People don't care about you, and the reasons are? (20)
mychelle: Have you been in this predicament before? How did you deal with it?
I have been in this situation many times, probably more than I needed to.
if people would be honest with themselves, and stop the " playing games" , the world would be a better place for it. What do you think?
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People have busy lives, so if I don't hear from them regularly, I don't tend to think it's because they don't care about me.
As for new people I meet, it's a learning process, sometimes you just don't turn their crank enough, and get put on the back burner.
No worries, life goes on.
As for new people I meet, it's a learning process, sometimes you just don't turn their crank enough, and get put on the back burner.
No worries, life goes on.
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kidatheart: People have busy lives, so if I don't hear from them regularly, I don't tend to think it's because they don't care about me.
As for new people I meet, it's a learning process, sometimes you just don't turn their crank enough, and get put on the back burner.
No worries, life goes on.
As for new people I meet, it's a learning process, sometimes you just don't turn their crank enough, and get put on the back burner.
No worries, life goes on.
People have busy life, it's true, but if they are busy with other people all the while lying to you, that's not cool.
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mychelle: People have busy life, it's true, but if they are busy with other people all the while lying to you, that's not cool.
I don't understand why someone would bother to lie. Better off to say if you're busy, not interested, or whatever. Saves a lot of grief, hurt and explaining later.
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kidatheart: I don't understand why someone would bother to lie. Better off to say if you're busy, not interested, or whatever. Saves a lot of grief, hurt and explaining later.
We may think to just to say what is on our minds, but others are too busy thinking with so many others on their mind.
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I didn't vote, since I do not feel it is accurate to say that NON ONE cares about 'us'.
Some here will have 100 people who really care for them, others will have just one or two, but rest assured, there will barely be a person here who has no one that cares about them.
Also, care is a two way street, so the person who complains most about perceived absence of 'care', from others, perhaps has to ask about their own level of care, for others, yes?
Our problem is expectation.
We 'expect' people to care, or be a certain way, and when their actual response falls short of that, we become dissapointed.
It is this sense of expectation or entitlement that is the source of the angst.
Some here will have 100 people who really care for them, others will have just one or two, but rest assured, there will barely be a person here who has no one that cares about them.
Also, care is a two way street, so the person who complains most about perceived absence of 'care', from others, perhaps has to ask about their own level of care, for others, yes?
Our problem is expectation.
We 'expect' people to care, or be a certain way, and when their actual response falls short of that, we become dissapointed.
It is this sense of expectation or entitlement that is the source of the angst.
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MrInteresting: I didn't vote, since I do not feel it is accurate to say that NON ONE cares about 'us'.
Some here will have 100 people who really care for them, others will have just one or two, but rest assured, there will barely be a person here who has no one that cares about them.
Also, care is a two way street, so the person who complains most about perceived absence of 'care', from others, perhaps has to ask about their own level of care, for others, yes?
Our problem is expectation.
We 'expect' people to care, or be a certain way, and when their actual response falls short of that, we become dissapointed.
It is this sense of expectation or entitlement that is the source of the angst.
Some here will have 100 people who really care for them, others will have just one or two, but rest assured, there will barely be a person here who has no one that cares about them.
Also, care is a two way street, so the person who complains most about perceived absence of 'care', from others, perhaps has to ask about their own level of care, for others, yes?
Our problem is expectation.
We 'expect' people to care, or be a certain way, and when their actual response falls short of that, we become dissapointed.
It is this sense of expectation or entitlement that is the source of the angst.
The person who complains about perceived absence of care from others, does have a great level of care for others, so to be a complainant doesn't necessarily mean one lacks cere, could be quite the opposite.
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mychelle: The person who complains about perceived absence of care from others, does have a great level of care for others, so to be a complainant doesn't necessarily mean one lacks cere, could be quite the opposite.
Of course.
That said, I have met a lot of people who *claim* that they are alone, no one cares about them, and, sometimes, you have to watch, sometimes it is a trick, so that you feel sorry for them, and give them emotional currency. Later down the road, you find that the person was no quite as emotionally isolated as they made out, and that you have been manipulated.
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Hi Mychelle, nice to meet you.
I think all of the above with exceptions, life is lived in the gray areas. I wish caring, in general, was the standard by which all hunans lived by, but pesky reality keeps stealing the life from my wish and crushing it into dust. The fact is, as you are very aware, that only thing that can make my wish come true is a universal paradigm shift in the minds and souls of the human race.
If to live means to have hope, however, then it isn’t unreasonable for me to think that one-day, maybe before I pass, I will indeed see such a shift occur and relish in its light. Let us both have hope that one day we may see it together. Until then, do your best to change yourself into that which you desire from others, as will I. It’s just a thought.
I think all of the above with exceptions, life is lived in the gray areas. I wish caring, in general, was the standard by which all hunans lived by, but pesky reality keeps stealing the life from my wish and crushing it into dust. The fact is, as you are very aware, that only thing that can make my wish come true is a universal paradigm shift in the minds and souls of the human race.
