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Feb 15, 2008 4:43 AM CSTWhy Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands, Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts

Why Are You Still Single?(Vote Below)

- (To Vote: select an option above, then press this button)
I prefer being single, with so much to choose from
46
4%
I prefer being single, relationships; to much work
45
4%
I preferred being single but I'm ready for more no
78
6%
I don't know what I want & make bad choices
72
6%
I've been really hurt and don't trust any more
192
15%
I know what I want and refuse to settle for less
282
23%
The person I like is geographically undesirable
42
3%
No one seems to realize how much I have to offer
283
23%
I'm a crusty old b*stard/b*tch, who would have me?
77
6%
Other
131
10%
Total Votes
1,248
This was brought up on a Thread Yesterday and a Few people seemed to thing it was a good idea, so here it is.

While some of you on CS have found your mate, there are many of us still single. Most people on the forums seem to be intelligent, interesting, good sense of humor... traits most of us admire and have listed as things we desire in a partner... so the question arises...

Why are you still single? Please vote and elaborate.
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Feb 15, 2008 4:43 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
This was brought up on a Thread Yesterday and a Few people seemed to thing it was a good idea, so here it is.

While some of you on CS have found your mate, there are many of us still single. Most people on the forums seem to be intelligent, interesting, good sense of humor... traits most of us admire and have listed as things we desire in a partner... so the question arises...

Why are you still single? Please vote and elaborate.
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Feb 15, 2008 4:45 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
PILIPALA
PILIPALAPILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK220 Threads 5,912 Posts
please see answer on other thread belowrolling on the floor laughing
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Feb 15, 2008 4:46 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
Oh cr*p, just looked at the Threads and noticed another single pole!!!!! Well maybe this offers some different choices and will open the door a little wider.
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Feb 15, 2008 4:53 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
PILIPALA
PILIPALAPILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK220 Threads 5,912 Posts
jbibiza: Oh cr*p, just looked at the Threads and noticed another single pole!!!!! Well maybe this offers some different choices and will open the door a little wider.


Don't worry i have done that loads of time my self

Ok i am on my own because no one want merolling on the floor laughing

And i would rather be be alone than lonely with some one else trying to fill a gap thats not right.
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Feb 15, 2008 4:59 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
Hi girls wave I'm on my own for 2 reasons,

Where i live so i choose to be.

Is someone i like but because of distance can't be more than friends
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Feb 15, 2008 5:00 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
PILIPALA: Don't worry i have done that loads of time my self

Ok i am on my own because no one want me

And i would rather be be alone than lonely with some one else trying to fill a gap thats not right.


That phrase... rather be alone than lonely with someone, that really sums it up well, I've epressed it in a lot of ways but that says it perfectly.

My best friend here in Ibiza is from Wales... Newport
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Feb 15, 2008 5:02 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
morganlee: Hi girls I'm on my own for 2 reasons,

Where i live so i choose to be.

Is someone i like but because of distance can't be more than friends


Soooooooooooo Geographically Undesirable then?
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Feb 15, 2008 5:03 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
PILIPALA
PILIPALAPILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK220 Threads 5,912 Posts
jbibiza: That phrase... rather be alone than lonely with someone, that really sums it up well, I've epressed it in a lot of ways but that says it perfectly.

My best friend here in Ibiza is from Wales... Newport



Thats not far from me Say hi to her from mewave
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Feb 15, 2008 5:03 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
jbibiza: Soooooooooooo Geographically Undesirable then?
Unfortunately yes
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Feb 15, 2008 5:04 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
Zarah
ZarahZarahdublin, Dublin Ireland34 Threads 2,178 Posts
I have spent my life travelling consistently since 14 years old...
25 years later I realise I am still single..umm yes a few dates along the way but nothing long term because of my lifestyle..
Now I am content to settle a little...eensy weensy bit...
No-one will have me...lol!!!!!!
Its my mothers fault...she was in the circus as a trapeze artist so I had no hope of a 'normal' partnered life!!!
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Feb 15, 2008 5:07 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
jbibiza: Soooooooooooo Geographically Undesirable then?



Same here. I chose not to date Finns. We are toooo different.

laugh

.....but i found someone on CS who lives in a different country....i can't quite call myself single anymore. laugh


wave Girls.
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Feb 15, 2008 5:10 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
lusciousmile: Same here. I chose not to date Finns. We are toooo different.



.....but i found someone on CS who lives in a different country....i can't quite call myself single anymore. Girls.


Did have someone here that had lived in Germany for 14 yrs so was really european in his views, but the interference from outside influences re the culture caused so many problems in our relationship
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Feb 15, 2008 5:10 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
morganlee: Unfortunately yes


That brings up an interesting question... Internet allows us to meet people from all over the world. We are introduced to people we never could have met otherwise, but there is the possibilitly of falling for someone who is "geographically undesirable". Having met that person, does it make you less satisfied and less willing to settle for someone in your location who is available?
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Feb 15, 2008 5:13 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
lusciousmile: Same here. I chose not to date Finns. We are toooo different.



.....but i found someone on CS who lives in a different country....i can't quite call myself single anymore. Girls.


Hi Lush,

It's funny... the man I'm interested in on another site is from Finland but lives on a boat in Mallorca now... what is it you don't like about Finn's?
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Feb 15, 2008 5:14 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
Zarah
ZarahZarahdublin, Dublin Ireland34 Threads 2,178 Posts
jbibiza: That brings up an interesting question... Internet allows us to meet people from all over the world. We are introduced to people we never could have met otherwise, but there is the possibilitly of falling for someone who is "geographically undesirable". Having met that person, does it make you less satisfied and less willing to settle for someone in your location who is available?


