Is it hard sometimes not to be bitter?....After you have been really hurt? (49)
...i still cry the hurt is so deep .... but i can still love again ...
No you cant, not right now...if your still crying then your crying. After which, there is all the healing/adjusting to go through. Once that is done THEN your ready to love again.
No you cant, not right now...if your still crying then your crying. After which, there is all the healing/adjusting to go through. Once that is done THEN your ready to love again.
venusenvy: ...i still cry the hurt is so deep .... but i can still love again ...No you cant, not right now...if your still crying then your crying. After which, there is all the healing/adjusting to go through. Once that is done THEN your ready to love again.
Damm.... And I thought you were available 
DaMennis: do you still feel bitter for lifes inequities...the truth
and any advice please for those of us who are shocked and still hold hard feelings
and any advice please for those of us who are shocked and still hold hard feelings
if it's relationships then we shouldn't be bitter for long. We have choices on who we date.
DaMennis: do you still feel bitter for lifes inequities...the truth
and any advice please for those of us who are shocked and still hold hard feelings
and any advice please for those of us who are shocked and still hold hard feelings
if it's relationships then we shouldn't be bitter for long. We have choices on who we date.
It depends on a variety of influences I suppose. Some people continue to suffer from circumstance despite their efforts to protect themselves. For those it is difficult not to embrace negativity, however, some remain optimistic despite said circumstances.
Bitterness can be the result of 'shock' as you imply in the OP and all the mindfulness techniques advised may not be able to eliminate the initial 'shock' immediately.
How one deals with the vicissitudes of life depends on the personality and how one reacts to a given situation. Cognitive and behavioural attitudes CAN be altered in time, given practice.
Try to laugh when it's raining on you.
Bitterness can be the result of 'shock' as you imply in the OP and all the mindfulness techniques advised may not be able to eliminate the initial 'shock' immediately.
How one deals with the vicissitudes of life depends on the personality and how one reacts to a given situation. Cognitive and behavioural attitudes CAN be altered in time, given practice.
Try to laugh when it's raining on you.
kcuc0574: Lol, how could she rip yr heart, like the way we ripped the papers
Sorry, do not block you intentionally, just i set age filter of man who will talk with me: my age +3 <= men's age<= my age +18 yrs old.
u revise your age in profile then be not block anymore.
Sorry, do not block you intentionally, just i set age filter of man who will talk with me: my age +3 <= men's age<= my age +18 yrs old.
u revise your age in profile then be not block anymore.
how did you know i lied about my age..i am really much older....
rip my heart out?.... i am too shy to post publically the after-effects and fallout
.....after all this is broken heartsBlues63: It depends on a variety of influences I suppose. Some people continue to suffer from circumstance despite their efforts to protect themselves. For those it is difficult not to embrace negativity, however, some remain optimistic despite said circumstances.
Bitterness can be the result of 'shock' as you imply in the OP and all the mindfulness techniques advised may not be able to eliminate the initial 'shock' immediately.
How one deals with the vicissitudes of life depends on the personality and how one reacts to a given situation. Cognitive and behavioural attitudes CAN be altered in time, given practice.
Try to laugh when it's raining on you.
Bitterness can be the result of 'shock' as you imply in the OP and all the mindfulness techniques advised may not be able to eliminate the initial 'shock' immediately.
How one deals with the vicissitudes of life depends on the personality and how one reacts to a given situation. Cognitive and behavioural attitudes CAN be altered in time, given practice.
Try to laugh when it's raining on you.
hi blue ..nice to see you my friend
DaMennis: how did you know i lied about my age..i am really much older....
rip my heart out?.... i am too shy to post publically the after-effects and fallout
.....after all this is broken hearts
rip my heart out?.... i am too shy to post publically the after-effects and fallout
.....after all this is broken hearts
I am sorry to make u feel sad again, i am joking Damenis, but perhaps my joking seem really foolish.
Actually for broken heart's affair, i also cried for a year or more, now my tears are dry for crying the meaningless love, i just try to live my life with many peaceful days, no headaches, no stress,... and that's all, and hope u too.
DaMennis: do you still feel bitter for lifes inequities...the truth
and any advice please for those of us who are shocked and still hold hard feelings
and any advice please for those of us who are shocked and still hold hard feelings
well when i was young somehow bitterness affected me. but now, no coz i just think that things happen with reasons behind it. be glad coz somehow you were happy while its there and for sure u learned something from that experience and that will nourish and help you grow...
Sometimes it is very hard. But then the joy of having gotten even takes over.
I always look at lost love this way. If I was with a lady that I really cared for and loved and it never worked out, then surely I have to want them to be happy even if it’s not with me.
The hardest pain I think anyone can go through is loss of someone, be it death or in a relationship. Of course death of someone is much worse but in some ways it could be considered easier, because at least you can’t pick up the phone and try and contact them. At least you don’t have to want them back.
Now do not get me wrong and it’s not a comparison because no way you can compare the death of someone as better than anything, so I was using that as a slight analogy, however I am sure many readers will understand my meaning.
