depends on how mature you are as a person and what your preffrences are when it comes to dating people with special needs i know it can be challanging for both parties
i have often wondered how a blind person feels about dating a person who is normal and is not blind where i use to live we had a few blind people with seeing eye dogs in the community i often said hi to one lady with a seeing eye dog i felt for her she was a beautifal young lady and her seeing eye dog she had realy looked after her
i have read up on dating people with special needs and listened to what they had to share
but i have never had the oppertunity or have i had a person with special needs being attracted to me
i treat people with respect but if i see an idiot picking on some one with special needs it gets me angry i was taken to a half way home a friend of mine worked in i got the chance to see what she does we took one young girl out for the day who was abandoned by her parents she clung on to me i felt uncomfterbal at first but my friend told me not to let it worry me
when i would come over to the half way house with my friend for the day the first person to greet me was this young girl
then ther was this kid who had no arms he was amazing he loves drawing and painting and the paintings he showed me were mind blowing he did a painting of the opera house and harbour bridge
thes people should not be discriminated against just because they are not like us i know how hard it can be for a person with special needs and ther are a lot of people with special needs living alone in our neighbour hoods
they have case managers comming in and checking up on them helping them with the day to day chores like shopping dr appointments paying ther bills and keeping ther property maintained
damo9: depends on how mature you are as a person and what your preffrences are when it comes to dating people with special needs i know it can be challanging for both parties
i have often wondered how a blind person feels about dating a person who is normal and is not blind where i use to live we had a few blind people with seeing eye dogs in the community i often said hi to one lady with a seeing eye dog i felt for her she was a beautifal young lady and her seeing eye dog she had realy looked after her i have read up on dating people with special needs and listened to what they had to share but i have never had the oppertunity or have i had a person with special needs being attracted to me
i treat people with respect but if i see an idiot picking on some one with special needs it gets me angry i was taken to a half way home a friend of mine worked in i got the chance to see what she does we took one young girl out for the day who was abandoned by her parents she clung on to me i felt uncomfterbal at first but my friend told me not to let it worry me
when i would come over to the half way house with my friend for the day the first person to greet me was this young girl
then ther was this kid who had no arms he was amazing he loves drawing and painting and the paintings he showed me were mind blowing he did a painting of the opera house and harbour bridge thes people should not be discriminated against just because they are not like us i know how hard it can be for a person with special needs and ther are a lot of people with special needs living alone in our neighbour hoods they have case managers comming in and checking up on them helping them with the day to day chores like shopping dr appointments paying ther bills and keeping ther property maintained
smiler123: describe your experience, did the relationship work?
the only disability in life is a bad attitude and the only people in life who find what they are looking for is the fault finders...gd nite every one an ty for the chat im off to clock up som zzzzzzzs ..
ok....seriously - my last wife was classed as 'disabled'. She had a serious back injury and later a hole in the heart was discovered and she had to have open heart surgery (i.e. surgery INSIDE her heart not some 'routine' bypass).
The fact that she was disabled and could not do simple things like shopping for more than a few minutes without being in severe pain meant that there was the possibility I'd end up pushing her around in a wheelchair eventually; if you love somebody this should not pose a huge problem.
smiler123: describe your experience, did the relationship work?
I had a 3 months relationship with a guy I was desperately in love with when I was 18. -Unfortunately he was always the 'independent' type and ended it.. just when I was really getting into it..
After that I just heard of him here and there, and lived very far away for 20 years..- During that time he got thrown out a second storey window in a bar brawl- and his brain took a serious blow. Even though he has never touched a drop of alcohol in his life, the guys in hospital didnt quite realise what had happened and mistakenly left him to 'sober up' for hours, before discovering his serious injury.. The result was a prolonged coma and as he came to several years of rehab etc..
I met up with him again in 2003, and I was devastated to see he had lost his speech down to 4 words, he is lame down one side, dragging his foot, and his right hand is permanently curled into a ball. He has trouble reading text, and also can get confused with audio.. He has epilepsy and other body issues like cramps or circulation problems. You can imagine my sadness. But by the time I met him, he lad long since accepted his disability, the fact that people think he is an imbecile first off,- and all his other issues. He had started a watch repair business, now just trades them, he was working at a cafe and other places,- and even took part in a dance performance that attempted to illustrate what life is like with a brain injury. He lives alone in a vibrant neighborhood community and is socially very active, seems to be the person who calls me to go dancing the most out of all my friends.
He achieved all this by himself, as the friends he had before the accident where overwhelmed by the change, and seem to have disappeared. His father had long since died, as far as I recall he was a violent alcoholic. His mother couldnt have been much use to him neither, as she was just doing time in prison for posession of marijuana.
I was going through a traumatic break up at the time and needed a place to stay, and he let me and my the 3 year old stay with him.. Cared for me, let me whine and feel sorry for me, advised me about my problems and told me off if I was to back off and give in on anything...
Next to him I felt the disabled one, for feeling an emotional mess about my break-up,- my legal issues, my restart in a country that had become foreign to me..
I fell in love with him all over again and we had a brief affair, until he disclosed to me that he was living a poly lifestyle and I did not want this.. So we remained great friends..
The moral of the story is: A disabled person may be 'disabled', but it also gives them the opportunity to show what they are made of internally, the stuff that really matters. A disabled person can humble and impress just as much or more than any able bodied person.. Just like with non-disabled people: it only depends on their character..
(In case you are wondering how we communicate, he can say yes and no, he gestures and uses intonation very well, and on the phone we send MMS images to point any conversation to a new topic or focus.. I guess we just know each other very well..)
Every person has special needs, but I would imagine you must mean disabled by your selection, word discrimination. Myself, having disabilities, I've had great experiences, and hundreds of return visits. A few, four, or five live in, working relationships. My needs, as I believe also the LovelySerene, are not special, but are has normal as everyone else. You might even be suprised, and find it is just the special need you've craved, and never found in the AB world.
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