bajanblueSpeightstown, Saint Peter Barbados3,724 posts
jbibiza: This was brought up on a Thread Yesterday and a Few people seemed to thing it was a good idea, so here it is.
While some of you on CS have found your mate, there are many of us still single. Most people on the forums seem to be intelligent, interesting, good sense of humor... traits most of us admire and have listed as things we desire in a partner... so the question arises...
Why are you still single? Please vote and elaborate.
I just recently discovered that I am perceived as being so self sustaining and self sufficient that I would not need anyone enough to make me properly appealing.
Kind of a catch 22 situation, while I am alone, there is only me to take care of myself and keep things on balance. if being needy is a prerequisite to finding a mate, i will always be alone.
While it is true I have never been the needy, clinging type, and consider myself responsible for my own happiness, I have all the normal human needs for companionship, shared laughter, and love.
I just don't see any point in being miserable and bent out of shape if I don't have it in my life at the moment.
So I guess I am looking for a man who is looking for a woman who will enjoy him and being in a relationship, rather than a delicate flower who needs to be shelteredf from and guided through life, who blames him if she isn't feeling happy when she wakes up.
What have you done to my heart? It used to be open, like a rose in full bloom It used to sing at the sound of your voice And dance when you entered the room
You hid the monster so well The one that deep inside you did dwell The one that I tried to ignore But he came out each time we closed the front door
And he would stamp on my heart Pulling the petals further apart Till nothing was left in my breast Just the cold hand of fear clutched at my chest
What have you done to my heart? It used to be so full of light Now what’s left is wrapped up in chains And if someone gets close it takes flight
bajanblue: I just recently discovered that I am perceived as being so self sustaining and self sufficient that I would not need anyone enough to make me properly appealing.
Kind of a catch 22 situation, while I am alone, there is only me to take care of myself and keep things on balance. if being needy is a prerequisite to finding a mate, i will always be alone.
While it is true I have never been the needy, clinging type, and consider myself responsible for my own happiness, I have all the normal human needs for companionship, shared laughter, and love.
I just don't see any point in being miserable and bent out of shape if I don't have it in my life at the moment.
So I guess I am looking for a man who is looking for a woman who will enjoy him and being in a relationship, rather than a delicate flower who needs to be shelteredf from and guided through life, who blames him if she isn't feeling happy when she wakes up.
I have a hard time with this as well, and I just don't understand it. To me it's so much better to want or be wanted then to need and be needed. If I want you... it's you, the happiness I feel being with you, the things we share, If I need you, its for a roof over my head, to protect etc.
I think it takes a very strong man to accept the fact that he's loved just because he is, rather then what he provides
PILIPALA: Jezebels haven't been called one of them for years
delicious evil or jezebel or whatever, as a woman and human being ur heart has a loophole to be penetrated with the right moves don't underestimate that, perhaps nobody has discovered it
PILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK4,804 posts
omans02: delicious evil or jezebel or whatever, as a woman and human being ur heart has a loophole to be penetrated with the right moves don't underestimate that, perhaps nobody has discovered it
Oh don't worry i know how my heart works and i never underestimate it
PILIPALA: Oh don't worry i know how my heart works and i never underestimate it
take it or leave it, don't think anyone is ever undesirable or being able to put up with, its a depends on the basical understanding and sensitivity that exist between people
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