is it possible to connect to a person if you have not met them but you text and talk on phone often? (73)
NoBratzHowzThat: i know - if only we were psychic right?
kind of a video conference
we can connect, but better to not make any commitment before meet in person. Coz in internet, people can be whatever they want to be. Only after u feel confortable, there is chemistry and trust, u can meet.
viva007: kind of a video conference
i LOVE it!
venusenvy: I just think prior to meeting, its all illusion or whatever they choose to portray...I would take face to face anyday.
sometimes 2 people might not live close to each other so all they may have is phone, txt, IM with the goal of eventually meeting. it could be months before they meet and strong bonds can be made prior to that meeting. yes some mistakes can be made in forming a percatpion of someone before they meet but meeting and continuing the relationship will take care of that.
heavensmile: we can connect, but better to not make any commitment before meet in person. Coz in internet, people can be whatever they want to be. Only after u feel confortable, there is chemistry and trust, u can meet.
what kind of comfirtability..NoBratzHowzThat: i LOVE it!
people get married through video conferenceskinseycy: Love is an over-used word imo. People fall in love with the idea of being in. In reality they fall in lust with that person. Real love takes time to grow and is there after the lust dies down.
THANK YOU
i LOVE what you said about LOVE!
i've read many studies on the concept of LOVE in relationships and you know what the overwhelming response was from most people in these completely different studies from different cultures, etc,?
that LOVE is a feeling
it was all based on the FEELINGS someone had that someone GAVE them..
very few said it was acceptance and growth over time, etc and the strongest relationships were those that made it through the worst times and were still IN LOVE
somehow i want to break out into that song FEELINGS now
whoa whoa whoa FEELINGS..
I think its a good tool to get to no each other.You can become great friends,but it comes down to chemistry,that spark,the little things,that can only happen in person.The internet or a dateing site,can be the first step!
demonfairy: I think its a good tool to get to no each other.You can become great friends,but it comes down to chemistry,that spark,the little things,that can only happen in person.The internet or a dateing site,can be the first step!
xxfrecklesxx: Hey Venus..
yeh I agree...freaks me out too.. the interent and the 'face to face, real thing' is 2 different things.. ok you might 'meet' and the spark is there, but then again it might not...
yeh I agree...freaks me out too.. the interent and the 'face to face, real thing' is 2 different things.. ok you might 'meet' and the spark is there, but then again it might not...
Hey frecks, morning Demon...have you guys checked out the "cougar" thread yet??? too hilarious
Firstly, let me thank the op for posting this question.. I have also been wondering about this as I am finding myself extremely interested in this one person who lives in another country.. We speak everyday sometimes two or three times a day.. and sometimes for long hours on end. We have recently spoken on the phone and we are thinking of meeting later on this year. I am beginning to develop a great connection with this man and I think it is wonderful.. however I do believe that the actual physical meeting and interaction is gonna be the deciding factor of whether or not we take this further.
Secondly, I'd like to disagree with NoBratz in your last post.. where you said that love is a feeling.. IMO, love is a choice.. the feelings that come out of Love are happiness, joy, contentment and a host of others.. but Love is a choice.. to give or to recieve, it can just happen by feeling.. we have to choose to do with it whatever we will..
Thirdly, I am gonna run the risk of sounding like I am contradicting myself, but I will add this.. while I do believe in the importance of physical interaction, I also am extremely glad that I am having this time to get to know this person cause if we met now, we probably would be carried away by the infatuation of it all and make mistakes that might last a lifetime.. so FOR ME, right now this is the best way.. lol.. I can be a little uncontrollable sometimes.. so getting to know someone on the internet without the added temptations is quite a welcomed change!
Sorry my post was so long!
Secondly, I'd like to disagree with NoBratz in your last post.. where you said that love is a feeling.. IMO, love is a choice.. the feelings that come out of Love are happiness, joy, contentment and a host of others.. but Love is a choice.. to give or to recieve, it can just happen by feeling.. we have to choose to do with it whatever we will..
Thirdly, I am gonna run the risk of sounding like I am contradicting myself, but I will add this.. while I do believe in the importance of physical interaction, I also am extremely glad that I am having this time to get to know this person cause if we met now, we probably would be carried away by the infatuation of it all and make mistakes that might last a lifetime.. so FOR ME, right now this is the best way.. lol.. I can be a little uncontrollable sometimes.. so getting to know someone on the internet without the added temptations is quite a welcomed change!
Sorry my post was so long!
