threads 9,767 Posts
It is never acceptable to date a friend's or family members's ex in my opinion. Family and friends come before all others. I wouldn't ask and wouldn't want anybody to even ask me. Even if you friend or family gives their okay, it is probably because they are who they are and not because they are in agreement with it.
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Mar 4, 2009 7:04 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
Tamarin
TamarinTamarinsomewhere, Lothian, Scotland UK173 Threads 1 Polls 3,267 Posts
Big_John: It is never acceptable to date a friend's or family members's ex in my opinion. Family and friends come before all others. I wouldn't ask and wouldn't want anybody to even ask me. Even if you friend or family gives their okay, it is probably because they are who they are and not because they are in agreement with it.
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Mar 4, 2009 7:07 AM CST Is it okay to date a friend or family member's ex?
claire3454
claire3454claire3454Pangea, Illinois USA33 Posts
I don't think there is anything wrong with it but for me, dating a friend's or family member's ex would make me uncomfortable on family/friends gatherings.

My feelings only.
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Created: Feb 2009
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