Its human nature that the grass always looks greener....
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Feb 15, 2008 5:14 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
morganlee: Did have someone here that had lived in Germany for 14 yrs so was really european in his views, but the interference from outside influences re the culture caused so many problems in our relationship


Culture can cause more problems than one can imagine.
I find religion and culture very sensitive factors in dating.

Hope you find someone else Morgan.
hug
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Feb 15, 2008 5:15 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
jbibiza: That brings up an interesting question... Internet allows us to meet people from all over the world. We are introduced to people we never could have met otherwise, but there is the possibilitly of falling for someone who is "geographically undesirable". Having met that person, does it make you less satisfied and less willing to settle for someone in your location who is available?


For me i would be very wary of starting another relationship with someone from a completely different culture, the stress of saying or doing the wrong thing in public was enormous. Now i have given up on the dating idea here but enjoy the companionship on the internet of the people i have meet.
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Feb 15, 2008 5:16 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
lusciousmile: Culture can cause more problems than one can imagine.
I find religion and culture very sensitive factors in dating.

Hope you find someone else Morgan.
thank you but really can't see that happening if i stay here but who know's ????? hug
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Feb 15, 2008 5:18 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
lusciousmile: Culture can cause more problems than one can imagine.
I find religion and culture very sensitive factors in dating.

Hope you find someone else Morgan.



Friends as well, I'm kind of a package deal... love me, love my friends!
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Feb 15, 2008 5:20 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
jbibiza: Friends as well, I'm kind of a package deal... love me, love my friends!
In Turkish culture that is very true, we got on great at home but as soon as his friends appeared different ball game
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Feb 15, 2008 5:24 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
jbibiza: Hi Lush,

It's funny... the man I'm interested in on another site is from Finland but lives on a boat in Mallorca now... what is it you don't like about Finn's?


Well try one who's lived here all their lives and get back to me...laugh


Seriously though here's a quick list ( i need to get to an exam)
1. am not very good with shy, aloof, introverts.
2. Language barrier.
3. I absolutely don't want to live in Finland for more than a year or so (more).
4. More coming up later.



Anyway, my babe is a darling. smitten
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Feb 15, 2008 5:24 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
morganlee: In Turkish culture that is very true, we got on great at home but as soon as his friends appeared different ball game


Was it the whole "Strongly Male Dominated Society" thing?
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Feb 15, 2008 5:27 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
jbibiza: Friends as well, I'm kind of a package deal... love me, love my friends!


thumbs up

I have 5 sisters ( three of them are here in Finland...oh, including my twin grin ) so these being my bestest friends, a man has to totally accept them. Don't think they have a choice. Giggle.


thumbs up
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Feb 15, 2008 5:27 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
lusciousmile: Well try one who's lived here all their lives and get back to me... Seriously though here's a quick list ( i need to get to an exam)
1. am not very good with shy, aloof, introverts.
2. Language barrier.
3. I absolutely don't want to live in Finland for more than a year or so (more).
4. More coming up later.
Anyway, my babe is a darling.



Well I guess he's not a typical Finn, He's one of the most exuberant people I've ever met, speaks fluent English and Spanish, doesn't live in Finland... so far I'm safe... laugh
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Feb 15, 2008 5:28 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
Yes i said bestest. laugh


For emphasis.


Got to run now girls, see you in a couple of hours. Wish me luck! blues
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Feb 15, 2008 5:29 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
lusciousmile: Yes i said bestest. For emphasis.Got to run now girls, see you in a couple of hours. Wish me luck!


Good Luck!!!
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Feb 15, 2008 5:29 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
jbibiza: Well I guess he's not a typical Finn, He's one of the most exuberant people I've ever met, speaks fluent English and Spanish, doesn't live in Finland... so far I'm safe...


Yep, you are safe. Typical finns aren't my thing. roll eyes

Ok. Byeeeee. hug
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Feb 15, 2008 5:35 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
jbibiza: Was it the whole "Strongly Male Dominated Society" thing?
yes it was although they treated me with an outward show of respect it was almost as if a woman is humoured. The view is still very much that a woman's place is in the home and without an opinion that really mattered. I could see he was often in the middle but could not loose face with his peers.
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Feb 15, 2008 5:42 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
morganlee: yes it was although they treated me with an outward show of respect it was almost as if a woman is humoured. The view is still very much that a woman's place is in the home and without an opinion that really mattered. I could see he was often in the middle but could not loose face with his peers.


Before everyone comes down on me for this.... this is only my experience and I'm not putting all Turkish men down!!!! That said...

When living in the states I met several Turkish men who were friends of my sisters boyfriend... When we were out I would see them in action charming the women, but when they came back to the group the derogatory way they discussed women was really shocking to me! I try to be open minded but when you see this so blatantly... I'm very wary of Turkish men now.
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Feb 15, 2008 5:51 AM CST Why Are You Still Single?
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta32 Threads 1 Polls 7,360 Posts
jbibiza: Before everyone comes down on me for this.... this is only my experience and I'm not putting all Turkish men down!!!! That said...

When living in the states I met several Turkish men who were friends of my sisters boyfriend... When we were out I would see them in action charming the women, but when they came back to the group the derogatory way they discussed women was really shocking to me! I try to be open minded but when you see this so blatantly... I'm very wary of Turkish men now.
The person i was with was a good man and did not behave as his friends did, but i agree there way is different to say the least and i would not contemplate a relationship with one now.
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