Sadly, there is no pill for heartache and it like a slow burn, it hurts a little bit o start with but as time goes on the pain becomes greater, until one day, month or year the pain will be gone and you will love someone else. And so goes the circle of life.
The hardest pain I think anyone can go through is loss of someone, be it death or in a relationship. Of course death of someone is much worse but in some ways it could be considered easier, because at least you can’t pick up the phone and try and contact them. At least you don’t have to want them back.
Now do not get me wrong and it’s not a comparison because no way you can compare the death of someone as better than anything, so I was using that as a slight analogy, however I am sure many readers will understand my meaning.
Sadly, there is no pill for heartache and it like a slow burn, it hurts a little bit o start with but as time goes on the pain becomes greater, until one day, month or year the pain will be gone and you will love someone else. And so goes the circle of life.
For some people it is VERY hard to let go and not to be bitter but life is full of inequities. It doesn't make sense for your own health and wellbeing to hold onto all that negative stuff. It just hurts YOU in the end. I always remind myself that sure, sometimes life is tough, but there is always someone worse off than you - it helps to put my scenario back into perspective. Unfortunately, more ofen than not, true perspective is usually only in hindsight!!! Just work on healing yourself by taking some responsibility for whatever happened, learning whatever life lesson you can, and then placing it firmly where it belongs - in the past. My mantra: Never regret yesterday, for life is in me today and I make my own tomorrow. Take baby steps.... and good luck!
kcuc0574: I am sorry to make u feel sad again, i am joking Damenis, but perhaps my joking seem really foolish.
Actually for broken heart's affair, i also cried for a year or more, now my tears are dry for crying the meaningless love, i just try to live my life with many peaceful days, no headaches, no stress,... and that's all, and hope u too.
Actually for broken heart's affair, i also cried for a year or more, now my tears are dry for crying the meaningless love, i just try to live my life with many peaceful days, no headaches, no stress,... and that's all, and hope u too.
thanks KCUC
i really appreciate your post..
good luck with your american love
... i will be watching to see how it works out
simply_anne: well when i was young somehow bitterness affected me. but now, no coz i just think that things happen with reasons behind it. be glad coz somehow you were happy while its there and for sure u learned something from that experience and that will nourish and help you grow...
Nice, make the most of the moment 
Yes, its difficult. But I would rise above it, otherwise someone who has already hurt you now has the power to invoke prolonged bitterness and resentment. Why give them the satisfaction of negatively influencing you further?
The best poke in the eye would be to go on to have a happy and rewarding life...
Good luck!
The best poke in the eye would be to go on to have a happy and rewarding life...
Good luck!
kcuc0574: yes, we will extremely feel life bitter and unfair after having been really hurted, especially when your mood is so sad and lonely, u will difinitely cry out many hours so that tomorrow's morning when waking up, u cant open your eyes as they are considerably swell perhaps u will think why we become too stupid for making our face in that ugly shape.
But pls trust me, the sadness will just last for one or two days, or somedays, u will forget very soon, spending your time in work, with friends, with family,...with website, u may find another attractive face for temporary talking to less the sorrow, then time pass slowly, you forget all, good luck
But pls trust me, the sadness will just last for one or two days, or somedays, u will forget very soon, spending your time in work, with friends, with family,...with website, u may find another attractive face for temporary talking to less the sorrow, then time pass slowly, you forget all, good luck
I so understand your above comments, it's like your heart has been ripped out, well thats how I felt and still do, it's very hard when strong feelings and that emotional connection is there.
Well that's how I felt, it's a slow process for me.
Thanks for reading and listening.
xxDandelionxx: Yes, its difficult. But I would rise above it, otherwise someone who has already hurt you now has the power to invoke prolonged bitterness and resentment. Why give them the satisfaction of negatively influencing you further?
The best poke in the eye would be to go on to have a happy and rewarding life...
Good luck!
The best poke in the eye would be to go on to have a happy and rewarding life...
Good luck!
thank you so much you dandy you
greeneyes65: I so understand your above comments, it's like your heart has been ripped out, well thats how I felt and still do, it's very hard when strong feelings and that emotional connection is there.
Well that's how I felt, it's a slow process for me.
Thanks for reading and listening.
Well that's how I felt, it's a slow process for me.
Thanks for reading and listening.
Thanks for the courage of honesty... pretty green eyes... thanks for the post
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its been over a year ......A DAY OR TWO?.... but i was with her almost 30 years.... that may be the problem ...i still cry the hurt is so deep .... but i can still love again ...
but i just keep letting go and i resolved to keep loving and not hating....and find someone new to care for and be with
my god ....she really ripped my heart out and even now is trying hard to distroy me financially buy trying to sieze my half of the assets..(unsucessfully i might add)...she knows how to take ...thats for sure...hahahahaejejeje
thanks for your sweet post
Lol, how could she rip yr heart, like the way we ripped the papers
Sorry, do not block you intentionally, just i set age filter of man who will talk with me: my age +3 <= men's age<= my age +18 yrs old.
u revise your age in profile then be not block anymore.