Secondly, I'd like to disagree with NoBratz in your last post.. where you said that love is a feeling.. IMO, love is a choice.. the feelings that come out of Love are happiness, joy, contentment and a host of others.. but Love is a choice.. to give or to recieve, it can just happen by feeling.. we have to choose to do with it whatever we will..
that should be can't
that should be can't
nicki_love: Firstly, let me thank the op for posting this question.. I have also been wondering about this as I am finding myself extremely interested in this one person who lives in another country.. We speak everyday sometimes two or three times a day.. and sometimes for long hours on end. We have recently spoken on the phone and we are thinking of meeting later on this year. I am beginning to develop a great connection with this man and I think it is wonderful.. however I do believe that the actual physical meeting and interaction is gonna be the deciding factor of whether or not we take this further.
Secondly, I'd like to disagree with NoBratz in your last post.. where you said that love is a feeling.. IMO, love is a choice.. the feelings that come out of Love are happiness, joy, contentment and a host of others.. but Love is a choice.. to give or to recieve, it can just happen by feeling.. we have to choose to do with it whatever we will..
Thirdly, I am gonna run the risk of sounding like I am contradicting myself, but I will add this.. while I do believe in the importance of physical interaction, I also am extremely glad that I am having this time to get to know this person cause if we met now, we probably would be carried away by the infatuation of it all and make mistakes that might last a lifetime.. so FOR ME, right now this is the best way.. lol.. I can be a little uncontrollable sometimes.. so getting to know someone on the internet without the added temptations is quite a welcomed change!
Sorry my post was so long!
Secondly, I'd like to disagree with NoBratz in your last post.. where you said that love is a feeling.. IMO, love is a choice.. the feelings that come out of Love are happiness, joy, contentment and a host of others.. but Love is a choice.. to give or to recieve, it can just happen by feeling.. we have to choose to do with it whatever we will..
Thirdly, I am gonna run the risk of sounding like I am contradicting myself, but I will add this.. while I do believe in the importance of physical interaction, I also am extremely glad that I am having this time to get to know this person cause if we met now, we probably would be carried away by the infatuation of it all and make mistakes that might last a lifetime.. so FOR ME, right now this is the best way.. lol.. I can be a little uncontrollable sometimes.. so getting to know someone on the internet without the added temptations is quite a welcomed change!
Sorry my post was so long!
not long at all and full of insight.
jazzmine866: I am just wondering if another people think you can or can not connect to someone that you have not met yet.
yes you can connect and fall in love....feelings are the same as when you meet someone real....the only difference is that you have not physically met the person, but, I prefer chatting to someone via webcam...you get a chance to see the person, and yes, there is a deep connection, by phone alone, does not do it for me, you can use skype...msn etc and also "video call"...this is my opinion, everyone has their own way, and some, would prefer to meet someone in person, but, it has to start somewhere, build that trust and freindship before meeting... ..
venusenvy: Hey frecks, morning Demon...have you guys checked out the "cougar" thread yet??? too hilarious
good morning venus,no but i willI think people can fall in love with other people who we have never met in real life, but with nice photos, nice face on webcam, nice talking for many nights with many sweet words which seem true, then u can feel love him, love for the sweet words, love for the soft voices, love for healthy body, with intelligent brain,love for his true love for u even though in feelings only,...
But i dont know if we meet this person in the real life, then the love will be stronger & passionate or disappear slowly,...
Summary, i cant not understand what is love and am afraid of loving someone so much, as man will break woman's heart one day, i cant stand the man's betray or people's betray, for me i like everything should be clear & transparent, just a white colour or black colour, and dont like grey colour in love or hate something or people.
But i dont know if we meet this person in the real life, then the love will be stronger & passionate or disappear slowly,...
Summary, i cant not understand what is love and am afraid of loving someone so much, as man will break woman's heart one day, i cant stand the man's betray or people's betray, for me i like everything should be clear & transparent, just a white colour or black colour, and dont like grey colour in love or hate something or people.
nicki_love: Secondly, I'd like to disagree with NoBratz in your last post.. where you said that love is a feeling.. IMO, love is a choice.. the feelings that come out of Love are happiness, joy, contentment and a host of others.. but Love is a choice.. to give or to recieve, it can just happen by feeling.. we have to choose to do with it whatever we will..
before you get upset with my post you might want to take the time to REread it. i didn't say that I THINK LOVE IS A FEELING.
i read in many studies that were done on couples that those couples reported THEY said love is a feeling
(when all else fails, slow down and reeeead what someone posted before jumping to conclusions)
I PERSONALLY NEVER POSTED WHAT I THINK LOVE IS
illu_66: As has already been mentioned, we have the connectivity nowadays that old style 'letters' could never have achieved..