If to live means to have hope, however, then it isn’t unreasonable for me to think that one-day, maybe before I pass, I will indeed see such a shift occur and relish in its light. Let us both have hope that one day we may see it together. Until then, do your best to change yourself into that which you desire from others, as will I. It’s just a thought.
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mychelle: I have been in this situation many times, probably more than I needed to.
if people would be honest with themselves, and stop the " playing games" , the world would be a better place for it. What do you think?
the fact is that a lot of person did not choose athletics but they choose to run a round persons heart........when you need love held on a hand and touch love .....I felt nothing.....alot of person are not really searching or trying to find that special some one/its just opportunity.......in return the good suffer for the badif people would be honest with themselves, and stop the " playing games" , the world would be a better place for it. What do you think?
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mark_bolton: the fact is that a lot of person did not choose athletics but they choose to run a round persons heart........when you need love held on a hand and touch love .....I felt nothing.....alot of person are not really searching or trying to find that special some one/its just opportunity.......in return the good suffer for the bad
That's an interesting one...person did not chose athlethics but run around a person;s heart
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maybe someday
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gordy22222: maybe someday
I am not saying anything anymore.
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Hi L. 
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One thing I have learned - people never do things for the same reasons you do, necessarily. It is silly to try to come up with reasons, and that doesn't really matter.
If they are not responding back to you, find new contacts.
If they talk badly about you, find new contacts.
The real question is, if you don't like their behaviour, find people whose behaviour suits you.
Or, you could simply ASK them why, if you really want to know.
But don't assume any reason for their behaviour. It's kind of funny, whatever reason you happen to think of, never seems to be the one anyway.
Oh, and consider this: "Is there anything about ME that makes people avoid me?" If everyone you interact with seems to treat you the same way, guess what - the common denominator is YOU! It could simply be your belief in what you do or do not deserve that is causing you to attract certain kinds of people to you.
I am speaking from personal experience, by the way.
I had to ask questions like:
Am I a good listener? Am I respectful? Am I demanding? Am I treating my friends in a way that would make them want to spend more time with me? Am I doing the choosing of friends, or am I letting others choose me, and just taking what I can get? Am I always looking at what I get from others without looking at what I can give? etc etc
If they are not responding back to you, find new contacts.
If they talk badly about you, find new contacts.
The real question is, if you don't like their behaviour, find people whose behaviour suits you.
Or, you could simply ASK them why, if you really want to know.
But don't assume any reason for their behaviour. It's kind of funny, whatever reason you happen to think of, never seems to be the one anyway.
Oh, and consider this: "Is there anything about ME that makes people avoid me?" If everyone you interact with seems to treat you the same way, guess what - the common denominator is YOU! It could simply be your belief in what you do or do not deserve that is causing you to attract certain kinds of people to you.
I am speaking from personal experience, by the way.
I had to ask questions like:
Am I a good listener? Am I respectful? Am I demanding? Am I treating my friends in a way that would make them want to spend more time with me? Am I doing the choosing of friends, or am I letting others choose me, and just taking what I can get? Am I always looking at what I get from others without looking at what I can give? etc etc
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murny:
If they are not responding back to you, find new contacts.
If they talk badly about you, find new contacts.
If they are not responding back to you, find new contacts.
If they talk badly about you, find new contacts.
Spot on.
You are sort of the sum total of those that you surround yourself with. Therefore, if you feel they are unreliable, don't care, or don't give enough in return, then cut ties, and find a new circle. It can take a bit of work, but with a positive outlook and some effort, it can be done.
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You sound a wee bit needy/high maintance to me 
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Today, everything is busy. Take the time and watch people. Rushing here and there, and all this technology has made us busier not less busy.
Just because some one has not contacted you does not mean, they are not thinking about you. (That is speaking about good friends and family members)
People today take things fore granted and when busy forget to slow down and take a moment to talk (in person not in a chat). Many have jobs, or more than one job, have families and their kids are in sports and other activities. Ever notice many kids are in so many activities, they have no idea how to slow down.
JMO I would prefer some one contact me, and give me the time to talk or sit and have a coffee/tea. If they are just contacting me via email (with jokes) never call or visit in person, I might wonder the same thing Mychelle asked about.
Just because some one has not contacted you does not mean, they are not thinking about you. (That is speaking about good friends and family members)
People today take things fore granted and when busy forget to slow down and take a moment to talk (in person not in a chat). Many have jobs, or more than one job, have families and their kids are in sports and other activities. Ever notice many kids are in so many activities, they have no idea how to slow down.
JMO I would prefer some one contact me, and give me the time to talk or sit and have a coffee/tea. If they are just contacting me via email (with jokes) never call or visit in person, I might wonder the same thing Mychelle asked about.
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mychelle: Have you been in this predicament before? How did you deal with it?
I think we have too many choices in this world, which is why everyone's head is on a swivel, always looking for the next best thing. And greed is our killer. We want, we want, we want - we want so much that we forget to be grateful and to enjoy what we have. We need to go back to simplicity. Be happy with yourself and you will attract good people and dismiss the bad ones without any further worries.------ This poll is Archived ------
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