I agree with Freckles on her posts on other threads. You NEED to chat as well as type; Hear them talk without the ability to delete a comment or to consider how they phrase something in an email.
With a system such as Skype, you can even video chat for free.
Once you feel you trust each other, what's to stop you exchanging video diarys, using your webcam or the movie option on a digicam? Show them your neighbourhood, your pets, your home. I guarantee you will soon see beyond any façade they may have put up.
The dirty kitchen, the unmade bed, the cute book collection and the prints on the walls can tell you so much, hopefully for the better. The telltale photos of the wife, the engine parts on the dining table or the mountain of cases of beer in the pantry will also let you much more than a well composed and considered email.
However, I disagree with Frecks - and this is something we have discussed many a time - I believe that, by communicating using these media you CAN fall in love without that initial face to face. That an interest, a crush CAN grow to have real meaning and become love.
Believe me, I'm a strong believer in body chemistry, that first smile, the look, the smell. But I know you can achieve 'that' position without it... When you DO meet, by then, it's merely an affirmation.
I agree with Freckles on her posts on other threads. You NEED to chat as well as type; Hear them talk without the ability to delete a comment or to consider how they phrase something in an email.
With a system such as Skype, you can even video chat for free.
Once you feel you trust each other, what's to stop you exchanging video diarys, using your webcam or the movie option on a digicam? Show them your neighbourhood, your pets, your home. I guarantee you will soon see beyond any façade they may have put up.
The dirty kitchen, the unmade bed, the cute book collection and the prints on the walls can tell you so much, hopefully for the better. The telltale photos of the wife, the engine parts on the dining table or the mountain of cases of beer in the pantry will also let you much more than a well composed and considered email.
However, I disagree with Frecks - and this is something we have discussed many a time - I believe that, by communicating using these media you CAN fall in love without that initial face to face. That an interest, a crush CAN grow to have real meaning and become love.
Believe me, I'm a strong believer in body chemistry, that first smile, the look, the smell. But I know you can achieve 'that' position without it... When you DO meet, by then, it's merely an affirmation.
Very well put, couldn't have said it better.
NoBratzHowzThat: before you get upset with my post you might want to take the time to REread it. i didn't say that I THINK LOVE IS A FEELING.
i read in many studies that were done on couples that those couples reported THEY said love is a feeling
(when all else fails, slow down and reeeead what someone posted before jumping to conclusions)
I PERSONALLY NEVER POSTED WHAT I THINK LOVE IS
i read in many studies that were done on couples that those couples reported THEY said love is a feeling
(when all else fails, slow down and reeeead what someone posted before jumping to conclusions)
I PERSONALLY NEVER POSTED WHAT I THINK LOVE IS
ok.. so who said anything about getting upset.. by saying I disagree doesnt mean I am upset or have any intentions of..
Also.. posting my opinion (indicated by me saying IMO - ie. In My Opinion) is not 'jumping to conclusions' and I dont think I attacked you or anything like that.. whose-ever view you stated in your post, I disagreed to.. simple, very simple!!
AsleepInNJ: not long at all and full of insight.
thanks Asleep!
jazzmine866: I am just wondering if another people think you can or can not connect to someone that you have not met yet.
I used to think definitely not, but now I´m not so sure.
nicki_love: ok.. so who said anything about getting upset.. by saying I disagree doesnt mean I am upset or have any intentions of..
Also.. posting my opinion (indicated by me saying IMO - ie. In My Opinion) is not 'jumping to conclusions'
Also.. posting my opinion (indicated by me saying IMO - ie. In My Opinion) is not 'jumping to conclusions'
you posted that i said what love is and i didn't
there was some jumping to conclusions as what i posted was completely taken out of context when you announced that i said or as you typed it, "where you said" but i typed "i READ" and i suggested that it might be better to carefully read what a post says before announcing a misstatement toward something i posted.
to quote you, "simple, very simple."
Yep ! I do believe you can, and it's neat-o ! 
jeepers: Yep ! I do believe you can, and it's neat-o !
with the help of web cam of course. 
jazzmine866: I am just wondering if another people think you can or can not connect to someone that you have not met yet.
I think chat, phone calls arethe first step, but you can't see directly to his eyes, feel his heartbeat, the way he holds your hand or kiss you...These issues are important,it has to do with chemistry I think...
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i hear you, but it happens in person too. too many times i'd rather not count..